by Carder I feel like I didn’t realize how much I needed to tell this story until it was happening…. And how I felt afterwards really showed me a part of myself that had stopped kind of living after the abortion experience. It just reopened a part of my life that I had closed so […]
Entries for the ‘Post-abortion’ Category
One of the plot lines in a movie I watched over the weekend involved a pregnant mother. The film was set in the 1940s, and I thought how blissfully ignorant were the days before ultrasounds and prenatal diagnoses gave mothers carrying ill or handicapped children the choice to bear them when nature decided or kill them beforehand.
Had Texas state senator and gubernatorial candidate Wendy Davis been pregnant back then she would not have imagined the late-term baby girl doing flips inside her was “suffering.” Rather, Davis would have put her hand on her belly and smiled. Instead, quoting from Davis’ upcoming book, Forgetting to be Afraid, via the AP:
by Kelli Smith was sent to a Boulder, Colorado, clinic run by Dr. Warren Hern [pictured], one of only four late-term abortion providers in the U.S. Smith had only days to arrange for the procedure, which would cost $25,000 — money she had to borrow from family members. She says that she and her husband […]
… [E]ven supposedly “pro-choice” forces buy into the idea that shame is attached to sexual women. Abortion… is described as being a “difficult decision,” one that women struggle with if they are faced with an unwanted pregnancy. That is simply not true for most women. It’s not a difficult decision. If you don’t believe in abortion, it’s not a difficult decision because you’re not going to do it.
by Kelli I started to feel uncomfortable about the signs I was standing in front of. So I asked her what she thought. She started crying. She was angry. “No one told me. No one told me it looked like that,” she said in a broken voice. She continued, talking faster now: “All the reasons […]
Abortion is a normal thing that women do, and we should stop asking women to sit in silence when the topic comes up….
I don’t feel very brave when I talk about my abortion. I feel small and scared.
But I don’t like staying silent out of fear. I don’t think that’s how anyone has ever gone about winning civil rights. And we have a lot of work to do.
by Carder “What are you doing?” “Don’t kill the baby.” He wouldn’t move the car, though horns blared all around us. “Keep driving! I have an appointment!” I shook his headrest. This was not part of the script. “Please don’t kill the baby,” he said again, turning around to face me. He had beautiful big […]
by Carder I am in a committed two-year-plus relationship with a great guy whom I love. We are both in our late 30s. I am not interested in marriage or having children. I am in the relationship until one of us stops enjoying it. I have been open and honest since the beginning with my […]
by Carder I just walked in with my wife. We’re trying to have another kid, and you know what? One in one hundred thousand fetal demise congenital deformity. So you’re yelling at my wife for doing nothing wrong in having a nearly dead baby inside her? And that’s what you’re gonna do?… You’re just yelling […]
https://twitter.com/Doulos2Christou/status/482458053866840064 ~ @Doulos2Christou, responding to Jill’s tweet calling out woman of color @smartstatistic, president of Mississippi NOW, for her glee about the death of her grandchild by abortion
by Carder For women like me who have survived failed abortions as children in the womb, progressing to the point in pregnancy with our own children in which we know we were aborted unsuccessfully during our own mother’s pregnancy is a huge milestone, and this week, I am grateful to have done just that. I […]
It is one of those obvious connections I cannot comprehend the world not seeing.
Actually, liberals, media, and feminists are covering it up, which is why the rest of the world can’t see it. They’re not being told.
At least 59 studies to date confirm that forcibly opening a woman’s cervix to commiit an induced abortion can lead to an incompetent cervix for subsequent births. Even without studies to back that fact up, it’s just common sense.
Other known medical conditions than can lead to premature births and may be related to abortion include “uterine adhesions, infection, mental stress, increased maternal age, and substance abuse,” quoting LifeIssues.net.
Preemie births have skyrocketed since the legalization of abortion in the U.S. in 1973. According to the American Association of Pro-Life Gynecologists and Obstetricians:
Premature birth (birth before 37 weeks) has increased 27% since 1981. In 2007 the premature… rate in America was 12.6% of all live births (and over 17% of all African-American births).
With all that in mind, read this maddening, heartbreaking June 10 Bloomberg article:
I had an abortion at 17 and it was the worst thing I ever did…. I went alone. I was terrified. It was full of other young girls, and we were all terrified and looking at each other and nobody was saying a bloody word. I howled my way through it, and it was horrible. […]
Toni Braxton’s new memoir, Unbreak My Heart, reveals many unknown details about her personal life, including the revelation that she once had an abortion.
“In my heart, I believed I had taken a life - an action that I thought God might one day punish me for,” she wrote in her book, which released Tuesday.
by Carder Because of a Mamas Day article I wrote on the Huffington Post about how an abortion changed the way I experience Mother’s Day, people I’ve never met requested that I kill myself, get raped, die in childbirth (as a Black woman, that is something for which I am at higher risk), and be sterilized (something that […]
by Carder It was very, very difficult for me. It was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever been through in my life. On all levels. Impossibly difficult… ~ Actress Swoosie Kurtz, describing her abortion experience during the 1960s in an interview with HuffPost Live, April 29
According to TMZ.com:
L.A. Clippers owner Donald Sterling told his GF he does NOT want her bringing black people to his games … including Magic Johnson … and it’s ALL on tape.
by Carder The decision comes after she admitted to having sex with a friend a year after her marriage to Mehos, 59, came to an end, and the fling resulted in her being pregnant and having an abortion. Mr Mehos and his ‘relentless’ attorney Eleanor Alter went so far as to suggest that Mrs Mehos’ abortion […]
In July 2013 MediaTakeOut.com broke the story that basketball star J.J. Redick had initiated an “abortion contract” with then girlfriend Vanessa Lopez to abort their baby.
The contract stated the couple would attempt to “maintain a social and/or dating relationship” for one year after the abortion, and if Redick reneged he would pay Lopez $25,000.
On January 31, pro-life hero Cal Zastrow was standing vigil in the biting Michigan winter cold at the Women’s Center of Saginaw abortion clinic when an SUV bearing the insignia, “Holy Cross Children’s Services” pulled into the parking lot. According to Cal in an email update:
This is such a tragedy. And abortion proponents share the blame. They, of course, push for easy access to abortion, deemphasizing its after-affects to the point they absolutely refuse to acknowledge post-abortion depression, which further incapacitates those actually living through it.
Charlotte Dawson, RIP, was born in New Zealand but achieved fame in Australia as a model and a judge on Australia’s Next Top Model.
From The Telegraph, today:
by Carla Stream
Lead moderator at JillStanek.com and blogger at Operation Outcry Wisconsin
I had an abortion 23 years ago. I have written love letters to my daughter Aubrey, sometimes around the date of my abortion, September 5th – sometimes because I have to feel what I feel and type it out.
Over the years I have gained perspective. I carry the regret of paying someone to end my daughter’s life.
by Carder I panicked — I’d just gotten off heroin, I was very skinny and unhealthy, I wasn’t stable…. But I hope people will see where I was then and where I am now and why I decided it’s OK to keep this baby. ~ Teen Mom 2 star Jenelle Evans, explaining the circumstances involved in her decision […]
by Carder The succulent plants are growing in tiny hand-made planters made specially by a ceramic artist. The organization is neither pro-life nor pro-choice, but pro-compassion, offering gifts to women after abortion to show “love and empathy” not “shame and hate.” Why plants? Because scientific research has shown a connection between plants and healing, and the women […]
JLS Note: Not often have I read a post-abortion story that was filled with such compounded tragedy. The following is such a sad read. Thanks to Lisa for wanting to share, with the hope she can stop someone else from making the same mistake.
Guest post by Lisa
When I was 20 years old, I became pregnant and like many, I was scared and not sure what to do. I listened to family members who told me that I had my whole life ahead of me and that having the baby would “ruin” my life. One family member even told me that I would get big and fat, that nobody (including my boyfriend), would want to be with me and would go elsewhere.
I had an ultrasound at only 5 weeks along and could clearly see the heart beat on the ultrasound screen, as small as it was. I was touched by this and so was my mom (grandma), who witnessed it as well. However, as time went on, my anxiety, uncertainty, and indecisiveness grew.
by Carder I’ll never forget the day — it was a Sunday when I was cleaning pots and pans while everybody else was busy praying. A friend came running in and said, “Jones, your girlfriend’s on the phone and she’s crying.” So I ran out, knowing that I wasn’t supposed to leave my station or […]
by Kelli “I feel like God wants me to do this job,” said [Mississippi abortion clinic owner Diane] Derzis, who has a raspy smoker’s voice and a penchant for brightly painted fingernails and chunky jewelry. She started working as an abortion clinic counselor shortly after the first clinic opened in Alabama in the 1970s. Derzis […]
by Kelli If the purpose of this article was to assist women to overcome the stigma of abortion, it is hard to imagine that it succeeded. The fact that this article appears four decades after Roe is proof that the decision failed to reset the nation’s conscience on abortion…. For the advocates of abortion, these […]
When ‘No Easy Decision’ came out, that was the first time that I was hearing other people’s stories, and the first time I had engaged with strangers and people who weren’t my close friends about abortion experiences. That experience with MTV really reinforced for me that it can be really powerful to provide these opportunities […]
With a fetal indications patient — if she refers to it as her baby, I’ll refer to it as her baby. If she’s named the baby, I’ll use the baby’s name too… I would say that most of these patients do decide to see and hold their baby, although many of them have a hard […]
Mom of the Year goes on to describe how her [15-year-old] daughter came to her agonizing decision all by herself, after being counseled by Mom on how hard it was for her (Mom of the Year) to be a teen mom, how as a doula who works with teen moms she sees all the hardships […]
To mark the 25th anniversary of this solemn occasion, Citizens for a Pro-Life Society, Priests for Life, and the Pro-Life Action League are co-sponsoring a National Day of Remembrance for Aborted Children on Saturday, September 14, asking pro-lifers to hold memorial services at 39 grave sites of aborted babies across the country. In addition, services will be held at hundreds of memorial sites dedicated to aborted babies.
I am not a huge fan of abortion, but we both had sports careers, plus we could not financially handle a baby,” said Mr. Haslem, noting how he struggled with supporting Kedonis, the son he had in high school, who is now 14 and who lives with his mother. “Udonis appreciated that I was willing […]
I am a man. I could say this has nothing to do with me. Except I have two daughters and I have a mother who was forced to illegally have an abortion in her state where abortion was illegal when she was a very young woman. It cost $600 cash. It was a traumatizing thing […]
by Kevin Burke, LSW (reposted with permission from Men Regret Lost Fatherhood)
If the legal documents are accurate and since the event is now public, admit you participated in the death of this unborn child with a degree of coercion given the circumstances. Forget the public denials – embrace the painful but liberating grace of humility!
The mother experienced symptoms of post abortion trauma after the procedure. Publicly apologize to Lopez, pray she find healing of her loss and embrace the forgiveness and mercy of the Lord.
But there was a high road. Alas, Redick chose the low road. From his Twitter account last night…
Yesterday, MediaTakeOut.com released an abortion contract dating back to 2007 between NBA player J. J. Redick and then-girlfriend Vanessa Lopez.
I’ve had this and other documents related to that abortion for the better part of two weeks but out of concern for Vanessa wanted to make contact with her before going public.
In beginning to consider an abortion, I looked first to the law. Islamic law makes allowances for abortion up to 16 weeks into the pregnancy (and beyond when the mother’s life is at risk). The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said, “Verily, each of you is gathered together in his mother’s womb for forty days, in the […]
Q: Did you have the feeling that abortion was something that needed to be portrayed more realistically on screen? A: The most realistic examples I can think of are Parenthood or Friday Night Lights, but both of those shows were dealing with teenage pregnancy, which is a very different situation. Several of my friends have […]
It was my pleasure to interview Pat Layton, author of Surrendering the Secret: Healing the Heartbreak of Abortion, in honor of Abortion Recovery Awareness Month.
Carla: Please share some of your personal story with me.
Pat: I had an abortion when I was 23 years old. I had an allergic reaction to the anesthesia and was rushed to the hospital and put on a respirator. Weeks later I had to go back and abort the rest of my baby. I never thought about what I was aborting. After that there was 7 years of drinking, doing drugs and other self destructive behaviors including suicide attempts. I surrendered my life to Christ and wrote the Surrendering the Secret bible study in 1986. I started a Pregnancy Resource Center and began to minister to post abortive women using Surrendering the Secret.
It’s a lot easier to get someone in the stirrups if they’re uneducated about the subject, and once they’ve had their abortion, facts are going to be irrelevant to them from that point forward, because the denial/anger/misery-loves-company mindset will take over and then she can take her place as the one trying to get someone […]
I think it’s unfair for women facing what must be the hardest decision of their lives to now have to drive down Ontario Street and be reminded of that, and judged for it, and face more stigma about this really important decision. ~ Pamela Arnott, a resident “offended by the message” of the pro-life billboard […]
“Surrender the Secret” follows five women on their path to forgive themselves and find healing after abortion. Geoffrey Rogers, president and CEO of KnockTV, says that the support for the online show has been phenomenal, allowing it to reach 50 different countries despite a $0 marketing and advertising budget. The best part is that, according […]
by Carla CNN has invited mothers who have had abortions (post-abortive mothers) to “share your story via video, audio or text”: As much as abortion gets debated politically, rarely do we read stories of women who have chosen to terminate a pregnancy. We want to hear from anyone who has had first-hand experience with abortion. […]
Scientific American termed the research findings another way: “Scientists discover children’s cells living in mothers’ brains.”
But I wanted to drive home a touching point: Mothers who terminate their pregnancies apparently don’t completely rid themselves of their babies. The cells of murdered children live on inside their mothers to help – or perhaps – hurt them:
Things were not going well between us and it was a mutual decision. I don’t think that it was easy for either one of us. I think it was a very difficult and poor choice and I think that there are probably regrets both ways. ~ 2001 divorce testimony of Republican Tennessee Congressman Scott DesJarlais, who […]
The baby would likely be stillborn in the seventh or eighth month. If carried, miraculously, to term, it would suffer from Trisomy 18, likely Down syndrome and heart failure. It did not possess a nasal bone….
Other women may have carried to term, or as close to term as possible, a child whose condition could allow it to live for a few days, or weeks, or maybe a few years. But faced with the impossibility of this loss, we chose to face it then, before a child had the chance to win our hearts and let us hope for the impossible.
Hand holding can be physically challenging. I have come home with scratches on my hands from fingernails, or swollen fingers that were gripped too tightly for too long…. The more challenging part is finding fresh but neutral points of conversation. I want to keep her distracted and entertained but dodge any potentially emotionally triggering topics… Hand holding can be emotionally draining. […]
I see being a doula as a political act and I believe that abortion, pregnancy, and childbirth can be a radical act of love and resistance. I’ve held the hands of thousands of people during their abortions and the compassion and love that I’ve witnessed while supporting someone during their abortion has shaped the kind […]