Pro-life video of the day: Pitfalls of casual sex
by LauraLoo
From In the Market with Janet Parshall…
Licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Linda Mintle discusses cultural changes over issues of sexuality and the unspoken consequences brought on by taking a casual view of sex.
Both the audio and the video are Christian in nature, yet applicable to all who support no premarital sex/no casual sex.
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5kzeKoheyMc[/youtube]
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Feb.28, 2013 12:00 pm |
Video of the day |
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
I liked the tips on confronting the media’s view of sexuality:
Interviewer: “How as Christians can we work to help to change the Culture’s view on sex and relationships?”
Response:
1) Talking about the truth and talk about primetime news stories with youth and single (“Is this [the culture’s view of sexuality] the way Christians should think?”);
2) Attend mass more;
3) Read the Bible more.
4) Ask yourself how [if] your faith impacts your view of sexuality.
I also liked how Dr. Mintle identified the media rather than economic equality of women or abortion as the biggest change in people’s attitude toward sex. Abortion, and even contraception, put the cart before the horse, so to speak. In other words, the desire to have sex exists prior to the use of contraception ior the procurement of abortion. Contraception and abortionn may make sex appear consequence free but they don’t get at the root of the problem which is the person’s view and understanding of sex and relationships.
On the otherhand, the media is in the business of legitimizing the desire for sex outside of marriage rather than celebrating purity and marriage. The media’s banal view of sex and relationships is winning the hearts and minds of the youth and singles. The media is acting as society’s moral teacher, which is totally appalling. The main media players currently believe that if they can entertain us then they have the right to also moralize and change society’s historical Christian moral values.
If the people realized the beauty of the Christian story – they would never want to watch pop TV, or listen to pop music again.
Who wakes up and wishes “I want to return to dust”?
“If the people realized the beauty of the Christian story – they would never want to watch pop TV, or listen to pop music again.”
My daughter informed me the other day that “Fiona wants to marry Dustin Beaver. But he’s not a beaver – he’s a man!” You see, my kids run around the house pretending to be Chris Tomlin and Christy Nockels.
I know it won’t always be this way – it is going to be challenging. But as long as I have a voice, I will show them that my Savior is my only reason for singing.
“Radical feminism has utterly failed or this type of sex would be much less popular … ”
Hmmm, really? Well then, Reason # 401 – why I am not a radical feminist.
So it seems Denise was up to her usual tricks, huh?
JDC says:
February 28, 2013 at 7:41 pm
So it seems Denise was up to her usual tricks, huh?
(Denise) There is no trick here. Radical feminists often discourage women from depending on men emotionally and erotically. If girls and women kept their distance from males in the intimate arena, there would be less of the type of sex that leads to pregnancy and, therefore, fewer abortions. If girls and women were more assertive in putting themselves first even in relationships with boys and men, there would also be less of this type of activity and fewer abortions. The failure of radical feminism can be seen in the appallingly high number of abortions.
The media does not preach the Gospel.
The media preaches a false Gospel. And Christians should ask them to justify their teaching/preaching. By whose authority are they teaching their values?
The root of the problem of sexual immorality is the preaching of the false Gospel and the lack of a catechesis in the true Gospel message.
I believe we all need to be taught to truly love one another and to understand the nature of sexual intercourse (and I’m not just saying from a religious point of view, I’m talking also psychological, physical, and emotional). A lot of people don’t realize how powerful the hormone oxytocin is. Women have this hormone in spades. Men don’t have it as highly as women do, but women are by nature, nurturers. I’m not saying it’s the ONLY thing we have going for us as women, but I’m looking at it from this physiological/psychological point of view. During sex (especially if a woman orgasms) the hormone oxytocin is released bonding her to that man FOR LIFE. She may go on to marry someone else…but psychologically speaking the results of that encounter will stay with the woman. The memory may or may NOT fade (hormones, memory, and emotions are tricky things sometimes) however it doesn’t change these things happen.
Chastity speakers have been hammering on this point more times than I can count. So many women get hurt by short-term/outside-of-marriage sex and some of them don’t even realize they ARE hurt. I’ve seen even MEN hurt by sexual relationships outside of marriage. If it’s so okay, then we wouldn’t have all these issues. I’ve seen outside sex screw with people’s relationships and how they make decisions about their relationship.
Sexual intercourse is a bonding mechanism that serves two MAIN purposes: 1. the procreation of children (doesn’t ALWAYS happen, but the possibility is there). 2. the uniting of the man and the woman (hormones and emotions prove this). When we take it outside of marriage we lose that convent bond that goes beyond just “moving in together” or “one day we’ll get married”. It’s a life long COMMITMENT and if we held people more to the responsibility that commitment entailed who knows what awesome thing could happen. So often we humans are impulsive. In some cases it can turn out well but when it comes to marriage you have to consider what that means. Marriage isn’t always hearts and flowers. Some days it’s putting up with some major difficulties and crap. Other days it IS hearts and flowers, but being married means taking the good with the bad and finding a way through both.