Blogger dispels myth that pro-life women are “sexually repressed”
I felt deeply regretful about giving my body to someone who did not value me. But I didn’t learn my lesson then. Not yet. It took a sordid, soul-crushing, disgusting, short-lived “relationship” with another not-very-nice dude to really drive the point home.
After that, I vowed before God that the next time I had sex, it would be on my wedding night. And, by His Grace, I kept that promise. I was married two months ago to a man who treats me like a queen. And he was no virgin, either. He was 43 when we married. But he had learned the lesson I learned: that sexual libertinism is not liberating. It destroys you a little piece at a time….
I believe that sex, by bringing us together as couples and by making babies, serves God and serves mankind. Sex is for us; we are not for sex. I don’t worship it because that’s unhealthy and stupid. I don’t need to use the word “vagina” in every sentence to prove to you that I know how mine works.
… [I]f you divorce anything from its place in the Natural Law, from its true purpose, you pervert it.
Fauxminists loooove this idea that every pro-life female just needs a good rogering from someone who isn’t her husband or a night out on the town with “real” feminists to abandon women and children to abortion and pornography and sex trades and join the “real” feminists in their frolicking. Oh, if they could just show her how fun it is on the other side, thinking strip clubs are liberating and ScarJo is inspiring, she would be confidently strolling through Victoria’s Secret with flavored condoms in her purse just like the “real” feminists!
Sorry, ladies. I’ve been there. I’ve done it. I’ve seen the other side. I ain’t afraid of it. But you can keep it.
~ Kristen Walker Hatten (pictured), Live Action, December 9
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
She makes excellent points!! I wish more people could see sex this way. What a difference we would see in our entire country and culture!!
fauxminists – ain’t that the truth!
Many “feminists,” including “extreme feminists,” are strongly anti-pornography. Look at Andrea Dworkin. She’s about as anti-porn as it gets.
Gloria Steinem also believes “pornography is the exploitation of women.”
First of all, YES. Thank you. Just because women are pro-life (or Christian, or homeschooled, or whatever, fill in the blanks) does NOT mean we’re sexually repressed little haus fraus, embarrassed by naughty words. I love it that she is dispelling that annoying myth. It’s so laughable when pro-aborts and “feminists” accuse pro-life women of just needing to let go a little and have fun. Ask my husband… sexual repression is definitely not a problem with me. Not in the least. ;)
Just because I choose only to express my sexuality with my husband, and not with other men, and just because I choose not to lust over other men or look at pornography or strip on the weekends for extra cash (it pays well) or dress like a hooker, does not mean that I have sexual repression problems. It means that I have true freedom, that I’m giving my husband a gift, that I know the true purpose and place for sex.
Elsewhere in that article, she states, “Sex is for us; but we’re not for sex.” Just because we don’t worship sex and dress up like giant vaginas doesn’t mean we have problems – it means we have lives!! ;)
But wait… what’s wrong with confidently strolling through Victoria’s Secret if it’s for my hubby!? (Except that their prices are outrageous… $45 dollars for one item. Yeah, I can find the same thing at Target for a fraction of the price … thanks…)
LibertyBelle,
If you sign up for emails from Victoria’s Secret, they’ll send you pretty darn good clearance deals every now and then. My better half is quite fond of their products. I just wish their bras were a little more roomy. :(
Once again, the fact that monogamy makes sense doesn’t mean we hate sex.
Woohoo! Preach it, Kristen! The truth is what sets us FREE!!
Man, I hate Victoria’s Secret. I think their stuff is way pricey for how cheaply it’s made. I go either lower-end or higher-end depending on the item, but the middle – low quality with high prices – is just uncool. I usually spend more than VS prices but they last a lot longer and fit better overall. Plus I have a narrow (but not freakishly abnormal) ribcage and apparently you need to shell out serious bucks for the privilege of shopping in boutique stores that carry my band size. The upside is that my preferred shop for unmentionables allows me to keep and update a list of sizes by brand – since they fit differently – and I can put names on an access list, so my gentleman can go and pick stuff out and since he’s authorized to access my sizes, the salespeople will just pick out the right size for each of the items he chooses – or in some cases steer him away from styles that are unlikely to work for me. It’s pretty great.
But definitely not sexually repressed. Obviously. End TMI.
I felt deeply regretful about giving my body to someone who did not value me.
I think most of us, including myself, have had this experience. You don’t have to be prolife to feel used in a relationship. Okay, mods, you can delete this, but it doesn’t feel good to be a mere sperm sponge for someone.
Man, I hate Victoria’s Secret. I think their stuff is way pricey for how cheaply it’s made. I go either lower-end or higher-end depending on the item, but the middle – low quality with high prices – is just uncool.
I agree. I can’t understand the love for VS. Their products are poorly made and unless you’re a B cup or under, their bras really don’t fit well. They should spend less on those supermodels and tacky fashion shows and improve the quality of their products.
Someone should form the Jayne Mansfield Stop Abortion League in honor of the late sex symbol’s abortion opposition. In a song for a movie, she sang of herself, “The lady does not act like a prude.”
The Barbara Payton Against Abortion Organization is also a good idea. That sex symbol was notorious for her nymphomania. She wrote, “I considered suicide but never abortion.”
Thanks, X! :) I’ll have to try it. Love clearance stuff. Especially for articles of clothing designed to be taken off…. Lol
It is somewhat amusing to see a thread on a pro-life blog turn into a discussion about lingerie. Really shows what a weak straw man this whole “sexually repressed” thing is.
JDC, ain’t that the truth? ;) I always laugh when I hear pro-aborts claiming that pro-lifer women are these poor, repressed little women who don’t get pleasure. DUH! Of course that’s a lie. They just need to have a nice little chat with my husband; he’ll testify that he is certainly not deprived by a shy, embarrassed little wife. Psh. Sometimes pro-aborts really make me laugh. If only they knew how diverse we really are….
Also, what is it with the PP crowd that they don’t get balance? They think if we’re not dancing in the streets in pink “vagina” costumes and we’re not sluttin’ it up and making out with women we’re these embarrassed, oppressed things chained in the kitchen. Sorry, ladies. Not true. There’s thing, and it’s called balance. It’s pretty awesome. You should try it. There’s more to life than … well, that. I mean, it’s awesome. It’s just not all there is.
LOL can you tell this is kinda a sore point with me? I get this all the time and I’m glad to have an outlet. Oy vey.
I once left a drawerful of ‘unmentionables’ in a hotel room. I called the next day to see if the maid had discovered my things. She had, and turned them in to ‘lost and found’. The man at the front desk was so flustered, I wish I had recorded him! We were determining which items were mine and he said things like, “Uh, I got a pink silky thing here, and a sparkly red thing, er uh…” Hilarious!
“LOL can you tell this is kinda a sore point with me?”
Honestly, I had no idea, I thought you were cool with that assessment. ;)
ninek, LOL great story!
Kristen is courageously honest about her life.The fact that she uses her name and photo makes her articulate, wise, and sassy words very powerful. As for Victoria’s Secret, I am opposed to their semi-nudity during prime time. Call me a prude.
LifeJoy, I’m not a fan of their advertisements, but I don’t mind their products. Maybe better ad placing? :)
“LifeJoy, I’m not a fan of their advertisements, but I don’t mind their products. Maybe better ad placing?”
Yes, I suppose I am referring specifically to “fashion show” ads during football games, etc.
Sports are the only non-cartoons we watch while the kids are awake. =) I also do not appreciate the pairing of baseball games with viagra. I would rather my kids be asking me how to throw a curve ball than what is E.D. and why are those people smiling funny in those commercials. We usually sing songs through the prescription disclaimers.
All this feelthy talk! My daughter told me that she can’t wait until after her wedding in June so they can finally ”do it.” I was shocked, I tell you, shocked!
LifeJoy, lol tell them that ED is elderly dysfunction, and sometimes men forget stuff when they get old. ;) But I hear ya on that. It’s legal, soft porn. Thankfully, we don’t even have a TV.
Phillymiss, your daughter told you that?! Wow. I can’t imagine telling my mom that. But maybe I’m weird. We didn’t … talk about that stuff growing up. I had to look it up in a biology book lol
As for Victoria’s Secret, I am opposed to their semi-nudity during prime time.
Oh my, YES!!! I hate VS because of their ads! That might seem like an overreaction to some people, but I have 4 teenage sons and I can’t remember the last time we sat down to watch something together and we weren’t subjected to one of those ridiculous VS ads!
Phillymiss, your daughter told you that?! Wow. I can’t imagine telling my mom that.
I am close to my daughter, but I still was kind of shocked! But I admire them for waiting in the face of so much pressure.
Here is their wedding website:
http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding/UserViewWebsiteIntro?wid=5d27dec8584e6d41&pid=f4a2eeae8b3264fb&themeCode=
I think they are so beautiful together and I am so happy for them!
omg yes, I hate the VS ads so much. I don’t even own a TV but the ads are still inescapable somehow. Just stupid. I know a lot of people who work fashion shows, VS included (sooooo not a real fashion show though) – mostly electricians but some other jobs too – and I hate all the comments about “who got the lucky gig this time hur hur hur.”
Congratulations, phillymiss!
Very, very nice, phillymiss!
They ARE beautiful together..God Bless them. :)
Wow phillymiss! What a beautiful couple. “His perspective” almost made me cry. How wonderful that your daughter found someone that treasures her so much.
@phillymiss: Ohmigosh, they’re gorgeous! Your daughter is beautiful, and all those pictures are just radiant. Congrats and best wishes to the happy couple. :)
Congratulations for the second time today, Phillymiss! They look awesome together and I wish them many years of happiness!
Phillymiss how adorable. :)
They’re such a radiant couple, just beaming with love. :) She’s so fortunate to have found a man who so obviously treasures her. Heartmelt! I love weddings and beautiful love. God bless them. I hope their marriage is strong and beautiful. You must be so proud.
@ Phillymiss – your daughter and future son-in-law are beautiful, inside and out. They are already making a God-given impact on the people encounter. God bless them abundantly now and always. Lovely, truly lovely.
Thank you everyone for the kind words and well wishes. My future son in law’s mother abandoned him when he was a baby and he was raised by relatives, but that hasn’t stopped him from becoming a strong and loving young man. I hope and pray that their marriage will last for many many years.
She’s so fortunate to have found a man who so obviously treasures her.
Yes, I wish I could find someone like that (sigh)!
Beautiful, phillymiss. Congrats to them. I wish for something like that some day. I’ve already found the guy. Now I just need the resources.
The VS ads don’t really bother me. They’re not much worse than some bikinis I’ve seen in some places…and…as an artist…honestly…I’ve spent literally years drawing flat-out naked chicks. I’m terrible. >_<
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“Fauxminists loooove this idea that every pro-life female just needs a good rogering from someone who isn’t her husband.”
What? Who said that, I’d be curious to know?
Hm, dare I say it………..
What? Who said that, I’d be curious to know?
Hmm, let’s see if I can find one of the (at least) tens of tweets I’ve received telling me I’m only Pro-Life because I’m too ugly to get laid.
It happens. A lot.
EDIT: just searched and found a YouTube comment. I’m only including the relevant part because it’s crude:
“..You just hate the free love generation because bigoted loudmouth conservatives can’t get laid…”
Beautiful, phillymiss. Congrats to them. I wish for something like that some day. I’ve already found the guy. Now I just need the resources.
X, this is a budget wedding. His family doesn’t have much money, I’m certainly not wealthy, and Sam’s father isn’t helping much. If you’re resourceful, you don’t have to spend tens of thousands of dollars on a wedding. Those lovely pics, for example, were donated by a photographer friend of theirs who wanted to build up her portfolio. You’re an artist, so I’m sure you have some connections.
Sam said that she is going to get the flowers from the Publix supermarket, but that’s where I draw the line — I am going to give her money for the flowers. No one should have a Publix wedding!
thanks for the tip, phillymiss! If I don’t know someone, I bet Mr. X would. That is really a great idea!
I’m going to teach myself flash so I can make a website like that. I’ve been avoiding learning it for a long time because it seems complicated, but I love that website. :)
LOL Phillymiss, I had a Costco wedding. I picked my bouquet up the morning of, same with my cakes. Because, hey, why not? But I’m the kind of bride that wore old navy flip flops down the aisle, too, so…. haha
Don’t worry, X. You can have a beautiful, cheap wedding. IT’s possible. :)
If we want to decrease abortions, shouldn’t we be encouraging people to limit intimacies to ways that don’t impregnate?
LOL Phillymiss, I had a Costco wedding. I picked my bouquet up the morning of, same with my cakes. Because, hey, why not? But I’m the kind of bride that wore old navy flip flops down the aisle, too, so…. haha
Well, whatever works for you! But being a “plant nut,” I just love beautiful, professionally done arrangements. The “it” flowers of the moment is the calla lily, but they remind me of funerals for some reason.
I agree that weddings shouldn’t cost the GNP of a developing country. People go into debt paying for weddings, and I think that’s kind of silly. Besides, its the quality of the relationship that counts. That wedding and reception will last only a day, but marriage is meant to be a lifelong commitment.
HOW CUTE are they, Phillymiss??????
Many congrats.
There’s no contradiction between abortion legalization and being anti-pornography. Gloria Steinem and Andrea Dworkin believed abortion should be legal and were strongly anti-porn. Steinem had an abortion when she was a young woman. She came to the aid of Linda Boreman Marchiano when the latter claimed that ex-husband Chuck Traynor had forced her into both prostitution and pornography.