Barbara Walters: “I regret not having more children”
by Kelli
Piers Morgan: If you could relive one moment in your life, the moment that brought you the greatest satisfaction, thrill, sadness perhaps, the moment?
Barbara Walters: Can I tell you what I regret when you’re talking that way? I regret not having more children. I would have loved to have had a bigger family. I have one daughter. I don’t have brothers and sisters.
~ An interview in which “visibly moved” veteran reporter Barbara Walters appeared “close to tears” and regretful at “not making time to have more children,” as quoted by Daily Mail, December 18
Walters has one adopted daughter, Jackie.
[HT: Jill]
Dec.19, 2013 1:00 am |
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Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
Yes, she is a mother by adoption but is pro choice. That always blows my mind. She died not always have a good relationship with her daughter who at one time ran away from home as a teen and stayed gone for quite a time. I think they reconciled when the daughter became an adult.
She pro abortion! Nothing further.
Couldnt find the time? Shes a gazillionaire! She could have adopted 10 kids and retired long ago.
But that would have interfered with her career Heather.
At least she can take comfort in that now, that she had such a “great career”. /s
There is a great book by William Booth, the founder of the Salvation Army called Visions. In his first vision titled, “In Heaven But Not of Heaven”, he deals with regrets big time and makes crystal clear the things we should be living for, and not living for.
In case anyone’s interested, it’s available via free PDF download on the web or on Amazon
Regret is a heavy burden to carry. I hope at least her regret leads to a change of heart and brings her to peace.
My wife and I know a couple who has been married for over 15 years and are pushing 50. Everytime we get together they speak of one regret – not having any children. They have always concentrated on their careers. Sure they have lots of money and travel extensively but they are fully aware they will grow old just the two of them and refer to it as a lonely existence.
Walters has the one child she was brave to adopt. Let her take comfort that she has had some other (higher) purpose in life than just a career. Instead of speaking of regrets I would have liked to read about how she discussed raising an adopted child.
There are so many childless couples, like the one we know – who will grow old w/o bringing into this world what matters most. Walters was able to transcend her “its all about me” at some point and adopt. I applaud her for that.
Hi Thomas R. I agree in giving credit where credit is due. I give her credit for adopting. Ive gotta put my 2 cents in on childless couples. I agree. I do know of one 50 something childless woman ( 2 abortions ) and she regrets them now. She has a boyfriend and together they have 4 cats. One day I asked her if she regretted her abortions. Her reply ” Omg YES im going to die a lonely old lady.” Very sad.
Also I network with widows on facebook as well as other sites. The widows who were having the toughest times were the childless women or men. Bless their hearts. Id cry as many would write things like ….Tom and I were best friends. We traveled the world. We had our animals and no children by choice. And then came ” the day ” when after 40 50 years of marriage their spouse was gone. At least through my son I have a part of Brad with me forever.
I’m glad she said that. I admit a painful jealousy of other people’s grandchildren. And i think fear of growing old alone is part of what’s motivating people who want euthenasia. Abortion: the pox that keeps on destroying. I pray that the christmas season reminds people how precious children are.
And God is so good. He brought a new husband into my life who is willing to adopt my son. Thank you to everyone for the prayers. I still have dark days but I am accepting my husbands death. God may now use me to help other widows.
Hi 9ek I agree. Dont get me wrong…a child isnt always a magic cure for pain but I did feel bad for the childless widows as all that they had left in their lives were material things. No more outings with other couples. No more cooking a meal for the husband. Sleeping alone. No mo?re phone calls with exchanges of I love you. People go away. The funeral ends and you are. forgotten
Awww 9ek feeling bad that youre feeling that way. The holidays can be a miserable time for many. Im there with you.
Sometimes I worry I’ll regret not having more kids, I have two and that’s literally all I can afford right now. I love kids, and I love being a dad even if single parenthood is rough. I feel really sorry for Barbara Walters, I wish she would have realized that she wanted more children before it was too late. She could look into becoming a foster parent, I think even at her age she would be allowed to temporarily foster. It might help her feel better and kids need the help.
“Yes, she is a mother by adoption but is pro choice. That always blows my mind. ”
It does mine too. We don’t know if Barbara’s child’s first mother had positive feelings towards abortion, but I think any adoptive parent should look at their kid and think “what if their mother hadn’t wanted to go through the pregnancy?”
Loneliness is a much bigger difficulty than we appreciate. The very thought of independence seems almost like a gift to someone who feels isolated. ‘And just what did I ever do to deserve this?’ [on top of being disabled 24/7] is the question that I ask myself the most. The response is always silence … not pain … numbing nothingness and the strongest sense ‘I really do not belong’.
Do people get married to avoid loneliness? (( or have kids?)) If ‘yes’, where is the freedom in marriage? Or is that being old-fashioned?
I’ve never heard anyone on their deathbed call for their money to be placed around them. What comfort is money? It is family that matters first and foremost and always has. I have 2 boys but I want more children. My husband does not. But wise friends have told us “You’ll NEVER have “enough” money whether one, two, three or four children! But you’ll find ways to make it work and you’ll never think the sacrifice wasn’t worth it.” My husband and I struggled before kids, we struggled after our first and my husband put off having a second for 5 years out of fear. And now we still struggle but in a way we’re doing better than we ever have before. We find ways to make it work and my husband tickles our toddler and just grins and says “Why did we wait so long to have him???”
I’m hoping he’ll realize he’d feel that way if we’d have a third.
Aww it really does go to show that money and fame don’t substitute for love and family. I hope she finds happiness and peace with her daughter she does have. And also perhaps reconsiders her abortion advocate views.
If only Barbara Walters could do a hard hitting interview with herself — the one who bought into the narrow minded myth that careers and motherhood are mutually exclusive, that being a mother many times over is old-fashioned anti-feminism, that femininity and motherhood are not empowering, and that we have to sacrifice our children and reproductive organs at the altar of patriarchy.
I think Barbara Walters’ daughter was born before abortion was legal anywhere in this country, but… well, I’m not going to mention names, but it does drive me crazy when I hear about famous people these days who yell and scream for abortion rights but then adopt an American born infant!
You people should be ashamed. She’s an older woman who mentioned how she wished for a bigger family and you attack her. You anti-choice humans are scum.
Anon. lol but those who promote killing babies are oh so wonderful.
BTW, I have nothing against anyone adopting American born infants- I mean that the rich and famous who both adopt them and advocate for the right to kill them* are a little two-faced in this area IMO. I don’t think the biological mothers of their children went through the pregnancy because they thought it would be fun, most probably did it because they knew it was a life inside them.
*or advocate for more abortion availability in countries where many of the children of those who adopted internationally came from.
Most of the pro-abort crowd posts incognito. But this a switch – no moniker just ANON?
Here’s a statement from a list I keep on my wall at the office:
“Don’t condemn someone with accusations made by people who won’t put their names behind what they say.”
A good motto to live by..
Heather, Anon’s not worth the effort :(