Author of Mama’s Day abortion story gets not-so-friendly reaction
by Carder
Because of a Mamas Day article I wrote on the Huffington Post about how an abortion changed the way I experience Mother’s Day, people I’ve never met requested that I kill myself, get raped, die in childbirth (as a Black woman, that is something for which I am at higher risk), and be sterilized (something that many women of color have experienced).
They asked if I have dementia (something I watched my grandmother suffer from) and hoped that I would be sold into the “sex trade” and “forced to give birth over and over again and then die from giving birth.”
Charming.
~ Abortion activist Renee Bracey Sherman, describing the various reactions to her abortion story, RH Reality Check, May 16
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May.21, 2014 6:00 am |
Post-abortion |
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
Hmm. Well, I agree death threats and expressing a desire to see all that horrible stuff befall a woman is NOT the way to respond to her post. That’s not speaking well of the pro-life movement or of people at all.
I wonder how much of that was a visceral response to triggered and buried abortion pain? How many of those ill-wishers were fathers’ whose babies were killed? Or women who were forced to have an abortion and now regret it? Or even women who just never processed their pain and it’s been buried for years?
Or even moms who had babies die – not by abortion but by things they couldn’t control? Maybe they see her story as a slap in the face to mothers who lost babies not by choice.
While the responses to this woman were horrible, it doesn’t surprise me. What do you expect when you publish a story casting abortion in such a flippant light – especially around a holiday that is painful to many, many, many people?
In the headline, I’d be inclined to put “pro-lifers” in quotation marks, too…
On one hand, it’s wrong to send threatening emails. But, let’s get something clear: killing your children via abortion is no more a parenting decision than murdering a two year old. And almost 100% of women seeking abortion are already mothers! not 60. (Except for those cases where abortionists go ahead and perform procedures on women whose pregnancies aren’t even confirmed). As usual, abortion fanatics need to pretend their dead children aren’t as real as other, larger children. And, as usual the abortion fan needs to cast herself as the perpetual victim to validate her sorry sense of worth. That article was sickening to read.
Natural people hate abortion and those who defend it. It is a natural reaction to hate murderers.
As pro-lifers, we had to undergo a difficult conversion before we could love and desire to protect every life, even the abortionists and their supporters. We had to learn how to love post-abortive women, especially the ones who are still loud and angry and unrepentant and suffering.
The weird thing about pro-aborts like Renee Sherman is that she blames the pro-life movement for the revulsion that she induces in people. She does not see that her own actions are the cause for that response.
The weird thing about pro-aborts like Renee Sherman is that she blames the pro-life movement for the revulsion that she induces in people. She does not see that her own actions are the cause for that response.
Even if she induces “revulsion” in people, its not cool to wish death on someone like this.
What did the article say? Could someone summarize it for me? I’m emotionally fragile right now (I just lost my house to foreclosure) so I’m not up to reading upsetting things like this now.
I’m so sorry, Phillymiss. :( I know how hard that is. I’ll pray for you! I just skimmed the article cause I’m emotionally fragile right now too. But I can summarize what I skimmed.
Basically the article was her crowing about she wants to reclaim her “mamahood” because mother’s day is a day she remembers the day she decided she didn’t want to be a mom. And that moms of aborted babies deserve to “celebrate” mother’s day for their “parenting choice” of abortion.
She calls women who aborted and “celebrate” it brave and courageous and strong.
Which totally breaks my heart because yeah, they are moms.
I don’t know. Mother’s day is a really hard day for a lot of people. I don’t see why she needs to reclaim it or whatever. I’ve always just kind of been “meh” about the holiday. I mean sure it’s nice to recognize moms but not everyone has a great mom and if you are currently a mom, I’ve always thought spontaneous thanks are better than the obligation and pressure of a specific holiday. Maybe that’s just me being a bah humbuggy. lol
I didn’t read it but, like Emily Letts who “supposedly” filmed her own abortion – how can anybody PROVE what Ms. Sherman is claiming ? She obviously loves attention and controversy, or she wouldn’t have “put herself out there” by writing/ having published such an article.
I know there are “nutjobs” out there, and of course “trolls” who are all talk and no action, but how does anyone know these “threats” were actually made, and not just her attempt to garner MORE attention for herself, and paint Pro-Lifers with the same brush that most Pro-aborts like to use, at the same time ?
Answer : We don’t.
I say – don’t give her any more attention than she’s already gotten. Her “15 minutes of fame” are up.
She is a mom.
She was a mom when she found out she was pregnant, she was a mom as she absorbed that news, she was a mom when she decided, she was a mom when she went through with it and she is a mom to a child that perished.
She will always be a mom to the child she aborted.
I will go on record as saying that death threats and threats of physical violence have NO PLACE in discourse. The comments to her were vile, disgusting and hateful!!
When any post abortive woman tries to “rally the troops” in a pathetic ABORTION PRIDE movement it will backfire. It just will.
We refuse to celebrate death with you.
Sadly, the extremely nasty and hateful comments Renee experienced aren’t limited to abortion stories. I’ve stopped reading comm boxes on most of the sites I visit because people are insane and post horrific things no matter what the topic. It’s a sickness that seems to be sweeping through all of humanity.
How can people wishing death or terrible things on another person be described as pro-life? If all human life is precious, then ALL human life is precious.
Pro-life activists also endure death threats and violence from pro-aborts.
Just to be clear: There is a pro-life movement that condemns violence as a means of ending abortion.
There is no pro-abort movement that condemns violence as a means of protecting abortion.
Renee Sherman does not urge tolerance whenever a pro-life display is vandalized. No pro-abort writer criticized the pornography professor in California when she assaulted the pro-life teens on her campus.
I’m so sorry, Phillymiss. I know how hard that is. I’ll pray for you! I just skimmed the article cause I’m emotionally fragile right now too. But I can summarize what I skimmed.
Thanks for the kind words and prayers, they are much appreciated. HuffPo is getting more and more twisted. I can only think of this woman’s way of thinking as deranged, but that doesn’t excuse the hateful, sick comments she (allegedly) received.
Speaking of Mother’s Day — I received the nicest card from one of the people I work with on the weekend. Most of society would consider him an “outcast” because he is severely mentally ill, but it was so sweet and heartfelt I nearly cried. It really made my day!
Also meant to add: Haven’t ANY of the these say-it-loud-I-had-an-abortion-and-I’m-proud people EVER heard of adoption?
Phillymiss that is so sweet.
And no, because that would defeat the purpose of “autonomy” and her exerting her power over her ovaries and body and stuff.
LibertyBelle, in other words, it’s all about ME!
I’ve literally had women tell me that if they were pregnant unexpectedly, they would consider abortion, or parenting, but never adoption.
Phillymiss, I’m so sorry to hear about your home. :( I’ll pray for you as well.
I went to this huffpo article and only saw 4 comments posted and none of them said the things that this author stated. I am not a big fan of Mother’s Day but my living children think it is important. So I honor them when they honor me.
But I’m not sure, even after reading her article, how a post-abortive mom would celebrate Mother’s Day or Mama’s Day. I guess people can (and do) honor the “spiritual mothers” in their lives and there are cards you can purchase with those types of sentiments but I doubt Hallmark is ready to put out a Mama’s Day card to honor women who have had elective abortions. But this might be a business opportunity for Ms. Sherman if she’d like to come up with a line of cards.
Lady, a simple law of nature. Put your business out there for the world (literally) to know and you will attract perverts, ding-a-lings, weirdoes, and sometimes extremely dangerous and deranged people.
So quit your whining and consider this a lesson learned.
LB, I’ve heard that exact statement before, too. Many times. I think it’s a matter of them knowing that once they saw and held that baby, they would have a hard time letting go.
The closest thing we have to this before birth is ultrasound. It’s powerful, and that’s why the abortion fans hate it so much. Not because it’s traumatic, but because for many women, it initializes that bond they have with their very REAL child.
Every time an atheist, particularly a female, speaks out against inappropriate and illegal invocations and proselytizing they get numerous threats of rape, beatings and death. Sounds like it might be pretty much the same crowd.
“Natural people hate abortion and those who defend it” – we are all natural people Del, I’m not aware of anyone who is more than 50% synthetic, are you?
“As pro-lifers, we had to undergo a difficult conversion” – which must mean that pro-choice is the ‘natural’ position.
Revulsion is one thing, threats and curses are quite another.
Lrning thanks for your kind words. I am thankful that I have a job and was able to find a decent apt. for myself and the kitties.
Reality, I dunno. That V. Stiviano person looks pretty synthetic to me :-0
Read the article and checked out ALL FOUR comments. No death threats, no perverts. Two of the comments actually said they condone abortion but did not agree with the authors “mamaday” claims. The other two were neither threatening nor mean. Liberals just want to play the victim all the time…
Right,
They put their personal info out on the internet for the entire world to read, then cry victim when they attract unwanted attention.
If you don’t want negative comments on your business, then keep it to yourself.
If you read the RH Reality Check article ammtegeler, you would have noted that the nasties she speaks of came via facebook and twitter. And as with this site, HuffPo wouldn’t have posted such comments.
I will bet most of that bunk came from the CHOICE side just to help their case. Look at SOMG and the crazy things he would say.
ammtegeler, if you actually read the original article, she clearly said that the comments came to her via email and on Facebook She even has a screenshot of one of the emails in the article. It’s vile and heinous. Look, I support saving innocent lives as much as the next guy, but telling people they should get raped or die isn’t helping our cause. I may not like that she talks about her abortion but she does have the constitutional right to do it. The Lord tells us we must meet people where they are at and show them love. Love will be the way to the kingdom. NOT disgusting emails.
Hi JonC
When you tell the world your business you can’t control who is reading/hearing it. Any perverse person out there can respond to what is written in any way they want, however sick we may find it. The world is full of dangerous and sick people. Not the kind of people you want to know your business.
However when people make the choice to tell the world their business, they better be prepared for some very serious and frightening consequences. That’s not justifying anyone’s actions, that’s telling it like it is.
If you don’t want this to happen, keep your business to yourself. If you want to publicize your business then don’t cry victim when people react negatively to it.