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Sunday Word: “He will honor you, and you will see the wicked destroyed”

18 I disappearDon’t be impatient for the Lord to act! Keep traveling steadily along his pathway and in due season he will honor you with every blessing, and you will see the wicked destroyed.

I myself have seen it happen: a proud and evil person, towering like a cedar of Lebanon, but when I looked again, he was gone! I searched but could not find him!

But the good person – what a different story! For good people – the blameless, the upright, those of peace – have a wonderful future ahead. For them there is a happy ending.

But evil people shall be destroyed, and their posterity shall be cut off.

~ Psalm 37:34-40, Living Bible/God’s Word translations

Mother’s Day Word: “Her children respect and bless her”

Happy Mother's DayA good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long.

She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing. She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises. She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.

First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started. She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking. She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor. She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear. She makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks. Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers. She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops. Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.

When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive. Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise: “Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!”

Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God. Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her life with praise.

~ Proverbs 31:10-31, The Message translation

Tragic note from 15-yr-old post-abortive mom

On March 20, 2007, I published a touching email I received from reader Bethany about her miscarried baby, who she named Blessing. Bethany included photos.

With Bethany’s permission, I posted her note and pictures. Not only did that note lead to a lasting friendship between Bethany and myself, she also went on to moderate this blog for several years and many of you know and love her.

In honor of Infant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness Day today, Bethany mentioned that post on her Facebook page. She wrote:

This post about Blessing somehow became so popular that it has been the number one post on Jill’s blog, for years… and if you type “‘miscarriage” in google images, my baby’s picture is the first that shows up.

As a result, I continually get emails from women all over the world who have had miscarriage, and these pictures have helped provide them with closure. (This spurred me to write a book too).

Many of the comments Bethany receives on her post to this day are thankful. Sometimes moms just need to talk. And every now and then one of the notes is so sad, like this one that was posted on October 13. I’m breaking it up into paragraphs for easier reading….

Hi Bethany . I am 15 years old turning 16 soon . And I jus had an abortion last week Saturday , I was at least 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant . I really wanted to keep my baby because I had such a connection with it even b4 I new for sure that yes I was really pregnant . i didn’t get morning sickness or anything . I was jus going to bed early and waking up everyday at around 4 in the morning due to my baby’s movement .

Even though my boyfriend and I both wanted our baby our mothers thought otherwise . His mother made my mom change her mind and so my mom took me to get the procedure 3days later. My mom has gotten an abortion b4 when she was 19. And my boyfriend’s mother has gotten plenty. Thats why my mom’s telling me i will forget 1 day. But That night b4 my baby was taken away from me I sang to it all night like I used to and told it how much I loved them and how sorry I was .

Bethany , I’m the most sensative and emotional person ever I believe. Ever since last week I have been crying all day everyday at the thought of my inocent baby being gone . I think about my baby and how happy I would be if I could jus feel it’s movement inside me when I sing or rub my belly . And every night i still wake up at 4 in the morning and cry because i have gotten so used to waking up to a kick .Honestly I wish I would have seen your pictures before my procedure so I could show my mother what her grandchild looks like at 6 weeks . I bet she would have changed her mind and let me keep my baby . I’m very mature for my age and has been taking care of babies all my life . I jus dont have money to give my own baby everything it may want . Jus my care , love and affection .

I’m not sure  if its my mind playing tricks on me but I still feel as if my baby is still inside me sometimes . I guess I will find out and let you know when I go back to the doctor on the 29th . I wish I had my ultrasound picture of my beautiful little black dot .

Decisions last a lifetime don’t ever get an abortion you guys . No matter how old u r a baby is still a blessing . and I get teary-eyed everytime i see someone with a baby or pregnant with 1 . The three stretch marks I have will be all i have left . And when I become of age I may get a tattoo around it . Bottom line is I feel bad for all who miscarried their baby and the loss of my own Miracle .

RIP baby , I’m sorry and I do love you . I hope to see you one day. I know I would do anything to have my baby with me right now or at least feel it kick one last time .

Abortion is such a tragedy!

My thought is the baby was much older than 6 weeks, because this young mom has stretch marks and felt her baby kick…

Duggars hold memorial service for tiny baby Jubilee; photos stir controversy

12/16, 2:10p: Here is the touching, insightful letter Michele Duggar recorded for baby Jubilee’s memorial service:

[HT: Moderator Bethany]

2/15, 1:19p: Jubilee Shalom, such a beautiful name given by Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar to their tiny miscarried daughter.

Yesterday the Duggars held a private memorial service for Jubilee, who doctors discovered during a routine ultrasound on December 8 had passed away at the age of five gestational months. The service was reportedly attended “by hundreds.”

As the Duggars have upheld the sanctity of human life through bearing 19 living children, they upheld the sanctity of preborn human life by holding a service to grieve Jubilee’s death. Said Jim Bob during the service:

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Review: Moderator Bethany’s new book, “Answers in a Time of Miscarriage”

by moderator Carla

I must admit I am a bit biased. Ok – a lot biased. I have known and loved Bethany Kerr for a few years now and knew anything she wrote would be heartfelt and honest. She did not disappoint.

Bethany has just published a book, Answers in a Time of Miscarriage. It includes personal stories, a Q&A section, and “What Not to Say” section.

Answers in a Time of Miscarriage stirred many emotions in me since I have had 2 miscarriages and struggled after each.

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Top 10 2010: Stanek’s most read posts

When analyzing my blog’s 2010 page views, moderator Chris discovered that just like last year, many of the most read posts were not actually written in 2010.

So I’m separating out the top 10 most read posts written in 2010 and the top 10 most read tabs and posts written previously.

Note how popular the Duggars remain!

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Stanek’s 10 most read blog posts in 2009

UPDATE, 10:15a: To clarify, these were the most read posts in 2009, not necessarily from 2009 – one of the surprises.
6:44a: I’ve never done a year-end post ranking. While many of the most popular posts weren’t surprising, some were. One was downright weird.
Thanks to moderator Chris for scouring for Google Analytics for stats. FYI, comments to all these posts are closed, an automatic blog shut-off software feature that triggers after several days to keep spammers at bay…
10. “Happy Halloween, pedophile-style,” posted October 16, 2007. This post’s ranking creeped me out. The only reason I can account for its popularity is that pedophiles are perusing it.
michael jackson's kids.jpg9. “Jackson kids potentially in custody contract quagmire,” posted June 26, 2009.
8. “Stanek: 1 month vacation announcement,” originally posted January 5, 2009. Chris’s comment, “Think your readers are telling you something? hehe.” I think the only reason this ranked so high was because it was the only post up for a month!
7. “One year anniversary of Barack Obama’s FOCA fest,” posted July 17, 2008
6. “World’s youngest surviving baby born in Miami,” posted February 20, 2007…

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