Stanek weekend Q: Has society done a disservice to Millennial Moms?

millennial-momsSorry, a rather lengthy excerpt from a fascinating post at, but it’s all so good!

Understanding the domestic arts as, well, art, has almost totally disappeared from our cultural landscape. Technology (and the corresponding rise in collective wealth that allows most of the US to own it) has rendered many time-honored skills – traditionally passed from mother to daughter – superfluous.

Sewing is one of them. Hand-washing clothes and hanging them on a line to dry is another. Grinding our own wheat, making our own bread, making our own stock, making our own everything was largely shifted from the realm of the necessary to the realm of the optional by the late 50′s.

Suddenly, skills that were highly prized and highly necessary for women to have – skills that required years of practice to master – could suddenly be accomplished in a factory in one-tenth the time and purchased at a store at absurdly low costs. What’s more, the culture hailed these advancements as superior to the work women used to spend hours doing. Wonderbread was eminently preferable to hand-ground, homemade wheat bread. Making your own food and sewing your own clothes were considered a sign of poverty, not a sign of accomplishment.

As a direct result, the housewives of the 50′s and 60′s, by and large, did not pass these skills on to their daughters. They wanted them to have a better life, to reach the American Dream, to be the women who bought their bread and their clothes, the women advertisers insisted were the feminine ideal….

The daughters of the 50′s housewives made incredible strides to advance women’s access to higher education and professional opportunities. The work they did to promote the dignity of women and their inherent value to the professional and political spheres was extraordinary, and opened up a whole new world for the generations of both women and men that have followed. But like all good things, it came with a price.

That price was the cultural denigration of domesticity. Regardless of the personal mores of our individual families, the broader culture my generation was raised in place little, if any, value on stay-at-home mothers….


I’ve come to understand that the domestic arts really are an art, that it takes skill and virtue and mental acuity to be a good wife and mother. I’ve also come to understand that I’m woefully unprepared for this life that I once thought fit only for those women who couldn’t (or didn’t want to) make something of themselves.

Turns out, it’s a whole lot harder than anyone ever said.

A lot of young mothers are in this situation. They are overwhelmed by a life they couldn’t imagine, much less comprehend, before it hit them like a Mac truck. On top of which, they find themselves struggling to learn basic household skills that they weren’t taught because they have no cultural value (seriously, when was the last time anyone heard of a home ec class?), and facing an unprecedented amount of seemingly life-or-death parenting choices.

Should we learn how to sew or how to cook gluten-free? Should we unschool the kids or socialize them? Should we cosleep or Ferberize? And for the love, what the hell with vaccines?!

These are the questions we’re trying to answer while wiping a bottom, nursing a newborn, and fishing a cheerio out of a toddler’s nostril (and yes, we do all three at once in flagrant disregard for basic human hygiene, because the screaming). Oh, and don’t forget that we’re living in unprecedented isolation, in a time and place where we can’t even send our older children outside to play without getting arrested. Meanwhile, science keeps reminding us that we’d be so much happier if we’d just embrace daycare and go to work.

Your thoughts? Have technological advances coupled with feminism left Millennial moms unskilled in the “domestic arts”?

[HT: Monte Harms; graphics via Patheos]

Pro-life blog buzz 11-21-14

pro-lifeby Susie Allen, host of the blog, Pro-Life in TN, and Kelli

  • American Life League’s Judie Brown exposes Oregon’s “triple X”-rated Oregon Adolescent Sexuality Conference, calling it a “field trip to hell.”
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Pro-life vid: Students pledge support for pregnant classmates

by Hans Johnson

When a college student learns she is pregnant, she might naturally feel boxed in, and ask herself: “What can I do?” The Loyola Students for Life say there are many avenues to explore for the benefit of both mother and child –  and they pledge their support.

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[HT: Online For Life]

Pro-choicer happy to play Peter Pan ten days after abortion

by Carder

Emma AyresI was only able to have this abortion because a series of privileges aligned to grant me access to my right…

9. I wasn’t subjected to the abusive requirement of looking at the ultrasound before the procedure. I was given a choice. I said no.

10. I was able to tell my professors and director: “I. Had. An. Abortion. This is a difficult personal/emotional time right now,” and they supported me through it.

11. I found myself in the Rand Theater, flying over an audience, playing Peter Pan, 10 days later.

~ University of Massachusetts student Emma Ayres (pictured) describing eleven reasons why she was privileged to be granted abortion access, The Massachusetts Daily Collegian via Socialist Worker, November 20

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Pro-life vid of day: Group suggests national strike to protest abortion

by Hans Johnson

Protest ABQ is calling for pro-lifers to withdraw from work and school for the next anniversary of Roe v. Wade, as well as the following day. Founder Fr. Stephen Imbarrato says:

… [L]et January 22, 2015, be the start of the national strike which shuts the country down so our governments and people understand the urgency of ending legalized pre-born child-killing in our country!

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What are your thoughts on striking to protest abortion?

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Black Friday Pro-Life Drop Card Project


Abolish Human Abortion is promoting a great idea, which I’m dubbing the Black Friday Pro-Life Drop Card Project:

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Feminist: Please, bro-choicers, talk about how great abortion is!

brochoiceby Kelli

The thing of it is, gentlemen: You do have a story to tell. You didn’t make the final decision, but we know that in the overwhelming majority of cases, you were intimately involved in the conversations that led up to it.

You were most likely the one who drove her to the clinic, and drove her home again. And the choice not to become a father, right at that particular moment, has had a major impact on every day of your life and every major decision you’ve made ever since.

Think about it. How would your life be different today if she hadn’t chosen abortion? Would you be co-parenting with a woman you knew wasn’t right for you? Or fathering more kids than your time and resources responsibly allow?

Are there educational opportunities you would have had to skip, reducing your earnings for the rest of your life? Or career breaks that wouldn’t have happened if you’d been encumbered with a kid (or another kid)?

Your life is the way it is right now because your female partner was able to make that choice when she needed to. If that hadn’t been possible, you’d be having a very different day today….

We need you in this conversation again, for a lot of reasons.

~ Sara Robinson, AlterNet, November 18

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Pro-life vid of the day: The Drop Box

5-babies-abandoned-in-the-box-in-one-day-this-April-225x300by Kelli

Last January, we featured the story of Pastor Lee Jong-Rak in Seoul, South Korea, who has made it his mission in life to save children who would otherwise be abandoned to die on the streets.

Natalie Broomfield at Bound4Life writes:

The story of this man and his baby box is reaching the entire world with its own 72-minute documentary called The Drop Box by a young 22 year-old, Brian Ivie. The documentary won the “Best of Festival” Jubilee Award and “The Best Sanctity of Life” film award at the 8th annual San Antonio Independent Christian Film Festival in February 2013.

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Gym kicks out member over “offensive” pro-life t-shirt

Planet Fitnessby Carder

She told me, ‘I am very sorry. We have someone who is not happy with your shirt. Someone is offended by your shirt.’

I said, ‘You know, I wear them all the time.’ She said, ‘You’ll have to leave,’ and I left.

~ Pro-life advocate Mike Amoroso describing how he was told to leave Planet Fitness gym because his pro-life t-shirt was considered to be offensive, WFTV via The Statesman, November 18

The Personhood split, Part I: Structure

988-BreakupOn June 14, 2014, came the news:

Georgia Right to Life President Daniel Becker today announced the formation of a new national pro-life organization, the National Personhood Alliance, a confederation of faith-based, pro-life organizations and leaders who believe pursuing Personhood is essential to protecting all innocent human beings in the 21st century.

Reading that I became confused, because last I knew Becker was working for Personhood USA, a group that sounded an awful lot like this new group.

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Who Is Jill Stanek?

Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.

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PEOPLE/TIME Party On The Eve Of The White House Correspondents' DinnerThe Texas Freedom Network was founded by Ann Richards’ daughter Cecile, who is today the Planned Parenthood national president. This is the caliber of people who are opposing Texas traditions and American history.

~ Texas Eagle Forum’s Cathie Adams, on opposition to verbiage proposed in new Texas textbooks,, November 21

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