Commenter Shelley responded with what I consider one of the cruelest liberal feminist myths, “[C]hoosing to have an abortion does not cause adverse mental health issues.” To which I responded, “How awful of you to deny a woman the right to grieve her abortion.”
Enter the emotional fallout from miscarriage, which feminists don’t like to talk about, because it is problematic. If mothers can suffer emotionally after miscarriages of wanted babies, why can’t mothers suffer emotionally after abortions of babies they say they would have wanted under different circumstances – and even unwanted – babies? And when pregnant again, do liberal feminists really believe psychological conflict is nonexistent, as if the abortion never happened?
This leads to singer Mariah Carey and singer husband Nick Cannon’s revelation that they suffered terribly after miscarrying a baby 2 years ago, this while making the happy announcement she is pregnant again. From Access Hollywood, October 28:
Mariah and Nick spoke candidly about… a terrifying miscarriage they experienced not quite two years ago. Mariah and Nick revealed they were getting ready to tell their friends and family the good news that they were expecting over the holidays back at that time, when they found out she was no longer pregnant.
“It kind of shook us both and took us into a place that was really dark and difficult,” Mariah told Billy about the devastating miscarriage. “When that happened… I wasn’t able to even talk to anybody about it. That was not easy.”
After the miscarriage, Nick said that the experience has made them stronger as a couple and he admires Mariah’s strength.
“It definitely brought us closer together,” Nick told Billy. “It strengthened our relationship so much… She handled it so well.”…
“Literally the day we were supposed to travel to Aspen, we had an ultrasound with the OB/GYN and unfortunately that was the time where he said, ‘I’m sorry, but this, you know, the pregnancy is unsuccessful,’ and that moment for me, even though it was emotional for both of us, that’s when I really saw the strength in this woman right here,” Nick recalled. “To see, literally, not only did she handle it so well… and then to get on a plane and have to spend Christmas with friends and family?”
“We had really to absorb this and take it in,” Mariah said.
“And that’s what I said, like her strength would literally be during the day so festive and smiling, obviously for cameras, and spending time with everyone and, you know, literally, that night crying herself to sleep,” Nick continued.
Billy also asked Mariah about the stress she was under after enduring so much speculation about a possible pregnancy.
“I wonder after losing the first child, was there a part of you – because of the media pressure – that felt like, ‘Can I do this?’’… that you had to get pregnant or else you would have failed in some way?” Billy asked.
“I mean obviously, that would be someone’s… you would imagine that that would enter someone’s mind,” Mariah explained. “When that happened and I wasn’t able to even talk to anybody about it, that was not OK. That was not easy….”
[The photos of a 10-wk-old miscarried baby, posted on flickr with commentary at LiveAction.org, were taken by OB/GYN med student Dr. Suparna Sinha in India on November 27, 2008, using a Nikon CoolpixS210.]