Supermodel wants children whether or not she’s married
I do want to have children, whether I have a man or not…. I will have it on my own.
~ Supermodel Naomi Campbell, insisting that fatherhood is optional for her future children, E! Online, March 12. More backstory from E!:
In September 2008, during a London Fashion Week fund-raiser for the White Ribbon Alliance, the 43-year-old revealed she was previously infertile.
“They thought it was a cyst,” Campbell said of undergoing surgery six months earlier in Brazil, per Britain’s Press Association. “When they opened it up they realized it was more.” The Face mentor said, “I was not able to have children up until March. Now it’s in God’s hands. I would love to have a family.”
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Mar.14, 2014 6:00 am |
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Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
“insisting that fatherhood is optional for her future children”
It’s optional for mine, too– and in fact, very unlikely. I am a single woman. I just bought a fixer-upper (closing is in less than a month, woohoo!) with four bedrooms, because I intend to become a foster mom. And if any of those foster children become available for adoption while they are in my care, I will almost certainly say yes rather than subject them to the instability of finding yet another place to call home.
Does that mean I’ll be “depriving” my kids of a father? Forgive me, but I think that’s just a strange way to look at it. The goal here is to remove them from abusive/neglectful situations and provide a stable, loving family. I have no plans to marry; I’ve dated long enough to realize I’m just not attractive to men in the long term. And I’m okay with that. But I love kids, always have, and the lack of a man shouldn’t prevent me from being a mom.
Kelsey, what does “not attractive to men in the long term” mean? I know you realize that you are making a sweeping generalization about all men while also being overly self-deprecating.
Kelsey, if I may bluntly say that you are looking at men, relationships and most importantly, yourself incorrectly. No person lacks another human being. Human beings are imperfect; they lack perfection but they do lack a spouse. A spouse is a privilege and an obligation but it is both of these things because primarily it is a grace and a blessing. Relationships are a commitment. Single people can adopt – there is nothing wrong with adopting while single. However, single people should make sure they are adopting for a right reason and not for a wrong reason – such as adopting to fill the void of lacking a man. (BTW, I am not saying I think you will be adopting for that reason anyway.) Also, remember that from a practical perspective single parenting is not very easy (whether or not they are your biological children) - it takes a lot of juggling, hard work, and sacrifice. Depending on the age of the children you adopt you could be sacrificing a lot of personal and social time. If you continue with your plan to be a foster parent may God bless you with strength and perseverance. That is very giving of you Kelsey.
Why cant a beautiful woman like her get married? Ive always found her stunning…maybe a bit of a temper but that could be any of us. I really hope she does have kids soon and id like to see her find true love and marriage.
Idk if Campell is PC but pro life models include Kathy Ireland Heidi Klum Brooke Shields.
I am overjoyed with Miss Campbell that her health and fertility are restored. And it is heart-warming that she wants to have a child.
And single mothers are my admiration. They live out lives of courage and heroic self-sacrifice.
But still, I am troubled by Miss Campbell’s remark. It plays right into the mentality that “children are a commodity to be purchased when wanted and discarded when unwanted.” I just hate seeing that again.
Tyler, rest assured that I’m not trying to fill a void. I have considered adoption since I was a child myself! Even if I were married and became a mom through natural conception, I would still want to adopt and/or foster.
Re: not being attractive to men in the long term, that may have been a bad way to put it. A better way would be to say that I am not well-suited to maintaining long-term romantic relationships, even when I want to. For my own sake and the sake of any kids, it’s best to stay single.
Somebody better explain to her how biology works before she gets her hopes up.
Courtnay, can you spell “egg donor?” While some women do conceive naturally into their forties, the odds are not in our favor.
If there is a man in the picture, can you imagine the baby momma drama?
Its unfortunate phillymiss but your last sentence paints the reality of this situation. Naomi Campbell was in a string of very to put it mildly, unsuccessful relationships. She wants a child but is unsure whether there will be a man there to support that child beyond the hanky panky.
http://www.famoushookups.com/site/celebrity_profile.php?name=Naomi-Campbell&celebid=1015
If Naomi wants a child, she can definitely have one and has the means to support. The only thing right now is for Naomi to rethink her approach to relationships…..
Uh, she was accused of physically and verbally abusing several maids throughout her time in the lime light, as well as very public meltdowns, crazy actions including physical violence to others, and other unstable and violent behavior. Has she gotten counseling or anger management therapy or anything like that? I really hope an adoption agency would never give her a child unless she’s really, really fixed things. People who beat up on those who serve them are not people I think should be caring for children. What’s that saying, “ If you want to see the true measure of a man, watch how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.”
Kelsey I’m really happy that you’re planning on adopting out of foster care! That’s awesome, you are the best.
And yeah Kelsey that’s awesome! I’m hoping to adopt/foster one day.
phillymiss: “While some women do conceive naturally into their forties, the odds are not in our favor.”
I’m a 41-year-old dude and I pray every night that there’s still hope. I pull for the Naomi Campbells and Jennifer Anistons of the world even though I don’t care much for them, otherwise.
While PM is correct..and doctors will tell you the same..my mother had me at 40 and my brother at 41 I had my last son at 40. There is hope.