Evan Marc Katz, author of two books, I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book – A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating, and Why You’re Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad, wrote a Yahoo article, “10 Classic Online Dating Mistakes That Women Make.” He listed this as #10:
Mistake #10: Thinking That Your Great Date Actually Meant Something
Have you ever had a man say how much he likes you, how sexy you are, and how he’s serious about finding a long-term relationship? Ever have an amazing date where the chemistry was great, the conversation flowed, and you hooked up with him afterwards.
Have you ever had a man do all of these things and then NOT call?
No, you’re not crazy or delusional….
Your mistake is thinking that what a man says on a date actually means something. It doesn’t. It means he’s being in the moment. So don’t put too much weight on a great date. The only way you can tell how a man REALLY feels about you is by how quickly he follows up for another date.
Feminists to the Rescue took issue with that:
In short, ladies, your mistake is in expecting men to follow up on their word. Your mistake is to expect more out of men than what they normally give you as a second-class citizen. That’s your mistake, not theirs….
Oi. Hate catchy little lists about what’s so wrong with women that they can’t get a wonderful man to date them. Really hate them.
I can’t believe but can that Katz declared men innocent of exploiting women for sex as simply “being in the moment,” when thousands of years of the same sad story prove there’s usually premeditation involved. He even quoted the classic come-on lines.
And while Feminists caught Katz’s sexism (dare I say, misogyny?), she missed the real mistake women make here that keeps them from getting a “wonderful man.” Did you catch it?