Has "pro-choice" lost its cool?

cool, amie newman, rh reality check, abortion, pro-choice, pro-life.jpgI don't know when it happened. Maybe we're in the middle of it. But a couple unrelated observations yesterday made me realize "pro-choice" is losing its coolness in liberaland.

1st was Amie Newman's post on RH Reality Check entitled, "Dear progressive allies in health care reform: Where were you on the Stupak Amendment?" Amie took liberal groups to task for ignoring the abortion issue...

In my email inbox, I'm getting elation-infused emails from Moveon.org, my state Democratic party, Americans for Democratic Action, even SEIU. Organizations for which I have tremendous respect - truly. But even as your emails proclaim that "the fight is far from over", none of you mention the heinous hit women's access to abortion care took when this House bill was passed.

Not one of your emails even references the fight pro-choice legislators and women's health advocates have ahead of us. Not one of your emails touches on the ways in which abortion access is critical to a broader progressive agenda....

We pro-lifers are used to being the red-haired stepchildren of the conservative movement, continually fighting fiscals and politicians against ignoring our issue.

But I'd never read a similar lament from the other side. Interesting. Amie and I could probably go for coffee and compare notes were we not arch enemies, which is too bad. Maybe on Christmas Eve we can call a truce like the Germans and Americans did during WWII. But I digress.

2nd, I was forced to sit through this Pearl Jam/Target ad before getting to watch a news video I was interested in....

That Target hand stamp at the very beginning... It took me back to the 1992 MTV Unplugged concert when Eddie Vedder wrote "PRO-CHOICE!!!" on his arm with black magic marker. It comes at about 2:15...

I thought, I don't think he'd do that today. Not only because Vedder has aged some and it would be a tad creepy for a 44-year-old man to write "PRO-CHOICE!!!" on his arm... but something has changed in the past 17 years. "Pro-choice" isn't so hip anymore. It's sad. It's worn and tired.

I think it's lost its cool.

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Comments:

I hope you are right Jill. It was great to see a pro life fiscally conservative Bob McDonnell win easily in Virginia. And his opponent certainly brought up abortion and social issues as Democrats always do, but it didn't hurt McDonnell at all. If anything it may have helped him, although I think the economy was by far the biggest issue to voters.

Posted by: Joanne at November 12, 2009 12:33 AM


Not one of your emails even references the fight pro-choice legislators and women's health advocates have ahead of us. Not one of your emails touches on the ways in which abortion access is critical to a broader progressive agenda....

The reason why abortion is uncool - because it hurts women, kills children and advances the cause of a "broader progressive agenda…"

Nice to know victimizing the hell of out women and children, as well as denigrating men is so fundamental to "progress". Like moving towards totalitarianism at breakneck speed - damn the people.

I guess women are simply tired of making choices that hurt themselves while others profit from it.

Posted by: Chris Arsenault at November 12, 2009 5:23 AM


It's sad. It's worn and tired.

That's why I tell my liberal friends to come out and call themselves 'pro-abort.' Just put it out there and wear it with pride. Abortion doesn't need to be cool. It just needs to be out of the closet so it is accepted for what it is - a necessary component of healthcare. You can't have a civilized society without it. Yes, it is the killing of a fetus. But civilized societies are able to deal with that. The European Union didn't make abortion rights a requirement for membership because they are evil monsters. It's because they recognize family planning as a fundamental component of public health. I know I must be horrifying the readers of this blog, again.

So - we can't be cool. Just legal, protected, and accepted. We're not plastic surgeons. We actually save lives.

Posted by: Dhalgren at November 12, 2009 7:12 AM


Slavery was once legal. I doubt any descendant of slave owners are proud of that fact that their ancestors owned slaves.

Abortion is NOT COOL. It hurts women mentally and physically. It destroys an unborn child that hasn't even gotten a chance to show his/her potential to the world.


50 MILLION+ abortions......that's definitely NOT RARE!

Posted by: LizFromNebraska at November 12, 2009 7:23 AM


I think that people are "seeing" the pictures of abortion, in spite of the fact that many don't want to look at them, and realizing that indeed, they are killing a baby. I think for years, it was just a concept, and now it is a reality. It is hard to push away the reality of what you are doing, when they pictures tell the truth. I know there are many out there who do not agree with them, because they are sick to see. Reality is, that is what an abortionist sees every single day, which makes you question the stability of the abortionists, and all of the employees around him, who are seeing the same thing. I mean who in their right mind would think the person who can kill is the cool person in the room?

Posted by: IDSCforlife at November 12, 2009 7:39 AM


I think you are right. Between being able to see ultra-sounds and grandparents who want to keep the baby in the family more and more, each family has these positive experiences with pre-born babies these days. I sometimes wonder if a video can be done showing that instead of two groups - the born and unborn- we are actually all HUMANS. The video would should a newborn boy and label him HUMAN, a teenage girl and label her HUMAN and so on until you get to the unborn and label her HUMAN. HUMAN ALL. Sounds powerful to me.

Posted by: Dee at November 12, 2009 7:46 AM


I think pro-choice lost its cool when NARAL shut down its Generation Pro-Choice site, where teens could self-identify as "Choicesters," send each other "sassy e-cards," submit pro-abortion poems and tell the world "which politically aware celebrity I resemble."

Kewl !!!!!!!!

Posted by: The Raving Theist at November 12, 2009 7:49 AM


Has prochoice lost its cool?

Why yes. Yes, it has.

Posted by: carla Author Profile Page at November 12, 2009 8:06 AM


Yes, it is the killing of a fetus. But civilized societies are able to deal with that....We actually save lives.

Posted by: Dhalgren at November 12, 2009 7:12 AM
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You're full of BS. The issue is elective abortions - meaning it's about choice. If the pregnancy is life endangering it's not a choice. No one is against that, because the effort to save one life is morally better than losing both.

And why don't you really hang it out there and state you're for killing "unborn human beings" instead of wimply couching your language and calling it a fetus - because no one is fooled anymore by those who still resort to dehumanizing technical terms.

You're not horrifying us - just showing everyone you still can't explain the simple truth of where you're coming from even though you're saying you are.

So the only one you're fooling is yourself.

Posted by: Chris Arsenault at November 12, 2009 8:19 AM


Oh come off it, Dhalgren. Abortion is not healthcare. Civilized society does not kill its children. Thank God for Ireland!

Posted by: Lauren at November 12, 2009 8:29 AM


So...does that make Africa the land of cannibals, Dhalgren? Filled with wild animals!

{I've actually read this in a pro-choice argument once- "Just look at the differences between Europe and Africa. In Europe, it's legal and in Africa they're animals.")

Posted by: Vannah at November 12, 2009 8:40 AM


"That's why I tell my liberal friends to come out and call themselves 'pro-abort."...

..."It just needs to be out of the closet so it is accepted for what it is - a necessary component of healthcare.

You can't have a civilized society without it.


"Yes, it is the killing of a fetus."

Posted by: Dhalgren at November 12, 2009 7:12 AM
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Well hello Dhali,

Let us start with the last line, first.

When your dearly beloved mother was pregnant with you what species of embryo/fetus was present in her uterus?

Please if you are exhorting your cohorts to come 'out of the closet', then be intellectually honest and come all the way out. Don't be like the frog who only jumps half the remaining distance to the wall, ensuring he/she will never quite get there.

Do not use the term 'fetus' in a discussion about abortin on demand without identifying correctly what kind of fetus you are talking about.

You may finally make the connection that abortion on demand is homicide at the least.

Then you might actually establish some hierarchy of importance in the area of competing human rights.

Second, If elective abortion is 'health care' or 'reproductive health care' then whan ailment or physical abnormality is it treating?

Third, If not having access to elective abortion on demand excludes a country from civilized society then was most of the world uncivilized til the latter part of the 20th century?

You might want to get someone who is less passionate to review your drafts before you hit the 'post' button. It will save you some public humiliation.

yor bro ken

Posted by: kbhavac at November 12, 2009 8:51 AM


"We actually save lives.

Posted by: Dhalgren at November 12, 2009 7:12 AM"
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For every abortion procedure...more than half of the patients don't come out alive...

and IF you combine all the American deaths from ALL the Wars the US has been invloved in since the start of this great nation...it would NOT amount to number of deaths from abortion in this country...and the numbers are still going up...

Yeah, Dhalgren...you and your "movement" save lives....NOT!!!

Posted by: RSD at November 12, 2009 9:00 AM


When your dearly beloved mother was pregnant with you what species of embryo/fetus was present in her uterus?

Ken, I'm amazed how many times you've asked this question without actually receiving a single answer. You'd think it was a tough question or something.

Posted by: bethany Author Profile Page at November 12, 2009 9:13 AM


Dhalgren....yes shoving dilators into a woman's cervix and cranking it open unnaturally, and then shoving instruments into the womb to test its depth (perforation may or may not occur, keep your fingers crossed!) and then topping that off with a little suctioning more powerful than a household vacuum (I mean, would you want a vacuum shoved into any of your body's orifices?)...yes, this definitely saves lives. I know as a young woman of child-bearing age I feel much safer knowing this wonderful, life-saving operation is available to me.

ARE YOU DELUSIONAL????

Posted by: Sydney M at November 12, 2009 9:23 AM


He wrote "pro-choice" on his arm.

Interesting to see what drugs will do to a man..

Posted by: Andrew at November 12, 2009 9:31 AM


It just needs to be out of the closet so it is accepted for what it is - a necessary component of healthcare.

No. I think what more and more people are realizing is that abortion is acknowledged for what it is - the death, dismemberment and destruction of a human person. A person who has every right to live.

Abortion has never been cool, IMO. Since when have we ever seen women going around bragging about their abortions. And we don't see too many men bragging about their partners abortions either. Haven't heard too many teens doin it either- in fact, big secrecy around that demographic group.

Abortion is a shame. And EVERYONE who supports it, has had one KNOWS it.
You're outta the loop there, mr. D.

Posted by: angel at November 12, 2009 9:53 AM


When your dearly beloved mother was pregnant with you what species of embryo/fetus was present in her uterus?

Ken, I'm amazed how many times you've asked this question without actually receiving a single answer. You'd think it was a tough question or something.
Posted by: bethany Author Profile Page at November 12, 2009 9:13 AM


oh but it IS, my dear sweet Bethany!

it can't be human
it can't be a person
it can't have rights
it just can't ever be.

Posted by: angel at November 12, 2009 9:57 AM


Just read this amazing story of a baby delivered at four months because of complications and she survived and is now 12lbs.
http://gmy.news.yahoo.com/vid/16592616

Posted by: truthseeker at November 12, 2009 9:59 AM


"Not one of your emails touches on the ways in which abortion access is critical to a broader progressive agenda...."

Vannah, this is what I have been trying to tell you, and now here is a statement from the other side of the fence saying the same thing. The liberal ideals you are clinging to are tenants of socialism and/or communism (communism being a more extreme and totalitarian-ruled version of socialism), and what she doesn't explain here is the REASON that abortion is integral, but I will tell you why. It is because any society in which the government is the chief provider for its people MUST have their population controlled strictly, or else resources will be depleted faster than they can be repenished. Please think this through and give me a response as soon as you can.

Posted by: xalisae at November 12, 2009 10:17 AM


I think Jill's point is that pro-choice advocacy has lost it's cool. Pro-choice has been compartmentalized into a "private" matter.

Many of these aging musicians, Vedder included, will still consider themselves pro-choice. However there isn't any pride in it anymore because as they get older, have kids, and a wee-bit wiser, they DO realize that in the end, a child has been murdered. And that's not something worth parading around like a tattoo on your arm.

Posted by: Cranky Catholic at November 12, 2009 11:21 AM


Jill wrote:

1st was Amie Newman's post on RH Reality Check entitled [...]

Ugh. Seriously, Jill... you should be eligible for Sainthood, for continuing to wade through that moral/ethical equivalent of swamp gas, for more than 30 seconds, and more than once!

Posted by: Paladin at November 12, 2009 11:27 AM


LOL, Paladin. It's funny because it's true.

Posted by: Bobby Bambino Author Profile Page at November 12, 2009 11:37 AM


...and at the risk of beating a dead horse, Dhalgren wrote:

Abortion doesn't need to be cool. It just needs to be out of the closet so it is accepted for what it is - a necessary component of healthcare.

You do realize that you've offered nothing but raw opinion here, right?

You can't have a civilized society without it.

Raw opinion #2... and as elegant an example of nonsense as any I've seen in a long time.

Yes, it is the killing of a fetus. But civilized societies are able to deal with that.

1) Not very well, apparently... or else there wouldn't be such outrage at attempts to get the graphic results of abortion into the public eye, or such attempts to obfuscate abortion with Orwellian "newspeak", such as "pro-choice", "the right to choose [with direct object left out of the sentence], etc.".

2) To the extent that a civilized society "deals with that", it's not civilized... and its civilization is despite its pro-death actions and views, not because of them. You might as well apologize for genocide, on the same Nazi-esque rationales.

The European Union didn't make abortion rights a requirement for membership because they are evil monsters.

Maybe. It's also possible (among other explanations) that they are fools who've all but lost any vision re: the meaning and value of life (and submerge it in favour of pleasure-seeking). But if you think abortion isn't evil, I'm afraid you're as wrong as you can be.

It's because they recognize family planning as a fundamental component of public health.

Ah, yes... I'd forgotten "family planning" in my list of Orwellian euphemisms; thanks!

And: replace "recognize family planning" with "mistakenly view abortion", and I'll agree with you at once.

I know I must be horrifying the readers of this blog, again.

Friend, if you think you've said anything that abortion-tolerant people haven't said--on this blog, and off--hundreds of thousands of times before, you're quite mistaken. It was sad, true... but hardly shocking enough to inspire horror, for most. So much more the pity.

So - we can't be cool. Just legal, protected, and accepted. We're not plastic surgeons. We actually save lives.

Posted by: Paladin at November 12, 2009 11:44 AM


Jill, I'm not sure we'd do well at coffee together but I know there are issues about which we would agree - improving access to those birth control methods like condoms and diaphragms that prevent unintended pregnancy, addressing our dismal maternal mortality rates - it's the millennium development goal the world's governments are farthest from reaching, improving access to prenatal health care for those women who wish to be pregnant, maybe even expanding access to midwifery services in this country? Not sure about that one.

For what it's worth, for all of your readers, I am a proud mother as are the majority of women who have abortions - they are already mothers. So these hollow calls from your commenters that we're just these evil monsters are just absurd. Your children go to school with our children. We patronize the same stores. We live in your neighborhoods. As much as you want us to be monstrous and horrible, we're loving mothers and fathers, valuable members of our community, helping out at our children's schools, donating money to charity, just like you all are.

Someone watching Jill and I at a cafe together would never know where we each stand on abortion. Not sure our coffee date will ever happen - maybe virtual coffee is best for now.

Posted by: Amie Newman at November 12, 2009 12:53 PM


"For what it's worth, for all of your readers, I am a proud mother as are the majority of women who have abortions "

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Ok..let me get this straight, you're PROUD to be the mother of a dead baby you just had killed intentionally???

Yes or NO, pls.

Posted by: RSD at November 12, 2009 1:02 PM


Actually we pro-lifers don't make you pro-aborts out to be the monsters...but you sure try to paint pro-lifers that way. That we're KILLING women, that we HATE women, that we want everybody to give birth to 18 children a piece, that we don't care about the starving in this world, or the homeless etc...Its always the liberal pro-aborts who paint us in the pro-life side of things to be uncaring and hateful to the core.

I know many women having abortions are already mothers. That I just can't understand. I was already pro-life but since carrying my son and giving birth I am even MORE committed to stopping abortion! Now that I have experienced pregnancy with all its ambivalence and excitement, physical exhaustion and superhuman strength....the ups and downs of it all (and the ups and downs of being a mom) I respect it all the more and detest the slap in the face that abortion is to all women. Its demeaning to me that abortion exists even if I never had one.

How any woman can give life to one child and deprive life to the next...its awful.

Posted by: Sydney M at November 12, 2009 1:43 PM



oh and one more thought....my pregnancy was unplanned and my husband and I are poor. We were even poorer when we found out we were expecting. It was a shock, and at one point they thought my life was in danger. But abortion was never an option, and THANK GOD because my little boy just turned 3! He wants to fly helicopters when he grows up, loves transformers, his favorite color is yellow and every night he kisses me and says "I love you mommy. you're my best bud!" Every sacrifice made on his behalf has been worth it. Its always worth it fight for life!

Posted by: Sydney M at November 12, 2009 1:58 PM


I keep hearing about some Abortion Pride movement starting but have yet to see the t-shirts and the banners, posters, flags and parades...hmmmm.
If you are proud of your abortion then shout it to the skies!! Happy, smiling, proud and joyous abortion to you!

If you aborted and like me will regret it until the day you die then join with me and make your voice heard how abortion hurt you and killed your child.
http://operationoutcry.org

If you are struggling and need help after your abortion please call the National Helpline for Abortion Recovery.
1-866-482-LIFE

Posted by: carla Author Profile Page at November 12, 2009 2:27 PM


Posted by: Amie Newman at November 12, 2009 12:53 PM
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Amie - some simple truths for you to ponder:

• When a woman is pregnant - she is already a mother.

• You can't have an abortion without being a mother already.

• Her child is a human being.

• Violently killing an innocent human being - your own child, is not an act of love.

• When an abortion is complete, it doesn't make the woman any less of a mother, only the mother of a dead child, by her own consent.

• Violent absolute force used against innocent human beings is not only morally wrong, it is completely indefensible.

• If violent absolute force was used against you without legal or physical defense you'd be victimized. If no one acknowledge you as a human being them you'd be a dehumanized victim.

• Victimizing our children, no matter how young or old is not loving.

• No matter how normal behaving the mother who elects abortion may be, it doesn't justify the shredding/killing of innocent human beings.

• While it's morally wrong to abort, most women electively do it because it's both culturally and legally available.

I don't condemn women who've aborted because I feel they're victims themselves. However, when someone fully knows the truth of abortion but rejects truth to profit, either financially or politically by encouraging abortions, then I have no compassion or mercy for them.

Posted by: Chris Arsenault at November 12, 2009 2:44 PM


J: Would a meeting likely come to pass if you had coffee & Amie just continued with her favorite beverage, Kool-Aid?

Posted by: Angela at November 12, 2009 5:02 PM


"For what it's worth, for all of your readers, I am a proud mother as are the majority of women who have abortions "

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Ok..let me get this straight, you're PROUD to be the mother of a dead baby you just had killed intentionally???

Yes or NO, pls.
Posted by: RSD at November 12, 2009 1:02 PM


like I said, these women just don't get it.
She's a proud mother of a dead baby she killed!
Wow. The dissociation required to think like this boggles the mind.

Posted by: angel at November 12, 2009 5:08 PM


"....addressing our dismal maternal mortality rates - it's the millennium development goal the world's governments are farthest from reaching...."

Amy,

Maternal mortality rates are probably lower now than any other time in history. If you want to provide a better life for women, you can't abort them. Let's solve the problem of abortion and not ignore it.

If access to abortion is so important, why don't you set up abortion-brigades to travel around the world with the sole purpose of doing abortions? Think of how quickly and safely unwanted babies could be killed. The Netherlands already has an abortion-boat for this purpose to serve those women (and men) who live in countries with restrictions on abortion. Or is that just too much reality for pro-choicers to deal with? Better to just talk about it and send "reproductive care packages" to the rest of the world?

Seriously think about what you are advocating. Advocating abortion in poor countries where the infant mortality rate is extremely high results in mothers and fathers who will have no one to care for them in their old age, and no one to provide goods and services for their economies. There are serious social consequences to abortion that pro-choicers ignore.

Posted by: Janet at November 12, 2009 5:26 PM


What great comments. Chris, you nailed it brother. I'm probably going to "borrow" your comments and save them for just the right pro-abort...

Don't be surprised if you see them on a future post:)

Posted by: Ed at November 12, 2009 6:59 PM


"• When a woman is pregnant - she is already a mother."

And a man is already a father. There are three victims with each abortion. The mother, baby, and the father. An abortion is a slap in the face to the man who is given no choice. My heart breaks for these men.

Posted by: Janet at November 12, 2009 8:08 PM


From a commenter at RH Reality Check:

"For the benefit of hierarchical society"
"The Hyde amendment is sexist and classist and should be overturned because it is sexist and classist. The Stupak policy is sexist and classist and should be removed because it is sexist and classist. I don't like it when abortion polls are used to justify society enforcing nature's sexism and I'm tired of women and poor people being treated as 2nd class -- even if it is more convenient for people who are benefitted by a hierarchical society."

She must have been a "Women's Studies" major in college. What a dumb major. (Sorry, pro-lifers.) Nature is sexist? Well, yeah...

Abortion-love is about power and control. Women wanting control over their mates and offspring no matter the price. That's NOT natural.

Posted by: Janet at November 12, 2009 8:44 PM


I think pro-choice has lost its cool.
In the age of ultrasound, who can deny that a human fetus is a little human being?

We can and do routinely witness little people on ultrasound machines, and most of us can't put a 'pro-choice' happy face on it or celebrate killing them as a right. Consider the opinion shift in the general population. The cognitive dissonance is too great for most people to endure anymore.

Posted by: Mary Ann at November 13, 2009 1:37 AM


Amie, I don't think you're a monster, and I know lots of post-abortive mothers.

The lack of emails in your inbox should confirm something you might not want to face. More and more people are seeing fetuses for who they are, and realizing the violence of abortion.

And now, we want to face it and move on to better choices that honor the lives of women AND their children. What's so bad about that?

Posted by: Mary Ann at November 13, 2009 1:40 AM


I'm a post-abortive woman (I had mine 8 years ago as a college junior). Being pro-choice was never about being cool, it's about defending my right to make my own reproductive healthcare decisions as I see fit, including having an abortion. For whatever reason, there are huge numbers of people (including some other women, bafflingly) who want to take away that right from me rather than doing the logical, reasonable thing and simply refraining from getting an abortion themselves if it bothers them so much. I don't go around telling other people they should have to get an abortion, because that would be none of my business whatsoever, but I'm not given the same respect from people on the other side of the issue. One of the earlier commenters said that nobody goes around bragging about their abortions. Duh. Even if you ignore the fact that there's the risk of being viciously demonized for being open about having an abortion (by the kinds of people that seem to read this site, apparently), what medical procedures do you see people "bragging" about getting anyway? I've never seen anyone brag about having a triple bypass or an appendectomy either.

Posted by: AnnaMarie at November 13, 2009 2:50 AM


Anne Marie, if abortion only affected one person, I would absolutely leave it up to the woman to decide, and just refrain from having one myself if I thought it was wrong. Unfortunately, abortion does involve more than one person, and I cannot ignore the person who is victimized by abortion.

As an advocate of "women's rights", does it not bother you to think that the baby you aborted could have been a female? She could have been an 8 year old girl today.

I am sorry for your loss... and I hope that in time you will be able to heal.

Posted by: bethany Author Profile Page at November 13, 2009 7:46 AM


Anna Marie--it is the PRO-CHOICE side that said women should "brag" about their abortions. Several hollywood celebrities like Amy Brennemen or whatever her name is, stood up and said she was "proud" she'd had an abortion. They said they wanted to make t-shirts that "proudly" stated "i had an abortion!" and have women wear them everywhere to bring abortion away from its "stigma".

Carla was making the point that so much for all that talk...its never happened! Where are the legions of women strutting through the supermarket with their "I had an abortion t-shirt" on? how come I don't see them at the gym? Where's the "I had an abortion" poster taped in an office cubicle? 50 million abortions since 1973...where are all these proud aborters?

I agree with Bethany...if an abortion affected your body only then I wouldn't stick my nose in your business. BUT...abortion kills a baby. Even abortionists admit that. (Former abortionists and current) So I can't but help and speak out against abortion knowing a child who cannot speak out is going to be killed. Sometimes the child is aborted anyways, and sometimes I change someone's mind...and seeing a baby grow that I helped save makes it all worth while!

Posted by: Sydney M at November 13, 2009 8:53 AM


Why would someone demonize anyone for having an abortion if it's just a bunch of cells? If it's just a piece of tissue what is there to regret? If it's like having a tooth pulled then what's the issue?

If abortion did not take the life of a tiny preborn human being I would have no problem with it. If abortion did not hurt anyone I would be all over it. If abortion actually helped women then I would be grateful for it.

Posted by: carla Author Profile Page at November 13, 2009 10:45 AM


AnnaMarie,
My daughter would be 18 years old if she hadn't died in the abortion clinic. She would be with me today had I not been so selfish, so lost, so completely vulnerable to abortion as a way to have a career, a husband, a family, a life. I have all of those things now and Aubrey should be here.

I am sorry you think you did the right thing and your child payed for it with her life. Mine did too but I thank God I know the truth. Praying for you.

Posted by: carla Author Profile Page at November 13, 2009 10:50 AM


I'm proud of my tubal ligation. If they made t-shirts that said "Don't worry, I had my tubes tied." I'd buy it. /strut

I know you don't understand how other women could possibly want to take away your "right" to kill your children, but let me explain to you MY reason:

My daughter. So many people thought I should abort her, but now she's a 7 year old girl who will grow into a woman who will have rights of her own one day, and all because I didn't take away HER right to live through abortion. Please try to think outside yourself for a minute. Please.

Posted by: xalisae at November 13, 2009 2:50 PM


Xaslisae--you have my profound respect for standing strong in the face of such opposition. I know you don't regret your decision for a minute and I think what you went through is a lesson for all. Having read bits of your story before I can only say that I hope your daughter grows up to understand what a strong, wonderful mother she has!

Posted by: Sydney M. at November 13, 2009 7:15 PM


Thank you, Sydney. Your kind words remind me that I must always strive to be a better person for her sake. We all need improvement, especially me. (a healthy attitude for anyone to keep. :P )

Posted by: xalisae at November 13, 2009 7:43 PM