Chilli of group TLC describes post-abortion stress on VH1 reality show

On the May 9 episode of the VH1 reality show, What Chilli Wants, TLC hip hop girl group member Rozonda "Chilli" Thomas opened up about her abortion.

In the video Chilli described aborting at age 20, about 1991, for sadly common reasons, because she "didn't have the support" and "was so scared."...

On the May 9 episode of the VH1 reality show, What Chilli Wants, TLC hip hop girl group member Rozonda "Chilli" Thomas opened up about her abortion.


In the video Chilli described aborting at age 20, about 1991, for sadly common reasons, because she "didn't have the support" and "was so scared."...

tlc condom.jpgThis was also at the beginning of her musical career, she said, and she didn't know how she could do both it and motherhood.

So Chilli opted to "not have it" (couldn't say "abortion"), which turned out to be "one of the biggest mistakes," because she "didn't want to do that."

Then Chilli began to describe what abortion proponents say doesn't exist, post traumatic stress syndrome* as a result of her abortion. "It messed me up," she said, "I don't know, it broke my spirit."

Chilli felt she lost her "strong self," and that she "gave in, broke to what someone else wanted." Obviously, she felt pressured to abort.

She said she began to break down, to cry "because I wasn't a mommy" - almost every day for almost 9 years.

tron and chilli.jpgChilli decided the only way to "fix it" was to have a baby with the same man, her 1st record producer, Dallas Austin.

Chilli doesn't talk about this in the video, but she indeed had a baby with Austin, son Tron, now ~13 years old, pictured right with her.

I very much appreciate Chilli's honesty.

Ironically - or perhaps subsequently - according to zvents.com, TLC's "musical formula was augmented by the girls' brightly-colored videos and curious costuming: each girl wore unwrapped condoms on their clothing (Left-Eye also wore one in a pair of glasses over her left eye), apparently advocating contraception." See top photo for Left Eye's eye condom. (Tragically, Left Eye was killed in a car accident 8 years ago.)

And TLC's best selling single, "Waterfalls," released in 1995, had partially to do with one woe of practicing indiscriminate sex. (Read lyrics here.) I've always loved this song...

*Post-abortive groups are getting away from calling it "post abortion stress syndrome" and using the more accepted and generic term, "post traumatic stress syndrome." I only used it in my post title to more succinctly explain what it was about.

[HT: Susie Allen of Pro-Life in TN; bottom photo via zimbio.com]


Comments:

Sad. Sad that anyone has to find out "the hard way" what abortion does to a woman physically AND emotionally (probably mentally, too?)

Posted by: Pamela at May 13, 2010 2:02 PM


Sad story -- but where was the "baby daddy," Dallas Austin, during the first pregnancy? Why wasn't he there to help????

Posted by: Phillymiss at May 13, 2010 2:33 PM


Wow! How brave of Chili to come out and admit, not only that she has had an abortion, but also the terrible long lasting effects that one decision has made on her life. The Bible promises that truth will be revealed, and it's through the mouths of brave women like Chili, that bring that promise to life. The truth is abortion not only kills that innocent baby growing in it's mommy's belly, but it also kills some part of every woman who has one.

Posted by: nurse4life at May 13, 2010 2:34 PM


Ah Chilli,
The truth. Thank you for telling the truth. So hear ya!

Posted by: carla Author Profile Page at May 13, 2010 2:54 PM


Thank you, Chilli, for having the courage to speak out. With celebrity comes responsibility, and I hope that your interview inspires your fans to choose life for their children and not "settle" when choosing a romantic partner. I'm sure you'll get a lot of crap from abortion advocates for expressing pain that "doesn't exist" in their world. Remember that we are on your side!!

Posted by: Kelsey at May 13, 2010 2:56 PM


People named "Chili" probably shouldn't be having kids anyway.

Posted by: Marissa at May 13, 2010 5:35 PM


that wasn't her REAL NAME, Marissa. That was part of the name TLC: Obviously she was the "C" in the group name. It says her name is Rozanda.

Posted by: LizFromNebraska at May 13, 2010 5:43 PM


But Marissa. I thought you were all about almighty CHOICE. OMG how DARE you JUDGE another person's CHOICE.

Posted by: Lauren at May 13, 2010 6:36 PM


Let's just hope Chili's words will have an effect on the young women (and guys) who are her fans and they won't make the same tragic mistake she did. Kudos to her for "coming clean" about her abortion.

Posted by: Mike at May 13, 2010 6:45 PM


"In the video Chilli described aborting at age 20, about 1991, for sadly common reasons, because she "didn't have the support" and "was so scared."..."
So much for choice. What a sad story. I'm happy that she was able to go on and have another child. Some post-abortive women aren't so lucky. Perhaps other women will learn from her story and will be less likely to make the mistake she made. One can hope.

Marissa,
Hello there, little troll :)

Posted by: Lucy at May 13, 2010 6:51 PM


Be it noted that the only derogatory comment against Chilli came from a pro-abort, compared to several sympathetic and supportive pro-life comments.

Posted by: Jill Stanek Author Profile Page at May 13, 2010 7:34 PM


I'm pro-choice and I can sympathize with Chilli. Of course abortion can be a difficult decision. Every woman's experience is different.

Posted by: Common sense at May 13, 2010 9:39 PM


And one last thing...why do you (most of the people on this page) only consider a sob story like this to be an authentic abortion experience? What do you make of women who come forward and tell you they felt relief after having aborted their pregnancies?

Posted by: common sense at May 13, 2010 9:46 PM


Posted by: common sense at May 13, 2010 9:46 PM
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Somehow the idea that violently killing a human being is a "relieving" experience strikes most people as bizarre and disturbing. (The relief is temporary until the gravity of the choice sinks in.) Do people who kill older humans run around saying how satisfying and relieving it is?

The only way others can claim relief is by discriminating against the humanity of our youngest, smallest and weakest.

Does violence provide relief?

Following that path is psychotic. Abortion is not an event to celebrate.

Posted by: Chris Arsenault at May 13, 2010 10:09 PM


"Of course abortion can be a difficult decision. Every woman's experience is different."

The experiences of successfully aborted babies, however, are all the same in the end. They're all dead.

Posted by: Marauder at May 14, 2010 8:38 AM


"I can sympathize with Chilli"
Hmm... you say this and then you dismiss her story as a "sob story", as seen here:
"why do you (most of the people on this page) only consider a sob story like this to be an authentic abortion experience?"

So, what is an "authentic abortion experience"?

"What do you make of women who come forward and tell you they felt relief after having aborted their pregnancies?"

What do you make of women who feel that way at first, and then (perhaps years later) truly realize what they've done and feel grief?
Women who feel relief after an abortion may not understand what they have done, or they may be in denial. A third, even sadder possibility: they just may not care.

"Of course abortion can be a difficult decision."

According to the pro-abortion side, abortion is merely the removal of a clump of cells. So, why on earth would it be a difficult decision?

Posted by: Lucy at May 14, 2010 9:04 AM


What do you make of women who come forward and tell you they felt relief after having aborted their pregnancies?

Posted by: common sense at May 13, 2010 9:46 PM
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One does not "abort a pregnancy". One aborts a child during the embryonic or fetal stage of development.

You can't even speak about it authentically - yet, you're expecting those who have experienced abortion to speak about their experience in an authentic voice?

Posted by: Chris Arsenault at May 14, 2010 10:04 AM


The long term effects of abortion are often not "dealt with" until 20 or 30 years later when a woman finally understands more about herself and her decision to abort. With age comes wisdom. The initial "relief" is short lived... after that comes denial, anger, depression and a void that is often hard to describe. There is help at local pregnancy care centers... call them.

Posted by: Debbie at May 14, 2010 10:15 AM


I felt relief after my abortion. The crisis was over they told me, I did the best thing in my situation they said, I could move on with my life I was told.

Relief lasted a couple of days, common sense. I sailed into denial for 7-9 years before coming to grips with The Truth of what abortion did to my growing, unborn child. She died in an abortion clinic and I left her there.

All abortion stories are "authentic" to the one who aborted whether they regret it or not. But the ones who regret it and talk about it just tell their "sob stories." Right.

Why is abortion a difficult decision?

Posted by: carla Author Profile Page at May 14, 2010 10:20 AM


Abortion for any reason is still MURDER
Life is life; fight for it !
Vote for TERM LIMITS !

Posted by: Bob Chester at May 14, 2010 5:45 PM


No other word for this then sad.

Posted by: mike at May 15, 2010 4:18 PM


I like how people throw around that word "Choice" and act like it's a right for everyone to take, you can make a choice to drive sober or make a choice and drive drunk and kill somebody. Is that a choice you want someone to make? I bet you want to take away their car keys when they start getting drunk at your party...Now you tell me it's their right to choose...well it is but it is our obligation to tell them their choice is going to hurt themselves or someone else and in some cases prevent that choice.

Posted by: Rod at May 17, 2010 11:56 AM


Thank you Chili for being brave enough to share your personal story!

Posted by: MommaAsh at May 17, 2010 2:32 PM


Thank you chilli for sharing your story, its nice to see people who have been in the pblic eye speak out on their abortions. I'm sure there are more out there other than you Chilli!

Posted by: Krystal at May 18, 2010 10:22 AM



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