Author: We need to make women “comfortable” with abortion
by Kelli
A while back I reluctantly attended a girls’ movie night with a few other women in their late 20s. When I arrived, I was informed we were to watch Obvious C?hild. I was less than one beer in when I deduced none of the women there had ever had an abortion. I quietly observed them, giddy and giggling….
Then I began furiously texting my friends, who urged me to impart my firsthand knowledge of the procedure.
I couldn’t. The abortion stigma is intense, even for me, someone who writes about sex and tells perverted secrets very regularly. Ultimately, I realized, it’s an important thing to share. And now I do so from the safety of my computer and on the internet of all places….
At 29 years old, I have had two. My first was at 19, a couple weeks before I left for college, and it was traumatic in more ways than one. The second was three years ago in Brooklyn at ?Early Options and, as far as the actual procedure went, was smooth and forgettable.
It certainly helped that I was older and less ashamed to tell my friends. I even tried to make it lighthearted, hosting a party complete with a cake that read “LOL, oops!”
Of course, abortion is never easy, and even if I’m incredibly grateful for having the choice to terminate both my pregnancies, it’s still a difficult decision to make.
~ Carly Pifer (pictured with her “LOL, oops!” abortion cake), “The Comfortable Abortion,” via Motherboard, April 13
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
They were giggly and you still could not get past your self-imposed stigma? Could it be that pro-lifers don’t actually MAKE people feel bad, could it be.. that it might be normal to feel bad? You found yourself in an accepting environment and yet you text people not in the room, and later hide behind your keyboard? Wow. If only, Carly, you might realize that nobody imparted a stigma onto you from outside.
Whoever holds a knife like that when cutting a cake?
I thought the exact same thing Tommy.
To me it demonstrates that moms know. They know they’re killing something. They may believe the lie that it’s not their child yet. They may have been deceived into believing that if they “get it early enough”, they’re not a mom yet. They can be giddy and laugh about it and hold the knife as if they’re stabbing and killing something.
Deep down they know.
Can you imagine the horrified look on Carly’s face when she realizes she’s killed her own son or daughter? Can you imagine the pain and guilt? And if she doesn’t realize it before she dies, while she still has time to repent, can you imagine the utter grief, despair and horror of realizing you’re eternally lost?
Yet the Father loves each one of us so much, more than we can know. And He doesn’t want any of us to perish, but that we’d all come to repentance.
I believe this is why, in His sovereignty, He gave us BO to be our president. I believe this is why from the moral perspective we absolutely have the worst president in the history of our country.
Because that’s what we deserve, for all of the innocent blood that’s been shed. And the unprecedented violence we’re seeing, that also is part of the curse for shedding innocent blood on such a massive scale.
God is positioning our country for His judgment and destruction.
Will we repent before it’s too late?
Also, do you notice the progression? Carly’s first abortion was “traumatic”. Her heart was softer, she could hear her conscience protesting. It was louder, more clear.
But over time the lies become strongholds. The heart gets harder, tougher, calloused. It doesn’t “feel” like it used to. Living in the lie becomes more comfortable. We can joke about killing our kids now.
Yet she says, “Of course, abortion is never easy..it’s still a difficult decision to make.”
Why is it difficult? Because of the middle part of that sentence,”and even if I’m incredibly grateful for having the choice to terminate both my pregnancies,”
Translated: “I’m incredibly grateful for having the choice to kill my children,”
The great news for post abortive moms and sinners of all shapes and sizes…
sinners just like you and me…
is that we have a Loving Savior that paid the price for our sin and shame. And we can be forgiven, healed, restored, reconciled with Our Heavenly Father and the Lord Jesus Christ, adopted into His family and empowered by His Spirit to live lives of victory over sin, loving community with our brothers and sisters in Christ and set on a mission to win the lost for Christ.
The cycle of pain continues.
Her children are dead. She is dead inside.
And she tries to lessen her own pain by encouraging other women to kill their children. As if this will make the “stigma” go away.
In the Motherboard article regarding the abortion pill it says, “Early on in your pregnancy you’re likely to have clots, but they won’t look like much. Around nine to 10 weeks, you start to see something more substantial.”
To me, this sounds as rational as someone saying, “Early on in the nursery bassinet you’re likely to see a glob, but it won’t look like much. Around nine to 10 months, you start to see something more substantial.”
or
“Early on in the preschool room you’re likely to see something small moving around on the colored rug, but it won’t look like much. Around nine to 10 years, you start to see something more substantial.”
Wait a minute…. Is Obvious Child playing in a theater anywhere? Perhaps it was a special-order rental.
The “one-in-three” meme assumes that no woman has more than one abortion. Since Momma Pifer has had two, then odds are that five other women at the party have not killed their children.
Who baked the cake?
So as a post abortive woman, she’s comfortable with her disenfranchisement from other women who haven’t had abortions, as long as she can express it behind a keyboard, and not face to face with other women. She can’t hash through these feelings, much less approach them. I see that as the subject of her post.
She’s incredibly grateful for her ability to choose abortion, as long as she can express being grateful anonymously?
I don’t think she is grateful. It sounds like she’s scared.
She’s GOT to get some help, ASAP & SOS she is decsending into the pattern that makes addiction possible: denial.
Please don’t bash her, she’s limping, is that not blatantly apparent to everyone else on this blog?
Her friends are still promoting Planned Parenthood, (these are all reflections of the tactics they admonish women to promote and encourage). She is expressing her excruciating circumstances as a single woman. These are TYPICAL.
Most young single women go through this EXACT same thing, without the ability to express it. The more beautful, artistic, inspiring, lonely, tender, caring emotional, the more attractive, the more they go through this. They are targets.
The fact that she is expressing them RELUCTANTLY behind the safety of her own home, tells us something: she wants to be expressing these feelings openly face to face with other women.
She CAN’T process her emotions otherwise. Once she can, the truth will be obvious and she can process it, once re-enfranchised within society. But right now, she is a lone wolf within her own pack, and she is slipping into insanity having been the first to drink the cool aide. With compassionate hearts, we can be the ones to bring a reversal, not from the pain of abortion, but from the pain of denial. How? With love! She needs to feel loved, not like she’s a knife wielding cake killer, lol! Which, let’s face it, what woman isn’t a chocolate monster? I don’t doubt that her heart is getting snowed in, and yes, this feeling of disenfranchisement can make anyone feel like an ostracized bully which is a reality that shows itself in strange ways. Slowly, and over time, it will kill her from the inside out, if there isn’t some one to pull her back.
Her gratitude is not for “choice,” as she claims. Let’s see this for what it is, seriously.
Face it, her gratitude was that she didn’t have to confront the issue with an unsupportive inner circle that is so blatantly against her reproducing and so giddily a part of this mainstream culture of death. They have no idea of the value of what she is feeling. If she could only express it to them, at least they would have a warning before they find themselves in the same situation. They sound extremely young, and statistically, 1/4 is the claim, so a few more of them will most certainly go down the road she went down. Would it not be of huge relief to both her and them if she could confront their reality with blunt honesty? She can’t without freezing up from the PTSD it caused. They are being censored by the culture of “choice.” Slowly, we are all losing our voices.
The pro-“choice,” culture hasn’t empowered women, it has take our choices, and relegated them down to one “choice”, abortion. Do you have any idea how confusing this is to young adults who have no other guidance than this misleading language. The cost of free love is that women pay twice so men never have to pay for anything. We have twice the responsibilities that men have, and in schools, even churches, we are not supposed to complaiy or talk about abortion, while the teachers can promote it!
She is fertile, and they(parents, family, boyfriend, friend) are anti-life. How is she supposed to deal with that alone. We can help. Be pro-love. Not pro-“choice.”
So let’s give it to her easy for coming this far out of the closet. Anyone?
Wow-I just read her full article, it’s worse than one can imagine. They put her under and she woke up five hours later not knowing what happened in room with five women who were crying. This sounds like what it is: a horror movie, where the beautiful young victims run back into the house and up the stairs instead of going to get some actual help from these butchers. It has nothing to do with empowering women, it has everything to do with controlling them under the guise of protecting them which is the stereotypical exploitive narrative of the tyrannical pathological sociopath.
Here’s the thing, the telemed abortions she is describing are not better at all. She doesn’t know this for the reason that she knows all too well. Telemed abortions cause just as much PTSD.
These same women are also endorsing yet more brutal and extreme restrictions on women’s reproductive rights: http://motherboard.vice.com/blog/birth-credits-population-control?trk_source=recommended
I just wish they could see this lie for what it was; destructive and genocidal. Anyways, super scary. HolyLove. Org
Holy Moly. This is a produce of VICE magazine? This is sad, I hope they are showing the other end of things(AKA the reality of “choice” which of course they are not because why would they, no one to exploit there). It’s like-the entire concept of good Vs. evil is over most heads. The concept of the hero. “What choice did I have,” other than to save the down trodden has turned into “What choice did I have,” than to submit to the evil forces around me and give in to them. Where are the heroes? Where is the heroic virtue? Those willing to die for love, not kill for a lack of it. I need a hero… sigh… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OBwS66EBUcY
The “one-in-three” meme assumes that no woman has more than one abortion.
No it doesn’t. It assumes abortion rates will remain as high as they are now (which is also totally wrong).
I haven’t seen the math behind their claim. But I have statistical skills of my own, and that is an assumption that I had to plug in (along with a constant and high rate of abortions).