Abortion clinic escort frustrated with pro-life protestors
It is so hard for me to not engage. It is so hard not to get angry. It is so hard not to scream the truth at the antis.
When an escort does have a flare-up of anger, other escorts try to de-escalate and give the escort time to dissipate their anger. In my case, the anger does not entirely go away until I spend a few days away from the clinic. It can be placed on simmer, but I carry it with me on the sidewalk. It is ready to boil over at any time…
What coping mechanism do you use when you are angry at antis?
~ Abortion clinic escort Servalbear describing frustration with pro-life protestors, Every Saturday Morning, March 17
Mar.21, 2012 6:00 am |
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Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
oh well what do you expect from these people? ive never met a friendly one yet. many are trying to deal with abortion guilt anyway.
There is a reason for their anger and it has nothing to do with “antis.”
Own your own feelings proaborts.
Anyone who is ready to “boil over at any time” does not sound healthy.
I’m much more concerned about those who have no guilt at all, whose anger is uncomplicated by such things. Sin is more insidious than just sin>guilt>anger. What happens when such anger is the product of righteous indignation? Of exasperation that anti-choice sidewalk counselors are such evil people? Does that sound backwards, or inverted? It should. That’s what sin does. It can transform us.
C.S. Lewis, I think, once spoke of the Fall thus: “A new creature, not created by God, sinned itself into existence.” Yes, we’re still capable of guilt-awareness — thank God. But we’re also capable of heroic defiance of virtue to the point that guilt’s voice is silenced.
The conversion of Saul of Tarsus was not a consequence of coming to terms with some inner, latent guilt regarding his actions against Christians. His conversion apparently required something as simple as being informed by God in a personal way that what he was doing was wrong. Far from being capable of guilt for his actions, he would later recount that he took great pride in them and thought his work was God-honoring. He required serious, therapeutically rational help understanding the most rudimentary facts. And apparently he needed a few days to ponder that his entire outlook had been upside down.
Yes, some people suffer from guilt. But the worse-off folk suffer from something far, far worse — no guilt at all. Perhaps this in part explain’s Paul’s high gratitude — he realized how terrible his fate had been, and thus the distance God’s salvation had transported him.
I hope we frustrate the HELL out of escorts.
Gee..and I thought we prolifers were the “intolerant” ones…. :-)
…have to agree with Carla, anybody that ready to explode is not healthy…then again, the pro-aborts are not about health, right?
I stopped my anger towards these deathscorts a long time ago and have included them in my prayers.
What coping mechanism do you use when you are angry at antis?
How about repentance, mercy, forgiveness, grace…
How about practice choice and tolerance???
I’m curious what “truth” they want to scream at us.
This would be my knee-jerk response:
http://goo.gl/47YjT
I was thinking the same thing, Sydney…WHAT “truth”?
LOL, Navi! ;)
Hmmm..you’re full of anger and hatred against people who AREN’T full of anger and hatred (pro-life prayer warriors) ?
Yes…surrounding yourself with death and destruction on a daily basis will do that to you. You destroy YOURSELF from within.
What coping mechanism do you use when you are angry at antis?
Quit. Plain and simple. Quit what you’re doing and you’ll recognize a great new coping mechanism called peace.
In my case, the anger does not entirely go away until I spend a few days away from the clinic. It can be placed on simmer, but I carry it with me on the sidewalk. It is ready to boil over at any time…
God doesn’t give us more than we can handle, but we must trust He will carry us through the difficult times. Maybe God is giving this escort a message – that it’s time to get out of the death-by-abortion business and find a more fulfilling, life-affirming “cause”.
*Praying for them.*
i agree Janet…..its taxing at times to be at that clinic because i have to realize that these are people who would probably be polite in any other given setting. like the grocery store or work. their attacks can cross trigger anger in me too ( im only human ) but God bless my friends who never miss!
oops above post should say cross the line……and to add ~ we dont hate these women going in. many are misguided and they walk by crying. some women are with ” silent no more” so they have been there and most of us were pro choice at one time or another. sometimes the women ( or the men bringing them) can get really nasty! one older woman walked by flipping the bird cursing “F*** you.” over and over and grabbed her crotch a few times gesturing a sex act. its people like her who can make a day difficult. we also figure not her first abortion as she acted like she could care less about the graphic signs. we pray just the same.
ive never really been told to BLANK off as many times in one day as i have while standing in front of an abortion clinic.
Demoralizing the enemy is a good tactic and by the looks of things, it’s working. Anti-lifers don’t like when WE use war metaphors, but this IS a war we are fighting. Our weapons are peaceful, such as prayer, free speech, changing laws, but anti-lifers should make no mistake. War was declared on women and children, it was declared by the abortion industry in order to make money.
I’m glad that the enemy is demoralized, but also suprised at the past year or so and how un-sportsmanlike they are. They’ve had the media on their side, elected officials on their side, etc. for 40 years. Can’t take a little heat after being on top all that time, really? No wonder abortionists go after the smallest and weakest among us. They’re cowards.
I do pray regularly for abortion advocates and deathscorts. I also pray for God to give me the peace of mind to be patient and understanding. Like one of the comments above, many of us were pro-choice at one time.
“There seems to be only so much I can absorb of the hate directed towards clients, companions and escorts; lies told in order to coerce; physical blocking and aggression; praying; and the signs.”
There’s their favorite word again: hate. So truly unfortunate that they are entirely unable or unwilling to see the difference between disagreement and hate, let alone the difference between helping save lives and abandoning them to today’s fears.
We do not use lies; on the contrary, we use very uncomfortable truths for all parties involved. Note: that’s ALL parties, not just the escorts who are uncomfortable; most pro-lifers that I know don’t enjoy being that close to a house of death, but persist out of love for mother, father, and child.
Strictly speaking, physical blocking and aggression would be a valid claim if it happened as they describe it, but as we’ve seen, being on the same side of the street counts for them, so I give no credence to those complaints.
Like the general message, the signs speak only truth, especially those with graphic images of aborted children. Granted, there have been some less than charitable ones over the years, but the pro-life movement has largely matured in that respect, using only signs that are either objectively true (eg: graphic images) or simple compassion (eg: God still loves you AND your child). If you have a problem with that, take it up with Him.
… and praying? Seriously, they have a problem with people praying? Here’s an idea for all escorts: pray right back and watch what happens over the following weeks. See if you can pray lovingly FOR us, as we do for you, and not AT us. Just don’t give up when it becomes difficult.
I must say, though, that it is indeed very encouraging to be reminded that simply by being a prayerful presence, we become so great a threat to pro-aborts that they find it difficult to maintain their composure.
<engage zealot mode>
Onwards!
For the salvation of the lives of all children, all mothers, and all fathers!
For the soul of our society!
For the end of abortion and the entire culture of death!
For the glory of God!
Onwards!
right ninek….like me. i took depo provera for 14 years. i used to walk by pro lifers on my way in for my shots. i was never rude but i just didnt see it their way. my consequences for all that free love and sex were awful. i finally began to research what the depo was doing to me and i realized the lie id bought for 14 years. a pastor who stands with us gave his step daughter his blessing for her abortion years ago. SNM is growing! many of the men who stand with us paid for a girlfriends abortion. whats wrong with using your mistakes to help someone else?
Maestro,
Amen!
Your challenge to escorts to turn the tables and pray for us is brilliant!
just like when id met a man in the hospital with end stage emphysema he was a younger guy and he was so short of breath he had to rest after walking a few feet. he asked me one day “do you smoke nurse?” i went “yeeeeah” (2 packs a day) an4 he just said ” look at what smoking did to me. dont let it happen to you.” that was back in 2000 and i have since quit.
Janetforlife,
If God never gave me more than I could handle I would never turn to Him. :)
Life is hard. God is good.
Glad you quit smoking, H! It reminds me, years ago I was sitting like a bump on chair during a really great band’s performance. My friend was on crutches, with a prognosis of no ability to walk on her own again ever, and said to me, “Why aren’t you dancing? Please, go dance, dance for me because I can’t.” So I did, and I kept it up for a few years, despite having two left feet and no rhythm, lol! I’m so happy to say that my friend experienced a healing and now walks without aid. Me? I still have no rhythm. LOL!
Glad you quit smoking too, heather! My mother smoked for (approximately) 45 years. She quit 2 or 3 times. She finally took Chantix to quit for good. She had quit for 5 weeks….she died suddenly and unexpectedly of an upper respiratory virus that was going around. She (and WE) hardly had time to celebrate her “new freedom”. She died in the ambulance on the way to the hospital. I never got to tell her good-bye.
I hope EVERYONE who smokes will stop! If not for YOU..for the ones who will be left behind if you DON’T.
Sorry to derail the thread.
Thank you, Lady Janet. Indeed, every now and then, I’m able to get out of God’s way and He can write something really great.
Always happy to be of service.
Ninek, there’s a word for non-rhythmic dancing: freestyle … or interpretive. Take your pick. Just tell everyone you’re more expressive in your dancing than most other people. My favorite memory of dancing was with an aunt of mine to “You Are So Beautiful To Me” (or whatever that song is called). It quickly morphed into a fake ballet/opera performance, much to the amusement of all around. 8D
Why are they so angry anyway?
I mean we are told time and time again that “prochoicers” are for ALL choices!! So they should be just as thrilled when someone comes to abort their baby as they are when someone leaves with the sidewalk counselor to go get a free ultrasound at the CPC next door.
eyeroll
Carla,
That’s why they call themselves “Pro-CHOICE”, and not “Pro-CHOICES”…they’re only for ONE…abortion.
ive gone to sites where women seem to think pro lifers are there to promote shame but the hidden message in their posts ( if they havent healed ) is that the shame is already THERE. i cant make you feel ashamed but i can tell you that all of those depo shots never made me feel EMPOWERED. i met a lot of nice men who i wanted to marry. i was used up and abused. you cant send a double signal. birth control is in place for men who ” just arent that into you” and sure the sex could be fun and exciting at the time but usually those men went on to marry a woman who had more respect for herself. it caused me a lot of heartache. and many of my bed partners had been with post abortive women. im not blaming men. i was just saying that all of us were good for sex without children and we all suffered the same fate ~ dumped!
There will always be people who are pro-life and “anti”-death. Deal with it.
Maestro,
Please come around more. Your comments are often - well, masterful! :)
Thank you muchly for the high praise, Master Hans! I try. :-)
As for coming around more often … most of the discussions on this site take place while I’m at work, and thus any comments I could make would largely be a repetition of what others have already pointed out, often quite eloquently. The refusal of the pro-aborts on this site to accept the truth evident before and around them says nothing of the quality of our responses, but rather serves to highlight the disjointedness of their own views and the disconnect with reality that they insist on perpetuating. As experience has shown, in the face of defiance so fueled, methodical logic, common sense, and simple human compassion are seldom able to achieve their natural ends; we often find ourselves hoping to find that “gotcha” that opens their eyes to the trap into which they have allowed (or possibly demanded?) themselves to be thrown.
In this case, the primary purpose of our attempts to reach them becomes the communication of the truth to everyone else who reads the exchange. To be honest, having seen the ability of the others on this site to illustrate plain and simple truths, especially in the face of illogical and misdirected attacks on themselves, I find that I seldom have anything particularly useful to add to the conversation. Our points are made, our arguments and their foundations are detailed, objections are exposed as arbitrarily-assigned values to suit personal preferences, and in the end, the truth is laid out clearly for all who would see.
For the most part, you don’t need my help in achieving that. :-)
Well then, we’ll just have to carry on repeating ourselves in the hope that a glimmer of light will reach someone, sometime. :)
Indeed we shall, Master Hans, for it is ultimately worth the effort to show the truth to all people, even those who immensely dislike us. Let us never forget that within the web of lies with which pro-aborts surround themselves, there is still a person who deserves to live free of deceit.
<engage zealot mode>
Onwards!
For the illumination of all darkness!
For the consolation of all despair!
For the very truth by which we live and hope others may as well!
For the glory of God!
Onwards!
Life is hard. God is good.
Amen, Carla!
Bravo, Maestro!
Pamela
Proabortion. :)
The clinic should use a very easy and legal tactic.
Spread organic (manure) fertilizer on their property. I guarantee even the antiabortion protesters will not be able to stand on the public sidewalk for very long.
Another one is to have two guys or two women kissing in front of them. It will drive the antiabortion protesters berserk.
Joe,
I’m actually not opposed to homosexuals. Also, I grew up across the road from a cow pasture. I don’t think I’d have a problem with either. I’d still be out front, explaining how my daughter is alive today because I didn’t abort her 9 years ago, and none of those women going in have to kill their children, either, even though it might seem insurmountable right now-just as it did to me back then.
Joe says: Spread organic (manure) fertilizer on their property. I guarantee even the antiabortion protesters will not be able to stand on the public sidewalk for very long.
It’s been done. Didn’t work.
http://40daysforlife.com/blog/?p=2994
Joe says: Another one is to have two guys or two women kissing in front of them. It will drive the antiabortion protesters berserk.
Ooh, this one is foolproof! Because we can’t pray with our eyes closed! Oh, wait…
Joe,
the first tactic might drive away the “customers”, too. And I doubt the “escorts” would last 10 seconds out there.
As for the second one, don’t count on it, sweetie. There are pro-lifers who are gay and/or support gay rights. Those who don’t support gay rights probably wouldn’t have the reaction you would want. Of course, you would have realized that if you had ever bothered to talk to actual pro-lifers (instead of letting PP and NARAL do your thinking for you).
Joe,
Sigh.
Dude, really?? the best you got?
Many of us on this board are MOTHERS. We can take anything you weasels dish out.
@Joe: Aside from all that has already been pointed out, somehow I don’t think the PR from an abortion mill covering itself in poo would play very well. Aside from driving their target customers away–certainly much more effectively than it would the pro-lifers–there’s the minor issue of the entire pro-life blogosphere issuing headlines like “Anywheresville Clinic’s Outside Now Matches Interior” and laughing our collective selves silly.
…Actually, I’m kind of disappointed I haven’t seen them already. Come on, guys. That’s comedy gold right there. :P
Joe: Heh. I’m a farm boy myself. This may sound crass, but any woman who’s given birth has more in common with us farm boys than urban yokels who can’t handle the ick factor of something as mundane as manure, for crying out loud. Why would pro-lifers be deterred by something they probably spread on their own gardens? As for homosexuals kissing in front of abortion mills — bring it on. Pro-lifers won’t be deterred but the public will be freaked out by the way abortion supporters wed utterly irrelevant politics like some grand cluster-fark. Turn it into Burning Man in the ‘burbs, for all Pro-lifers care.
Good grief. Joe, who cares what clinic supporters do by way of melodrama? They’re already shredding humans. Pro-lifers protest that because they face that reality. And you think some chicken-sh*t is going to have ’em fleeing for the hills?
Joe, you must have never heard of the March for Life. The weather is always terrible. The only thing worse than the weather is the news coverage. Yet hundreds of thousands of pro-lifers show up every year. I doubt you can scare away dedicated sidewalk counselors that easily, though you’re welcome to try.
Joe. Please. As many have pointed out, manure will deter few pro-lifers. If it’s horse manure, I would actually not mind the smell at all, would welcome it even because it reminds me of home and therefore makes me more comfortable. And like others have pointed out too, we are in front of a place where human babies are being murdered. Manure? It’s nothing compared to that.
And gays. Oh you don’t get us, do you? That would make all the more people show up to pray! We wouldn’t care. If they kiss in public, that’s fine. I’d just kiss my husband in front of them.
At least your comment gave me some comic relief! thanks!
Rasqual, I love your comments. :) They always make me laugh.
Indeed, Rasqual, I worked on a farm for a short while, and my first task was cleaning all the sheep poop out of the barn (it was about a foot deep). The first day was olfactorily revolting, but by the second day, I hardly noticed the smell. In the same way, pro-lifers would quickly get accustomed to the smell, but I’m betting the mill’s victims (not to mention their neighbors) wouldn’t be so fortunate or accomodating.
Joe, I would take Navi’s comment further and acknowledge that you are more than welcome to try, for in doing so, you would draw more attention (possibly including bylaw attention) to abortion mills, which has always worked in our favor. If nothing else, it helps more people to see the emptiness of pro-abort accusations of pro-life aggression and violence.
I think Rasqual’s simple yet complete response is the best one here for the short-term:
Bring it on.
And on a side note, an interesting thought I just had concerning the lack of mainstream coverage of the March For Life in Washington; for the most part, any coverage that does make it past the editors generally underestimates the crowd size by, what, a factor of anywhere from ten to a hundred, right? In other words, they only wish to see about one hundredth to one tenth of all the people there?
This appropriately characterizes the situation with pro-lifers praying outside of abortion mills; for every one you see present, there are many thousands of others unable to attend physically who pray in solidarity with the front-liners.
In this, we find an amusing paradox: pro-aborts consistently accuse us of doing nothing to help mothers and children in distress, but they should be thankful that these accusation are patently false, lest they be faced with hundreds if not thousands more prayerful pro-lifers who suddenly have a lot more free time on their hands!
So, my advice to all pro-aborts: be thankful that we’ve proven ourselves to be better than your accusations, otherwise we’d ALL be on the front-line and, considering your difficulty in dealing with only a dozen of us, you wouldn’t last long.
Zealot mode, anyone? 8D
I guess Joe’s doesn’t come from the school of thought that says they should even pretend abortion is legitimate healthcare. I mean, would any hospital or doctor’s office spread manure on its property?
Why not have the two guys and the two girls kissing each other while manure wrestling. We’d sell tickets and donate the money to CPCs.
i knew a lesbian couple with one child each ( obviously they had been with men before hooking up) they were pro life and one of the women said to me ” heather i admire what you do cuz if you lay down and make a baby you need to lay down and have that baby.”
hey joe there was a woman who used to come here and she was soooo totally pro abortion. she called abortions ” crotch goop” and women with children “welfare suckers” she said she was going to set up graphic signs of porn star Jenna Jameson to show graphic sex signs featuring her in graphic sex poses. she received a collective “GO AHEAD!” you sound as ignorant as she did!;)
she was a total moonbat !
Here ya go, Hans:
“Deal With It”
Praxedes, xalisae: LOL
Joe: When I said, “And you think some chicken-sh*t is going to have ‘em fleeing for the hills?” — I didn’t mean that personally. I was talking about the manure. ;-)
………..joe?
:D
xalisae,
Lol. Who’s the widdle My Pretty Pony fan? :)
Ack! I can’t get John Edwards out of my head.
http://www.michellemalkin.com/2011/05/25/bad-news-for-silky-pony/
I seriously doubt the manure use would deter anyone here in Texas.
Hans,
Sorry for all the pony posts lately, but I just recently officially adopted my favorite pony from MLP:FiM (My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic). Rainbow Dash! ^_^
xalisae,
S’all right. Pics of those little trolls that were so popular in th 60’s would freak me out. They’d remind me of ours!
http://anti-my-little-pony.deviantart.com/gallery/35445742#/d4f95ek