Jivin J’s Life Links 1-31-11
by JivinJ, host of the blog, JivinJehoshaphat
- Here’s more evidence that greater access to morning-after pills/emergency contraceptive doesn’t work the way pro-choice organizations have been telling us it will. A policy in England to hand out free morning-after pills to teenage girls at pharmacies didn’t lower the pregnancy rate and increased the rate of STDs:They found that pregnancy rates for girls aged under 16 remained the same while the rates of sexually transmitted diseases increased by 12% in those areas where the pill was available free from chemists.
Here’s the abstract to the study.
- An advice column in the Washington Post has a letter with a “grim end to a sordid triangle”:A few weeks ago, my husband told me he had an affair. He came clean only after finding out she was pregnant.
Despite being devastated, I told him I’d be willing to try to work things out – for the sake of our 2 daughters, at least – if he persuaded her to have an abortion. He agreed and she had the abortion, although I suspect she agreed only because my husband lied to her and told her they’d have a future if she had the abortion. He says he has broken off all contact with her since she terminated the pregnancy.
Now I’m disgusted with myself because I feel like it’s my fault she had the abortion, and I can’t get past the fact that my husband cheated on me. Sometimes I feel just worthless. Is there any hope?
Jan.31, 2011 1:00 pm |
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Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
The woman made a promise to work things out with her husband and she should uphold her promise. They may need counseling. They’re both pro-abortion so they are a perfect match. No?
The husband made promises to two women, though, neither of which he has kept. And neither of whom were terribly stellar examples of virtue and goodness to start off with. Honestly, I’m not seeing a lot of good coming out of that. I suppose you never know, but “grim” is a good word for the outlook, I think.
Sounds to me like lover boy got off the hook. He could have his fun and walk away from the “other woman” with no obligation. Did the woman even want the abortion and did she agree to it under false pretenses?
Sound like the abortion did little to resolve the marital issues as well. It only seems to have worsened an already bad situation.
I always thought Elizabeth Edwards handled a similar situation with tremendous class under the most trying of circumstances, though of course Johnny boy wanted his child aborted. At least Elizabeth didn’t end up with the troubled conscience and indecision of this wife.
I hope this woman gets herself to project Rachel and to marriage counseling with the husband. They can work through this. But he used the other woman and his wife. She forced the issue of abortion – and he lied to both women.
Impossible? No – but both parties need help here and a way to get God back into the picture, so they make loving decisions as a couple. If any party there was Catholic, they need to go to a good, compassionate priest for confession, and get lots of help.
Lord have mercy – when we make decisions out a place of selfishness, it usually backfires! wishing them a conversion of heart and that they might know the piece of the Lord.
Why would anyone want to work through this as a couple?
This shows the moral depravity of our species.
Horrible of him to have an affair, push the woman into killing the child and lying to her to get her to kill his own offspring.
Horrible of the wife to demand he talk the other woman into killing the baby.
Horrible of the other woman to give in to her “boyfriend’s” obscene demand that she kill their kid (and damage her soul), not to mention what was she doing having an affair with someone else’s husband?
Terrible behavior on the part of everyone.
I am disheartened by the complete callous disregard for the life of the poor little baby who was caught in the middle of all this. We see clearly the lack of humanity which is at the root of abortion violence (and every other injustice we face).
About the first story, giving teenagers an abortive drug, does anyone know what the short and especially long term effects are of these drugs on a young woman. Without a doctor’s supervision, who is to say whether a teen took the dose once, or three times, or even 6 times in one year? What does that do to her physically?
“Why would anyone want to work through this as a couple?”
Marriage is “for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, ’til death do us part”. These vows aren’t to be taken lightly and they need to try to work things out before thinking about divorce.
Well, apparently, Janet, all the parties involved took marriage vows “lightly”.
“Sometimes I feel just worthless.”
That’s cuz you put the wrong person in your ‘crosshairs’.
The two folks that wronged you are probably still wronging you and the one truly innocent victim in this scenario is dead by your ‘CHOICE‘.
He/she didn’t have any more involvement in your hubby’s infidelity than your own two daughters.
You are married to a man who cheated on you and lied to his mistress to manipulate her into killing his own child.
Don’t leave him alone with your daughters. He has already demonstrated his selfishness and lack of compassion for his own flesh and blood, his wife and his mistress.
I am skeptical that ‘saving’ this marriage was the best outcome for you or your two girls. Your husband has already demonstrated what low esteem he has for women in general and for his own children in particular.
Not the best male role model for your daughters.
[That is my impression of Doctor Laura channeling Dear Abby.]
The husband, the wife and the mistress are all selfish. SELFISH! Every last one of them. Now do they understand the power of sex? It is NOT RECREATION!!!!
“I am disheartened by the complete callous disregard for the life of the poor little baby who was caught in the middle of all this.”
The only innocent person in the whole affair got the death penalty, so the guilty could get their selfish desires.
Where is the justice in that?
I’d be fine for pro-life centers to have such a sign, as long as abortion clinics in the same area were similarly forced to post a sign saying that if they perforate your uterus, and leave you to bleed with your bowel hanging out of you, you will need to call 911 yourself.