Singer Fantasia announces pregnancy
And I share this with you because I can relate to you. For a while I walked around thinking, ‘What will they say? What will they think about me?’ But now I tell you, I don’t live my life for folk.
So I tell you, this child that I carry, God has given me this child, and I don’t have to hide it from none of y’all!
~ American Idol winner and post-abortive mother Fantasia Barrino announcing her pregnancy to fans during a charity concert as quoted by Yahoo! Music, August 1
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Aug.03, 2011 6:00 am |
Post-abortion, Pregnancy |
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
yay, to Fantasia! I’m glad she got past. her affair that almost. caused her to kill herself. she has also repented for her past abortion i luv ya Fantasia and make someore music for us!___
“So I tell you, this child that I carry, God has given me this child, and I don’t have to hide it from none of y’all!”
There is no shame in doing the right thing.
Kudos to you ms Barrino for choosing life for your child.
But, ‘Where’s the beef?’
No, mention of the sperm donor.
Hey! You! Sperm donor, man up and acknowledge your progeny.
It is never too late to do the right thing.
Awesome!!!
Hopefully this will heal her of her abortion from last year. Congrats and well wishes to Fantasia!!
Another baby soon after an abortion is called an atonement baby. The longing for another one is quite common after abortion.
Does not heal someone, nor replace the baby lost to abortion. :(
That is true Carla, but her announcement is more powerful than a dozen “too many aborted” billboards. Young women will hear this, and hopefully take it to heart. Abortion isn’t what smart women do. Abortion is one of the ways women hide the consequences of their relationships and a way to hide the irresponsibility of the men that helped make their babies.
I have mixed emotions about things like this. On the one hand yes, I’m glad someone is having a baby that they want. On the other hand..
She acknowledges GOD…that God gave her this child, yet she didn’t mind violating God’s standards (sex outside of marriage i.e, “fornication”) to get the baby?
And no..I would not call her a “whore”, “slut” or anything else. “For ALL have sinned and come short of the glory of God” Romans 5:12 KJV.
I am a sinner…saved by GRACE. I am also the result of unmarried sex.
Just sayin’.
Pamela, I would never call anyone a slut or a whore either, but I can understand what you are saying. I agree Pamela. As you probably know, nearly 3/4’s of black children are born out of wedlock. I know of quite a few women who go to church faithfully, yet have two or three children by different men, I’m not trying to judge, but . . . I was told that I was doing “the devil’s work” because I give out candy at Halloween by a woman who had four children by three different men, and had never been married. I may celebrate Halloween and not go to church, but I had one child by one man — my husband (now unfortunately, my ex-husband).
One step at a time…
Last year, she killed her child and was ashamed.
This year, she is giving her new child life…. and she is discovering that doing the right thing brings both dignity and strength.
Let us hope and pray that she will soon learn the dignity of her own self and her sexuality. And hopefully then, the natural joy of married love.
Oh wow Fantasia had an abortion long before she was famous
i had no idea she’d had another
i know. she got involved with a married man and almost. killed herded when he dumped. her. i have no idea if if she aborted the. married guys baby. how sad
the girl’s got talent
i hope she finds a good man and marries the child’s. dad
It is great to see a woman making choices for herself without the federal government sticking its nose in her decision making. Good Luck to her and her pregnancy.
I know that ‘sex out of wedlock’ is very frowned upon by many, but if we are to change hearts and minds, first people have to value the lives of people already concieved. That’s a huge step. I happen to think that once people make that leap, and value the children they concieve, then valuing each other is not far behind.
I have tried that argument before, ninek, it didn’t go over too well here, lol.
I actually think it has to be the other way around.
We do not value life from conception until natural death BECAUSE of abortion. It has cheapened life in every way possible.
Make it illegal. Again.
I know that ‘sex out of wedlock’ is very frowned upon by many, but if we are to change hearts and minds, first people have to value the lives of people already concieved.
I am hardly one to condemn anyone for having sex out of wedlock — I was married in May and had my daughter in October, so do the math! It’s not something I am proud of, but that’s the way it happened. I was just trying to say that having children with no father around — in many cases, the father is not a part of the child’s life — has become the norm for the black community, and even though it’s not PC to say so, it’s wreaked havoc.
I wish the best to Fantasia and hopefully the child’s father (I hate the term “baby daddy”) will be involved with him or her.
Well I my friend who aborted went on to have an atonement baby and she said it helped her “get over” her abortion. Even Theresa Burke says in her book “Forbidden Grief” that in SOME cases the atonement baby can help the mom heal if she can overcome the stressors that led to the previous abortion. Fantasia will never forget the child she lost last year. This baby cannot replace that baby. But hopefully Fantasia will begin to heal as she experiences the miracle of life again. Unfortunately it seems her (still) married lover who fathered the aborted baby is the father of this baby which is a sad situation for all involved. Hopefully he mans up this time and takes care of his child. But he is a sorry excuse for a man when he is running around on his wife.
There are no illegitimate children. Only illegitimate parents. But gambling with the possibility of an out-of-wedlock child is playing Russian roulette with that child’s future. Almoist as much as IVF is.
She has an abortion to repent of, but she also has to repent for putting her most recent child at risk. Then, like all of us, she should “go and sin no more”. And teach her children not to repeat her mistakes.
o wow. Sydney. i had. no idea she. went. back. to that. married man! so that makes
makes 2 abortions and adultery. and. fornication! oh goodness gracious i hopping hope she gets it together
so many women are.confused. because. women’s lib has told so. many women that marriage is just a piece of paper
i bought the lie and had 3 kids out of wedlock
my last son is from my marriage and being. married is awesome! _
i came to this site years. ago and lied about being married! i was ashamed
Heather, God bless you, phillymiss and others who have shared your stories and your concern for Fantasia. Heather, I am not condemning you, “there but by God’s grace go I”. I don’t follow the American Idol show or their former contestants but phillymiss and Hans what you said is so true she is putting her child at risk although “it is not PC to say so, it has wreaked havoc”. I am sorry she is having this baby by a married man (if that is the case). If you get a chance to read Star Parker’s book White Ghetto she documents how “inner city values have come to white suburbia” and the havoc that is following young women who “choose” to have babies without marital commitment and stable 2 parent families.
My husband beat the odds by the grace of God, he is a loving, committed husband and awesome father (his parents divorced when he was 3 years old) although his father was a deadbeat, alcoholic who abandoned his kids for years at a time. He hardly knew his father (definately a sperm donor who did not want to take any responsibility for his children). None of his siblings have had sucessful marriages. So sad. He was determined to break the cycle of 2-4 marriages of his mother, father and grandparents and he did.
thank you. proloferl i am indeed from the burbs and so are many of my friends
pretty much all of us were indeed anti marriage when we had our kids but I’d love to. get my hands on that book. i do love to read
I’ll. buy it and thank you
also proliferl my own parents had an ugly divorce when i was thirteen and my own mom became very anti marriage after the divorce. she always used to say who needs marriage? she’s a great lady but a little misguided
Pamela: I have mixed emotions about things like this. On the one hand yes, I’m glad someone is having a baby that they want. On the other hand..
Pamela, agreed – I wish her well, but uh, we’ll see….