Pro-choice author: Keeping teen abortion a secret is “mature”
by Kelli
K Kaufmann wrote a book called The Abortion Resource Handbook, which is meant to guide women through their abortion decisions. It is aimed specifically toward women considering abortion. To put it mildly, the book takes a pro-choice position. In one passage, the author encourages teens not to tell their parents:
However sad or angry you feel right now, keep in mind that not involving a parent is often a sign of maturity – that you are able to make and take responsibility for your own decisions. Keeping the pregnancy and abortion a secret may even turn out to be a positive experience. For many young women, it may be one of the first times they make an important or life-changing decision on their own, and they may feel more confident and better about themselves as a result.
… The pro-choice author… will not be there to comfort a teen who cries herself to sleep after her abortion. The author will not be there for a teen who researches abortion online and becomes distraught after seeing pictures of what she did to her baby. The author will not be there to call a doctor when the girl runs a fever and develops a severe infection that she tries to hide because she does not want her parents to know she had an abortion.
Instead, the author gives advice with impunity, divorced from the situation, never having to see the impact of what’s in that book.
Parents need to talk to their teens about abortion, and maintain lines of communication. They must let their teenage girls know that they can come to them with any problem, and that they will not be thrown out of the house or horribly punished if they make a mistake and become pregnant. Neither parents nor teens need a pro-choice author telling teenage girls to keep their abortions secret from their parents.
~ Sarah Terzo, Live Action News, January 28
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Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
The pro-borts also tell kids that sex is a grown-up decision that their parents don’t need to know about.
Drug pushers tell kids that sneaking drugs is a way to be cool and grown-up, too.
Movies and TV used to offer cigarette smoking as a way to look rebellious and grown-up. We quit doing that, because cigarettes are bad for kids’ health.
We should quit offering secret abortions to kids, which are also bad for their health and well-being.
Well. I have nothing to say to this but “have you ever met a teenager?”.
And there may be good reasons that a teen can’t tell her parents about an abortion, like abuse in the home. But in that case the author should encourage the teen to seek help from safe adults outside the home and provide information along this line.
Separation from the parent/s or any kind of support is crucial to the abortion movement. Most generally speaking, abuse in the home is not the reason why teens fail to tell adults of their pregnancy, but fear of how this will affect their future &/or fear of disappointing their parents. (Giving the abuse argument is a lot like saying abortion should be legal if the health of the mother is endangered – virtually seldom is it the real reason). These problems may seem insurmountable when initially presented, but they CAN be dealt with given support. There are thousands of crisis pregnancy centers in this country who offer FREE services and counseling, but you do have to ask for help.
I would like to be very clear that I don’t think abuse in the home is an EXCUSE for abortion, I just think that if a teen sadly has an abortion, abuse is about the only excuse that is valid for the parents not knowing. And then, she shouldn’t just be sent on her way, she should be helped out of the abusive situation.