by Carder The viewer’s sympathies are rightly with Kirke, who is earnest and direct in what she relates. Yet, at the fear of sounding callous, my immediate reaction to her account was to shrug my shoulders and sigh, “So what?” To be clear, it wasn’t her story I was dismissing, but the tenor of debate […]
Entries for the ‘Post-abortion’ Category
by Kelli A while back I reluctantly attended a girls’ movie night with a few other women in their late 20s. When I arrived, I was informed we were to watch Obvious Child. I was less than one beer in when I deduced none of the women there had ever had an abortion. I quietly […]
Leaders in post-abortion recovery ministry say the church remains reluctant to fully face the impact of abortion within their own congregations.
[Post-abortion counselor Kathy] Rutledge said she once gave her testimony to a group of women at a megachurch in the South and by the end, several women were “practically bawling.” Yet, when Rutledge asked about doing a follow-up, the group’s leader said, “None of my women have had an abortion… and even if they did, they don’t need to be speaking about it.”
by Kelli K Kaufmann wrote a book called The Abortion Resource Handbook, which is meant to guide women through their abortion decisions. It is aimed specifically toward women considering abortion. To put it mildly, the book takes a pro-choice position. In one passage, the author encourages teens not to tell their parents: However sad or […]
by Carder And while some may criticize her for not “keeping her business to herself,” I’m extremely glad that she didn’t stay silent. For starters, while a handful of Black celebs have talked about having abortions (Vanessa Williams and Sherri Shepherd come to mind), it’s rare that young Black celebs speak out. And largely, the […]
by Kelli Dear Friends, please be in prayer for me today. I am fretful over the interview with HuffPostLive yesterday. I am pro-choice only when it’s God’s choice. I was so flustered over her [the interviewer’s] questions & just wasn’t aware that she was trying to trap me. Call me naive. I had an abortion […]
Recently, abortion proponents decided if you can’t beat, join ‘em, and began urging their people to counter post-abortive stories of regret with post-abortive stories of relief.
Even Planned Parenthood president Cecile Richards finally admitted to having an abortion skeleton in her closet, claiming it was easy peasy, even if something about it kept her from sharing the good news beyond her inner circle for years and years.
by Carder I thought I was going to die…. I was a teenager. It was the hardest thing I’d ever gone through. … It’d be contradictory if I said I wasn’t pro-choice…. I wasn’t ready. I didn’t have anything to offer a child. ~ Rapper Nicki Minaj reflecting on her abortion in an interview with […]
Notice that both abortion stories share this same, perverse theme: abortion is a way to “save” my child. Also notice that both women were using birth control and still wound up pregnant. I mention that as an aside, but it’s worth considering in its own right….
by Kelli “People influence others with regard to all manner of things. In this situation, people who are supportive [of legal abortion] are hearing one thing, and people who are opposed to abortion are less likely to hear those stories,” Sarah Cowan, an assistant professor in NYU’s Department of Sociology and the study’s author, told […]
Planned Parenthood President Cecile Richards disclosed in Elle in October that she had had an abortion:
I had an abortion. It was the right decision for me and my husband, and it wasn’t a difficult decision. Before becoming president of Planned Parenthood eight years ago, I hadn’t really talked about it beyond family and close friends. But I’m here to say, when politicians argue and shout about abortion, they’re talking about me—and millions of other women around the country.
At the time I thought the “it wasn’t a difficult decision” line was terribly insensitive to Richards’ three surviving children. They certainly know it could have been any one of them who was snuffed, in which case so what, according to their mother?
by Carder It’s rarely a straightforward pro-choice or pro-life anthem. The best songs that take on the subject explore the painful decision. But subtle or direct, be warned. These aren’t songs for your commute if you’re not into public crying. ~ Ashley Hoffman introducing the “Ten Most Powerful Songs About Abortion,” including Nicki Minaj’s single, […]
by Carder I was only able to have this abortion because a series of privileges aligned to grant me access to my right… 9. I wasn’t subjected to the abusive requirement of looking at the ultrasound before the procedure. I was given a choice. I said no. 10. I was able to tell my professors […]
by Carder Truth is, I got a girl pregnant when I was in high school, and she ended up aborting the baby. And if that child was still alive, it’d be a teenager by now. And that’s a reality I have to live with. That was something I had to think about when I was […]
by Carder I had an unwanted pregnancy. I had just started my TV show, I knew that in black Hollywood a girl having a baby, they’d get rid of you. I had to do something about it. I had to make a decision to get rid of a child for my career… I knew from […]
I had an abortion. It was the right decision for me and my husband, and it wasn’t a difficult decision. ~ Planned Parenthood CEO Cecile Richards, Elle, October 16 [Photo via Elle]
by Kelli On the left, it has become a source of frustration that the swift acceptance of gay rights has not been accompanied by a broader liberalization of sexual attitudes, particularly around reproductive issues. “That’s where the anti-abortion side has succeeded,” says [gay activist Dave] Fleischer. “They’ve made people feel that to speak up and […]
Guest post by Charlotte Ostermann
50,000,000! When we reached that abortion toll, I woke up, in a way, to the horror of this ongoing holocaust. I wished then, before Internet, email, and computers in every home, there was a way to give names for all those babies. No way!
But the idea of 50millionnames.org was conceived.
by Kelli Ronan tells more about the patients and their reactions to the abortions. Some cry and shake. One cheekily chatted up the abortion staff and offered them discounts at her jewelry store. Ronan finds the distressed ones much easier to work with, though she stresses that she is not judging the matter-of-fact ones. She […]
by Carder I feel like I didn’t realize how much I needed to tell this story until it was happening…. And how I felt afterwards really showed me a part of myself that had stopped kind of living after the abortion experience. It just reopened a part of my life that I had closed so […]
One of the plot lines in a movie I watched over the weekend involved a pregnant mother. The film was set in the 1940s, and I thought how blissfully ignorant were the days before ultrasounds and prenatal diagnoses gave mothers carrying ill or handicapped children the choice to bear them when nature decided or kill them beforehand.
Had Texas state senator and gubernatorial candidate Wendy Davis been pregnant back then she would not have imagined the late-term baby girl doing flips inside her was “suffering.” Rather, Davis would have put her hand on her belly and smiled. Instead, quoting from Davis’ upcoming book, Forgetting to be Afraid, via the AP:
by Kelli Smith was sent to a Boulder, Colorado, clinic run by Dr. Warren Hern [pictured], one of only four late-term abortion providers in the U.S. Smith had only days to arrange for the procedure, which would cost $25,000 — money she had to borrow from family members. She says that she and her husband […]
… [E]ven supposedly “pro-choice” forces buy into the idea that shame is attached to sexual women. Abortion… is described as being a “difficult decision,” one that women struggle with if they are faced with an unwanted pregnancy. That is simply not true for most women. It’s not a difficult decision. If you don’t believe in abortion, it’s not a difficult decision because you’re not going to do it.
by Kelli I started to feel uncomfortable about the signs I was standing in front of. So I asked her what she thought. She started crying. She was angry. “No one told me. No one told me it looked like that,” she said in a broken voice. She continued, talking faster now: “All the reasons […]
Abortion is a normal thing that women do, and we should stop asking women to sit in silence when the topic comes up….
I don’t feel very brave when I talk about my abortion. I feel small and scared.
But I don’t like staying silent out of fear. I don’t think that’s how anyone has ever gone about winning civil rights. And we have a lot of work to do.
by Carder “What are you doing?” “Don’t kill the baby.” He wouldn’t move the car, though horns blared all around us. “Keep driving! I have an appointment!” I shook his headrest. This was not part of the script. “Please don’t kill the baby,” he said again, turning around to face me. He had beautiful big […]
by Carder I am in a committed two-year-plus relationship with a great guy whom I love. We are both in our late 30s. I am not interested in marriage or having children. I am in the relationship until one of us stops enjoying it. I have been open and honest since the beginning with my […]
by Carder I just walked in with my wife. We’re trying to have another kid, and you know what? One in one hundred thousand fetal demise congenital deformity. So you’re yelling at my wife for doing nothing wrong in having a nearly dead baby inside her? And that’s what you’re gonna do?… You’re just yelling […]
https://twitter.com/Doulos2Christou/status/482458053866840064 ~ @Doulos2Christou, responding to Jill’s tweet calling out woman of color @smartstatistic, president of Mississippi NOW, for her glee about the death of her grandchild by abortion
by Carder For women like me who have survived failed abortions as children in the womb, progressing to the point in pregnancy with our own children in which we know we were aborted unsuccessfully during our own mother’s pregnancy is a huge milestone, and this week, I am grateful to have done just that. I […]
It is one of those obvious connections I cannot comprehend the world not seeing.
Actually, liberals, media, and feminists are covering it up, which is why the rest of the world can’t see it. They’re not being told.
At least 59 studies to date confirm that forcibly opening a woman’s cervix to commiit an induced abortion can lead to an incompetent cervix for subsequent births. Even without studies to back that fact up, it’s just common sense.
Other known medical conditions than can lead to premature births and may be related to abortion include “uterine adhesions, infection, mental stress, increased maternal age, and substance abuse,” quoting LifeIssues.net.
Preemie births have skyrocketed since the legalization of abortion in the U.S. in 1973. According to the American Association of Pro-Life Gynecologists and Obstetricians:
Premature birth (birth before 37 weeks) has increased 27% since 1981. In 2007 the premature… rate in America was 12.6% of all live births (and over 17% of all African-American births).
With all that in mind, read this maddening, heartbreaking June 10 Bloomberg article:
I had an abortion at 17 and it was the worst thing I ever did…. I went alone. I was terrified. It was full of other young girls, and we were all terrified and looking at each other and nobody was saying a bloody word. I howled my way through it, and it was horrible. […]
Toni Braxton’s new memoir, Unbreak My Heart, reveals many unknown details about her personal life, including the revelation that she once had an abortion.
“In my heart, I believed I had taken a life – an action that I thought God might one day punish me for,” she wrote in her book, which released Tuesday.
by Carder Because of a Mamas Day article I wrote on the Huffington Post about how an abortion changed the way I experience Mother’s Day, people I’ve never met requested that I kill myself, get raped, die in childbirth (as a Black woman, that is something for which I am at higher risk), and be sterilized (something that […]
by Carder It was very, very difficult for me. It was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever been through in my life. On all levels. Impossibly difficult… ~ Actress Swoosie Kurtz, describing her abortion experience during the 1960s in an interview with HuffPost Live, April 29
According to TMZ.com:
L.A. Clippers owner Donald Sterling told his GF he does NOT want her bringing black people to his games … including Magic Johnson … and it’s ALL on tape.
by Carder The decision comes after she admitted to having sex with a friend a year after her marriage to Mehos, 59, came to an end, and the fling resulted in her being pregnant and having an abortion. Mr Mehos and his ‘relentless’ attorney Eleanor Alter went so far as to suggest that Mrs Mehos’ abortion […]
In July 2013 MediaTakeOut.com broke the story that basketball star J.J. Redick had initiated an “abortion contract” with then girlfriend Vanessa Lopez to abort their baby.
The contract stated the couple would attempt to “maintain a social and/or dating relationship” for one year after the abortion, and if Redick reneged he would pay Lopez $25,000.
On January 31, pro-life hero Cal Zastrow was standing vigil in the biting Michigan winter cold at the Women’s Center of Saginaw abortion clinic when an SUV bearing the insignia, “Holy Cross Children’s Services” pulled into the parking lot. According to Cal in an email update:
This is such a tragedy. And abortion proponents share the blame. They, of course, push for easy access to abortion, deemphasizing its after-affects to the point they absolutely refuse to acknowledge post-abortion depression, which further incapacitates those actually living through it.
Charlotte Dawson, RIP, was born in New Zealand but achieved fame in Australia as a model and a judge on Australia’s Next Top Model.
From The Telegraph, today:
by Carla Stream
Lead moderator at JillStanek.com and blogger at Operation Outcry Wisconsin
I had an abortion 23 years ago. I have written love letters to my daughter Aubrey, sometimes around the date of my abortion, September 5th – sometimes because I have to feel what I feel and type it out.
Over the years I have gained perspective. I carry the regret of paying someone to end my daughter’s life.
by Carder I panicked — I’d just gotten off heroin, I was very skinny and unhealthy, I wasn’t stable…. But I hope people will see where I was then and where I am now and why I decided it’s OK to keep this baby. ~ Teen Mom 2 star Jenelle Evans, explaining the circumstances involved in her decision […]
by Carder The succulent plants are growing in tiny hand-made planters made specially by a ceramic artist. The organization is neither pro-life nor pro-choice, but pro-compassion, offering gifts to women after abortion to show “love and empathy” not “shame and hate.” Why plants? Because scientific research has shown a connection between plants and healing, and the women […]
JLS Note: Not often have I read a post-abortion story that was filled with such compounded tragedy. The following is such a sad read. Thanks to Lisa for wanting to share, with the hope she can stop someone else from making the same mistake.
Guest post by Lisa
When I was 20 years old, I became pregnant and like many, I was scared and not sure what to do. I listened to family members who told me that I had my whole life ahead of me and that having the baby would “ruin” my life. One family member even told me that I would get big and fat, that nobody (including my boyfriend), would want to be with me and would go elsewhere.
I had an ultrasound at only 5 weeks along and could clearly see the heart beat on the ultrasound screen, as small as it was. I was touched by this and so was my mom (grandma), who witnessed it as well. However, as time went on, my anxiety, uncertainty, and indecisiveness grew.
by Carder I’ll never forget the day — it was a Sunday when I was cleaning pots and pans while everybody else was busy praying. A friend came running in and said, “Jones, your girlfriend’s on the phone and she’s crying.” So I ran out, knowing that I wasn’t supposed to leave my station or […]
by Kelli “I feel like God wants me to do this job,” said [Mississippi abortion clinic owner Diane] Derzis, who has a raspy smoker’s voice and a penchant for brightly painted fingernails and chunky jewelry. She started working as an abortion clinic counselor shortly after the first clinic opened in Alabama in the 1970s. Derzis […]
by Kelli If the purpose of this article was to assist women to overcome the stigma of abortion, it is hard to imagine that it succeeded. The fact that this article appears four decades after Roe is proof that the decision failed to reset the nation’s conscience on abortion…. For the advocates of abortion, these […]
When ‘No Easy Decision’ came out, that was the first time that I was hearing other people’s stories, and the first time I had engaged with strangers and people who weren’t my close friends about abortion experiences. That experience with MTV really reinforced for me that it can be really powerful to provide these opportunities […]
With a fetal indications patient — if she refers to it as her baby, I’ll refer to it as her baby. If she’s named the baby, I’ll use the baby’s name too… I would say that most of these patients do decide to see and hold their baby, although many of them have a hard […]
Mom of the Year goes on to describe how her [15-year-old] daughter came to her agonizing decision all by herself, after being counseled by Mom on how hard it was for her (Mom of the Year) to be a teen mom, how as a doula who works with teen moms she sees all the hardships […]