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My new role at Susan B. Anthony List

SBA-20_logoOriginally posted June 23, 2015

Dear faithful readers of JillStanek.com:

First, the exciting news: I am honored to have accepted a position at Susan B. Anthony List as its National Campaign Chair! Read more at WorldNetDaily.com. Also read SBA’s press release and a a blurb in Politico’s Pulse.

I have been a long-time admirer of Marjorie Dannenfelser and the SBA List team, many of whom are friends. I partnered with the group during the 2012 election cycle for a bus tour exposing Barack Obama’s abortion/infanticide extremism.

This is a new position, for which I will travel the country on behalf of SBA List, speaking to pro-life activists, donors, and voters to promote SBA List’s aggressive campaign strategy to elect a pro-life president in 2016 and advance the Pain-Capable Unborn Child Protection Act.

This will be a permanent position. After the 2016 election there will be the need to conduct another national pro-life political campaign… and another… and another.

But of immediate importance to me, as you know, is passage of the Pain-Capable Act, because as an RN I witnessed the excruciating deaths of 20+ week abortion survivors who would have been saved had a 20-week abortion ban been in place.

Electing a pro-life president is the gateway to enacting this legislation into law. And, of course, a president also wields a tremendous amount of influence in other areas of importance to pro-lifers, such as funding abortion groups and the pro-death agenda, judicial nominations, and other pro-life/abortion legislation.

I witnessed firsthand how devastating pro-abortion legislators can be when I watched then-state Senator Barack Obama vote four times against the Born Alive Infants Protection Act and take a leadership role in seeing its defeat.

Now, the sad news. Because my position at SBA List will be full-time, I have made the difficult decision to grind almost all activities at JillStanek.com to a halt, after 10 years of blogging here. I will basically be keeping the blog open now for archival purposes, posting my own blogs very infrequently.

After this week we will be streamlining my blog to just those postings, which will also be published at Live Action News. This means no more quotes of the day, pro-life videos of the day, pro-life blog buzz, or pro-life news briefs. Also, there will be no more commenting. All comments will be directed to my Facebook page.

2009-06-04-MSNBC-StanekIt has been a great run. After all, were it not for my blog I would never have been named “Worst Person in the World” by Keith Olbermann!

That goofiness aside, we broke many stories of importance here, including information on late-term abortionist LeRoy Carhart’s victims in 2013.

But times online have changed. The timing of all this is good – and God’s.

In the beginning (10 years online are like dog years), pro-lifers had to check several blog and web sources a day to get all the news they needed. Now, in combination with social media, Live Action News, LifeNews.com, LifeSiteNews.com, and StanekReport.com capture everything we need to know. And there are now many great pro-life writers.

11297838_10153274799331622_1900318693_nSpeaking of StanekReport.com, it will soon become HarmsReport.com. Pro-lifer Monte Harms has been the strongest contributor to SR.com behind the scenes and will be ably taking the helm. (Thanks also to Carole, Susie, and Josh for their help with SR.com.)

Monte has a rich pro-life background, having volunteered for Justice for All and Protest ABQ and done sidewalk counseling at abortion mills. He has also run the blogs Stand for Life and Pro-Life New Mexico.

And what about Kelli, our site’s glue? I’m happy to report she will begin working for Live Action News next week, doing much of the same work she did here. This blog would not have been held together were it not for Kelli, who has poured herself into it for over six years.

Kelli is but one dear friend I have made here. I can’t begin to name all the wonderful moderators and volunteers who have dedicated themselves on this blog, although I must highlight some special people who were here from the beginning, or nearly the beginning – Bethany, Carla, LauraLoo, and MK.

Special thanks to Carder, Hans, and Susie, who have steadfastly posted great stuff here, so helpful to our cause. And I’d also like to thank our current mods: Del, Sydney, and last but not least Bobby Bambino, who has also been a mod since we began having mods!

But most of all, I want to thank YOU, pro-life readers and activists, for your support of this blog but moreso the sanctity of life.

Prayers appreciated!

For Life Together,


Announcing new JillStanek.com crew members!

announcing-thumb-200x301by Carla

I would like to announce some exciting news here at JillStanek.com!

We have reshaped our Mod Squad, which is made up of pro-lifers who have shown themselves to be dedicated, honest, and respectful commenters here.

I’m excited to announce that Del, LibertyBelle, and Sydney have all graciously said YES to accepting the opportunity to moderate this blog! We are excited by their willingness to do this! Carder and Bobby Bambino will carry on as mods as well, and we are very grateful. Many thanks to our outgoing mods Gerard Nadal and Alice.

I will be stepping down as lead mod of this blog. Six years have simply FLOWN by!

I read this blog for years and did not comment until 2007 and was hooked. :) Jill asked me to be a moderator in 2008, and I have learned so much! I have met amazing pro-life warriors who are now lifelong friends and come to understand exactly what those who are pro-abortion think and believe.

I have watched some of those pro-abortion hearts transform into pro-life hearts and have also had the privilege of helping post-abortive mothers who have contacted me. Jill gave me a platform as a post-abortive mom and a chance to speak my heart and bring a name and a face to post abortive regret… and for that I will be forever grateful.

I will be praying for all of you as you continue to fight the good fight here and out there. Saving lives and educating others and celebrating the major pro-life wins in laws that protect mothers and their children. I am so proud of all of you!

This is not goodbye. This is “see ya”!

Jill note: Carla has been a dedicated leader on this blog, taking her role as lead moderator very seriously. I am really going to miss her. And yes, Carla is my go-to friend to whom I send post-abortive moms for compassion, wise counsel, and help with healing. I know I can still go to Carla for that. She has become a dear friend over the years. I am really going to miss her daily presence here.

We are also going to miss Gerard and Alice and thank them for their sacrifices of time here. LauraLoo also needs an extended break away from job-sharing Pro-life videos of the day with Hans. The blog’s glue, Kelli, will be stepping into her shoes.

I want to welcome and thank Del, LibertyBelle, and Sydney, well known and cogent pro-life voices in our blog community. Carder, Bobby Bambino, and Susie are all staying on, whew!

Thanks also to you readers and commenters for indeed making this a special place.

Please support JillStanek.com

2014-05-12_0819When I launched my blog in 2005, many didn’t even know what a blog was! I didn’t have to invest much money in the early days due to the low volume of traffic initially.

The Life Prizes award I am indebted for receiving from the Gerard Foundation in 2008 kept the blog financially afloat as it grew to attract thousands of visitors a day. It enabled my partner Tim, of ProLifeBlogs.com, and I to incorporate (to legally protect us personally), and to hire administrative assistant Kelli to care for our growing managerial needs.

Kelli is the only person associated with this blog to receive a salary. All moderators and writers – Alice, Bobby Bambino, Carder, Carla, Gerard, Hans, LauraLoo, and Susie – are volunteers for whom I know we are all so grateful! Nor have Tim or I ever financially gained from our blogs.

But the Life Prizes award has now been depleted, and we have to finally turn to our faithful readers and believers for financial support to cover Kelli, our monthly server fee, and blog improvements.

As you all know, there are precious few news and opinion sources from inside the pro-life world who can break through the liberal wall of protection that surrounds the culture of death. I am grateful to be one. None of these news sources would have quoted me – which is to say, published a pro-life point of view – except for this blog.

In the nine years JillStanek.com has existed, I’ve never requested financial support. But now it is time.

Please consider donating even $5 a month to keep JillStanek.com providing online news and opinion and providing a forum to share the same.

Thanks in advance for your generosity. :)

Stolen love letter

carlaby Carla Stream
Lead moderator at JillStanek.com and blogger at Operation Outcry Wisconsin

I had an abortion 23 years ago. I have written love letters to my daughter Aubrey, sometimes around the date of my abortion, September 5th – sometimes because I have to feel what I feel and type it out.

Over the years I have gained perspective. I carry the regret of paying someone to end my daughter’s life.

I do not have to Google “letters from post-abortive mothers” for inspiration, and I do not read what others might have written and shared to see if something might “resonate.” I do not surf the web watching for something that might “speak to me.” I sit in the silence and stillness of my own soul and write from a place of deep longing and love.

My motivations for writing have always been the same:

1) to educate others that abortion hurts women
2) to share that there is help and hope and recovery after abortion
3) to share with other mothers who chose abortion
4) to help these mothers realize in the depths of their being that they are not alone – that someone “gets” it… that someone has felt what they feel.

And to honor the memory of my daughter who should be here… who would be 22 years old.

Sadly, one of my letters was plagiarized last week. Someone stole my words to my daughter. She stole several sentences – including ones that contained my Aubrey’s name – and inserted her son’s name instead.

This letter was published by several news outlets and was shared thousands and thousands of times. I saw it in my Facebook news feed and set aside special time to read it, because a post-abortive mother doesn’t just pop some popcorn and decide to do a little light perusing when reading a love letter from a post-abortive mother to an aborted child.

Aubrey 001When I began to read, I immediately felt like I had been punched in the stomach. I knew those words. I knew those phrases. I knew because they came from my soul. And it hurt. It hurt me deeply. And it was wrong. Stealing is wrong.

I am now sharing my letters here, my feelings and thoughts put into words, which have been published on my blog since 2008. These are a legacy of love to a daughter that I one day will meet.

At this time, it feels like the right thing to do to honor my daughter and her memory, to share the journey of regret after abortion, and to stand in the face of an injustice like plagiarism and have the originals.

Below is the full text of the letter to Aubrey from which parts were stolen, followed by links to the rest of my letters and writings to her:


My Girl

Dearest Aubrey,

You should be here. You should be 18 years old. Driving, working, studying, babysitting your siblings. Laughing with me. Loving me. I picture you with long, brown hair like your sisters and big, blue eyes. On September 5th, 1990 you died. I was distraught even as you grew. I was distraught before the vacuum suctioned your body from mine. I was distraught after. Regret hardly conveys the depth of my emotion. A grief and a sorrow that consumes me at times. I can hardly bear it because I did not fight for your life. Fight to protect you. Fight for your right to live and grow and be. I did not place your life before my desperate thoughts of self-preservation. I was deceived into thinking you were a clump of cells, tissue, you were nothing, you were not even a baby.

I know what I have done. I carry it. I own it. I live with it. I would give anything to go back there though, and tell them all to go to hell, walk out that abortion mill door and embrace your life.

The grief I feel is hardly as big as the love, Aubrey. The love I have for you knows no bounds. The joy I have in knowing that I will see you one day. The hope I feel in telling others about you.

You are my daughter and I will honor your short life in every way that I can, as long as I live.

I love you, Aubrey,

“Aubrey” (2008)

“Love Letter” (2010)

“My daughter” (2011)

“Dearest Aubrey” (2012)

Two poems, here and here.

Using social media to save lives

Blue Facebook Logoby Lead Moderator Carla

I have been on Facebook for years and have added many pro-lifers to my friends list in an effort to stay current on pro-life issues. But I also try to educate the friends I have who do not know the truth about the abortion industry.

In at least four instances, I have been involved in helping stop forced abortions by simply responding to status updates or prayer requests on Facebook. These were women and teenage girls being coerced by boyfriends or parents. I responded with immediate practical help and advice to keep innocent lives from being destroyed. One of the ways I did this was to encourage them to contact The Center Against Forced Abortion, which is a project of The Justice Foundation.

My friend, attorney Allan Parker, is at JF to help women who are being forced into abortions. CAFA also provides several forms that can be downloaded, printed, and distributed to young women, their parents, or their significant others. These should be in the hands of every sidewalk counselor and should also be available at pregnancy resource centers.

In the cases where I have been involved, those who were trying to force an abortion were advised that their actions were illegal.

The Center Against Forced Abortion has this to say about coercion:

Problem –

  • Many teenage girls are being coerced into abortion by their parents
  • Pregnancy resource centers are generally unequipped to help legally defend these clients, and subsequently coerced abortions occur
  • Even under Roe v. Wade, the decision to keep the child is supposedly the woman’s alone, so these young women’s rights are being violated when they are coerced into abortion

Response –

  • The Justice Foundation has created a “Dear Parent Letter,” which (in a friendly, helpful, and serious manner) informs the teen mother’s parents that they could be guilty of illegal actions if they force their daughter to have an abortion
  • Combined with Life Dynamics’ Letter to Abortionists, which is a signed statement indicating the mother’s non-consent to an abortion, the two documents form a powerful legal defense that empowers the teen mother to stand for her child

Effectiveness –

  • Gives pregnancy centers a proven strategy to defend teens from parentally coerced abortions
  • Equips the teen mother with legal documents empowering her decision to keep her child
  • Trial distributions indicate the strategy is very effective (testimonies below)
  • If just one baby is saved at two out of every three pregnancy resource centers that receive the letter and training, then CAFA will facilitate the protection of 2,000 babies lives

logoThere have also been instances when abortion vulnerable and abortion minded mothers that have sent personal messages to me on Facebook seeking help. In those cases, I have been able to refer many to pregnancy resource centers, and others to post-abortion recovery programs if they were forced into abortions.

We don’t have to helplessly stand on the sidewalk when a young woman is crying out to us that she DOES NOT want an abortion, and we don’t have to merely post a sad face comment on social media in response. We can help to stop forced abortions!

Lives of mothers and their children have been saved through social media. Facebook has given us all an amazing opportunity to make a difference, and I, for one, will not squander it.

New blog team members!

I’m excited to announce several new additions to the JillStanek.com blog team!

Hans Johnson is now sharing duties with Laura Loo preparing our “Pro-life video of the day” segment, and has been for several weeks now. Hans and LL are both very diligent, working hard to post the latest videos on our topic, sometimes having to switch gears at the last minute for a time-sensitive entry. I so appreciate how seriously they take this important daily post.

We also have two new moderators: Alice and Tyler! Both are well known to post sage, measured comments and came highly recommended by our other wonderful moderators, Bobby Bambino, Carla, Gerard, and Suki.

Speaking of Carla, she has been promoted to Lead Mod! This is a new volunteer position that gives Carla more oversight of the other moderators if there are questions or concerns about certain comments or commenters, etc. Carla also takes the work of moderator quite seriously and recognizes it as an important ministry.

I might as well mention Kelli, who is maintaining her critical role of keeping me and this blog organized. Only she fully knows what a ditz I am when it comes to certain administrative tasks. I know she cares about this blog’s mission as much as I do.

And this is a good time to thank my son-in-law, Andy Moore, for always being just an email away when we have a web crisis, like a crash or slowdown (like earlier today). These have been waaaay less frequent since we switched servers, but we still have our moments.

Kelli and Suki will still split “Quote of the day” duties, which we all look forward to reading every morning. They manage to find some pretty amazing quotes, both good and bad.

Susie spends many, many hours each week compiling our “Pro-life blog buzz” posts on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Her work is invaluable for not only disseminating information from other pro-life blogs to a wider audience but also for helping build a better sense of community.

Angela still works quietly behind the scenes proofreading and cleaning up mistakes I make that she spots before you or I do.

The only sad news I have to report is that dear Bethany and Chris are taking a break from moderating. Bethany’s family has expanded by 2 or 3 children (hard to keep track!) since she started moderating here, and Chris has increased his role at a local pregnancy care center. We will miss them both very much, but they know they are always welcome back.

In closing, I want to let you readers and commenters know how much we appreciate you, whether or not you are pro-life. Of course, we are always striving to convert abortion supporters but do like to read what you have to say.

Again, thanks to everyone for your support, and thanks to all the members of our team for their invaluable help.

Pro-abortion terrorist sentenced to 41 months in prison

Read backstory here.

Theodore Shulman not only threatened to kill several pro-life leaders, he was found in possession of “cyanide and two other deadly substances” when apprehended by the FBI in May 2010. Shulman liked to refer to himself as the “first pro-choice terrorist.”

Shulman faced up to 51 months in prison and a fine of $250,000. An October 3 press release from the U.S. Attorney’s Office, District of New York, indicates Shulman ended up getting sentenced to 41 months in prison, three years supervised release, and a $100 fine.

Odd that there still are no pictures. Imagine if the situation were reversed.

There has also barely a news blip on Shulman since his arrest. Again, were the situation reversed. One of the few news outlets reporting on the sentence had an interesting headline. I expect The Global Dispatch will fix it shortly. Freudian slip, I suppose…

Shulman was apprehended for threatening two pro-life leaders, Professor Robert George of  Princeton and Father Frank Pavone of Priests for Life.

But Shulman also threatened others, including this site’s moderator Dr. Gerard Nadal, Operation Rescue’s Cheryl Sullenger and Troy Newman, Stand True’s Bryan Kemper, Live Action’s Lila Rose, and me. From PoliticsDaily.com in 2011:

In assisting the FBI over the past few years, Jill Stanek compiled more than 4,000 comments that Shulman posted or tried to post on her site over the last four years or so. One example: “I’m looking forward to watching a documentary entitled ‘The Assassination of Jill Stanek’,” Shulman wrote on Oct. 27 in a comment using one of his many online aliases.

Shulman also harassed Carla, Kelli, and several of you commenters. I appreciate how everyone stayed strong and also how the moderators and Kel helped compile information to give to the FBI.

[HT: LifeNews.com via ProLifeStuff on Twitter]

Pro-life blog buzz 9-7-12

by Susie Allen, host of the blog, Pro-Life in TN and Kelli

We welcome your suggestions for additions to our Top Blogs (see tab on right side of home page)! Email Susie@jillstanek.com.

  • Carla from Operation Outcry Wisconsin posts a beautiful letter to her daughter, Aubrey, who died in her abortion 22 years ago.
  • Stand True reports on the verbal attack an 11-year-old girl received from women’s rights activists (including an anti-porn, pro-abortion blogger) while praying against abortion in front of the Democratic National Convention.

  • University of Michigan Students for Life links to the story of a how a LIFE band and a “God-incidence” in the Wal-Mart parking lot saved a child’s life from abortion. Amazing!
  • ProLife NZ points out the hypocrisy of those who support the Paralympics while also supporting abortion as an acceptable alternative to parenting a child with disabilities. They complain about the treatment of the disabled following birth, never realizing that their dehumanizing characterization of them prior to birth helps frame that treatment.
  • Reflections of a Paralytic writes a powerful post about how we can learn from those with disabilities, including Garvan Byrne, who was “terminally ill and handicapped from birth,” but “remained hopeful and optimistic, finding peace and meaning in life that most healthy, able-bodied adults have never seen.” According to Garvan, “I don’t think it matters how handicapped you are or how sick. You always succeed in something. God gave us each a gift.” He passed away at age 12 in 1985.
  • Pro-Life Action League has over 90 cities lined up to participate in the next Stand Up for Religious Freedom rally. Opposition to the HHS Mandate continues to grow. If your city isn’t on the list, organize a rally with the help of PLAL.

  • At Moral Outcry, Ellie Saul shares her heartbreak upon learning that despite celebrating the “sanctity of life,” her church believes that sometimes, abortion is acceptable:

    Surely I’m the only one who heard that as a group of people, on the record, with our tiny feet pins, we believe it’s ok to murder a baby in the womb when conditions are grave or after a medical or religious consultation.

    After service my husband asked a leader whom we admired and he said that he agrees with the amendment. I was still crying. This same person said that I had such a “tender heart” and that was so good for the body. As if to say it was just cheek-pinching cute that this sweet girl is really sad that we just told her its ok to kill babies….

    I believe that the body of Jesus always chooses life under every circumstance.

    We may not choose the circumstance, but we choose LIFE. We don’t agree with the enemy even if a doctor, religious leader, or grave circumstance recommends it….

    I’m not saying that you can’t belong to the body of Jesus if you belong to a congregation that believes something contrary to what Jesus teaches. I am saying that just because you go to church somewhere and believe by default whatever that body believes, does not automatically mean that you really are in agreement with God’s word.

  • My Drop in the Ocean features a video of a Tennessee family who made the right choice when faced with a poor prenatal diagnosis:

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