Free morning-after Christmas sex “jingle pill”
We already know there is nothing left sacred. Now all there is to report are the deepening degrees of blasphemy.
Here’s one, with some irony thrown in.
Bearing in mind Christmas celebrates the birth of world’s Savior, the British Pregnancy Advisory Service launched a campaign offering free morning-after pills through the month of December to those who end up doing more than kissing under the mistletoe. Click to enlarge…
The website name’s double entendre is gross.
Bpas initially offered to mail the morning-after pill free after a phone “consultation.”
But the campaign has attracted so much attention the sexy Santa has run out of gifts.
The website now states, “Due to the popularity of this service we are unable to provide the morning after pill in advance of need before Christmas.”
The editor of Reproductive Health Matters calls these “jingle pills.” But there’s nothing merry about taking mega-doses of female steroids after having unprotected sex, which, btw, do nothing to stop the sometimes incurable and/or deadly STD(s) that may have been contracted at the same time.
Nevertheless, bpas gives “ho ho ho” new meaning.
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
wow, this makes me nauseous..what happened to personal responsibility? What is the point of having birth control if women are just going to have unprotected sex anyway? it’s beyond gross.
gross….seriously gross. this entire thing is wrong on so many levels that I don’t even know how else to respond.
How sad! There is definite sadness and evil in the world. Wow :(
PS.
Not sure what the “ho ho ho” meant at the end?? Hope it wasn’t calling those that have gotten caught up in premarital sex “ho ho ho”s
Ho–like a prostitute. Funny, really.
But “jingle pills”? I love how the website is santacomes.com.
AGAIN: classy.
“And you can’t switch it off” this is a huge part of what is wrong with this culture. Are people really so incredibly egotistical and immature that they assume attraction requires action?? The complete and utter lack of personal responsibility and self-constraint that is portrayed as normal and even appropriate by this ad is absolutely nauseating. How did society devolve to such a degree that an infantile response that any properly parented 3 year old should be able to over come (I want it!) become acceptable adult behavior? Perpetual infanthood is not a good thing, it’s not desirable, and it sure as anything shouldn’t be incouraged!
Really? Perhaps you can lay down your stones for one stinkin’ minute and have some compassion. I have NEVER talked to a young lady caught up in the vicious cycle of sex that mentioned how she just LOVES sex and just wants it all of the time. N.E.V.E.R. This doesn’t mean, however, there is no accountability towards that initial “yes” but when someone is broken and searching for love (in any form)they start to view sex as a means to an end. Just ask me, I was one of those girls! I am now 41 and was able to come through that with compassionate and honest dialogue – if I had come across someone like you, Jespren, I would have felt as though there was no hope for me and so why bother caring at all.
The icky women’s “choice” groups like PP and this BPAS prey on these kind of confused and hurting women/girls and don’t want these girls to stop having sex because they profit from them. You, on the other hand, with your hateful words and your 3 year old tantrum do just as much harm!
Wow!
KellyO, yeah, wow, really. Acknowledging how depraved it is for society to praise the infantile ‘i want it so therefore I *must* have it!’ is absolutely me throwing a temper tantrum…oh, wait, I’m sorry, my mistake, the *I WANT!* is the temper tantrum, not the logical and adult response to it. People who live by the mantra ‘i can’t help myself’ are done not a single favor by people encouraging that thinking. How in the world is telling a person stuck in a ‘cycle of sex’ “you have the power to stop” detrimental? It isn’t. It doesn’t make people feel hopeless to be given hope in themselves. It is ads like this saying ‘you can’t help yourself’ that does the damage. I have couseled many non-christian friends about relationship and sexual problems, none of them have ever stated I have left them feeling like there was ‘no hope for’ them. On the contrary, telling people they *can* do something about their problems causes the exact opposite. I have been accused of ‘asking too much’ or being ‘hard’ on occassion, because the people themselves stated they didn’t want to expend that much willpower, that they wanted an easy way out of their problem and felt that my advise was surely more difficult than some other path. Some of them took it anyway, some of them didn’t, some of them came back afterwards and said they wished they had.
But my post wasn’t even in reference to a specific individual who felt trapped by the constant bombardment of ‘you can’t control yourself’ that is fed to us from young childhood on. It was at society that preached it and saw it as a good thing.
If you ,or anyone else, feels/felt like they needed to give their body on the alter of Eros to anyone else who wanted to worship because they were seeking agape and didn’t know where else to find it, being told that is a true path, an acceptable and good path is *not* and will *never be* a help. Telling them that they need to stop, that they will not find what they are looking for by worshipping Eros (hopping in the sack with everyone who ‘flips their switch’) and that they have the will to stop and seek what they actually want is helpful. “Control yourself” is almost always good advise.
My husband was one of those people before he was saved, and he’ll tell you he first started to fall in love with me the night I looked him in the eye and told him to stop giving himself to women who just wanted to use and abuse him. That he should save his heart for someone who actually cared and that he could find such a person. And that if he wanted to find such a person he needed to stop equating sex with love.
My cousin, btw, was *also* one of those women. She became pregnant in late high school. She was able to turn her life around not only because God gave her a beautiful daughter, but because the whole family had the gall to tell her she was headed for ruin if she didn’t wise up and turn her life around. And she got the wake-up call. She really buckled down and turned her life around, and is now a happily married mother of 3 wonderful kids. And when she was struggling, it was the ‘hard liners’ of the family she elected to go live with because she knew they could help give her the encouragement and expectation of success that the more liberal elements of the family couldn’t.
This smacks of purity cult.
Who cares what consenting adults do? Oh yeah, the purity cult does.
*sigh*
Q: If I knew that a large number of people were involved in cutting, or other harmful behaviors, would I not be within my responsibility as a human citizen to help educate those people to the harm they were causing themselves and thier families and to support them if they chose to change those behaviors?
Would that make me a member of the no-cutter cult??
Mama3,
Are you a trained, licensed, certified counselor, therapist, social worker, or psychologist? Are you specialized in self harm coping measures? If not, then the correct action would be to bring that person to a professional who is.
Jespren – my response was in regards to your tone. I’m not part of the touchy-feely, Kumbaya generation that doesn’t want to offend anyone by telling them a better path. I am, however, kind and compassionate in my approach. Never once did I imply that I wouldn’t encourage these women in empowering themselves to “just stop”. I have found, in my 20 years of counseling women with unplanned pregnancies, that the best approach has been to guide their attention elsewhere. To remind them that they’re “ho ho ho”s or sinners based on their actions seems a bit like piling on. I’m certain they already know that they are down a path that is not going to bring them happiness or fulfillment.
Yeah, I’m 100% sure that if someone like yourself told me that “hopping in the sack with anyone that flipped my switch” it would have only served to make me feel more unworthy and dirty. Judge me and others all you want as people who just lack self-control and go ahead and “counsel” those hurt people your way.
I’d like to say so much more but it has dawned on me that we both want the same thing for these women (and men) You help your way and I’ll help mine!
Duck, do you know that family and friends have a much better success rate in helping people cope, manage, and quit self-destructive behavior (like cutting) than so-called ‘professionals’?? in fact, basket weaving as a therapy device has a better success rate than ‘talk therapy’ or drug therapy. If you know someone who is practicing slef-distructive behavior they need *help* from the people who know, love, and are around them, not from some paid, detatched professional.
And couseling people against loose sex isn’t ‘purity cult’ish, nor is it an ‘unhealthy’ obsession with what ‘consenting adults’ do in the privacy of their bedroom. It’s helping people. Loose sex is detrimental, both physically and mentally. Especially for women. ‘Consenting’ to something doesn’t suddenly make it safe. You could consent to playing in the middle of the street at midnight in black clothes with a blindfold on, and it won’t make it any safer, nor would your consent for such risky action negate a stranger, much less a close friend from shouting out ‘wtach out! Car coming!’
Having sex with multiple people is dangerous to your health, having spur of the moment sex with multiple people is even *more* dangerous. We’d really have to hate someone to not counsel them against such self-destructive behavior. News flash, most Christians, most pro-lifer, most secular abstinence supporters, actually like their fellow man.
The real question is why the ‘sex, sex, sex!’ crowd hate theirs so much.
Jespren,
Where is your source for the “success” of friends and family versus professional help about cutting?
Also, just because someone enjoys sex, whether with the same person, multiple people, odd positions, use of artificial aids like toys, whatever, doesn’t mean they’re engaging in dangerous sex.
I’d much rather trust the medical field than the purity cult about what is dangerous behavior in sex.
Also, professionals use far more approaches than just talk and drug therapy. FAR MORE.
Interesting. According to their website, Bpas offers “counseling” and “advice”.
http://www.bpas.org/bpaswoman
And yet they encourage women to plan ahead and have the morning after pill available but not to plan ahead so they’re not in danger of an unplanned pregnancy to begin with? That’s pathetic. Any healthcare organization that takes that stance certainly doesn’t have a woman’s health as their top priority.
“Having sex with multiple people is dangerous to your health, having spur of the moment sex with multiple people is even *more* dangerous.”
Obviously, there are risks with sex; but if safe sex is practiced, that lessens the risk. A good Christian virgin could, potentially, be at risk if she, on her wedding night, has sex with a husband who is infected. As Duck points out, if folks enjoy sex, that shouldn’t be a problem unless the person who is engaging in this sex feels it’s problematic. Your view that people who enjoy an active sex life are somehow damaged is a value judgement based on religious views that promote the purity cult.
And family and friends should not be counseling their family and friends who have mental health issues as their proximity makes them less likely to be objective (especially if they are coming from a conservative religious perspective) and they don’t have the professional skills and academic background with which to deal with these issues.
And if the Brits don’t have a problem with the promotion or the distribution of pills, what business is it of the American purity cult?
CC, many of us who comment here are in happy stable relationships and are indeed fans of sex. Whether or not you’re a fan of sex or not has nothing to do with how nasty this ad is.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to remain pure until your wedding night. Your need to denigrate such folks is really a reflection of your own depravity.
There is safer sex, but there is not true safe sex unless you play it straight. Just think of all the heartache you could have saved yourself if you had exercised a little restraint?
“And yet they encourage women to plan ahead and have the morning after pill available but not to plan ahead so they’re not in danger of an unplanned pregnancy to begin with? That’s pathetic.”
I actually think that’s the point. It’s a weird form of reverse psychology, if that’s even the phrase I’m looking for. Anyway. The exercise of deciding to acquire Plan B in advance might be enough to cause women who are at-risk for having unprotected sex to stop and have that same thought. Then the woman (or guy) in question would hopefully be more vigilant about birth control, and IF an accident still happens, then the couple will have a backup.
I think it’s all marketing.
Your view that people who enjoy an active sex life are somehow damaged is a value judgement based on religious views that promote the purity cult.
No, our view that people who have an active non-monogamous sex life are somehow damaged is not just a value judgment. Just ask the CDC.
this year’s war on christmas is the ugliest yet. why didn’t they make a hannukah themed or kwanzaa themed commercial?
Haha ok – can I just point out that the lights that say “sex” make it look creepy – more like an ad against smoking or doing drugs – hahah at first glance it looked more like oozy bleeding words rather than lights…
Gross haha
Ok….
I think talking about the danger of unprotected sex is a good conversation…
I think that there is good reason to have less sexual partners and that everyone should be aware of that…
However, I am not in the business of policing other people’s sex lives. Especially since it ain’t your business in the first place. Especially since shaming language and calling people disgusting isn’t exactly going to get your valid points across. Especially since it’s always women who get judged for this crap, I rarely see anyone upset about the men involved. I can’t imagine that anyone listens to people talking about how they are getting nauseous at the thought of women having unprotected sex!
^What Jack said. :)
Agreed, Jack – I hate the double standard. When my niece was born my brother’s two best friends were at the hospital, heard “it’s a girl” and made a pack to make sure she doesn’t date until she’s 30…like, really? haha.
Biggz, you must be a LOT of fun at a party.
Is it true that unplanned pregnancies go up in January?
If so, why is this?
“There is nothing wrong with wanting to remain pure until your wedding night. Your need to denigrate such folks is really a reflection of your own depravity”
Where did I denigrate virgins. If that’s there choice, that’s fine. But virginity seems to, in some Christians circles, be a cult like object of worship and I find that a little strange.
But your double standard, regarding “denigration,” is truly amazing given that both Duck and I were responding to comments that denigrated those who enjoy a sex life with more than one partner cuz that’s a value judgement and nothing more. As Biggs points out the Nevertheless, “bpas gives “ho ho ho” new meaning.” is sexist and, I might add, denigrating. You folks are the ones who can’t accept any lifestyle that doesn’t comport with your worldview which, in most cases, is very Christian.
“No, our view that people who have an active non-monogamous sex life are somehow damaged is not just a value judgment. Just ask the CDC”
The CDC doesn’t use the term “damage.” It merely provides information on medical consequences of unprotected sex. One can have a series of partners and never get damaged. I’m one of those who didn’t. But according to Courtnay, I’m depraved.
The CDC doesn’t use the term “damage.”
They use the term “high risk.” And for organ donation, did you know they’re now calling those with 2 or more partners per year “high risk?”
It merely provides information on medical consequences of unprotected sex.
How exactly does one protect oneself from all STDs? “Protected” sex or not, there is considerable risk.
One can have a series of partners and never get damaged. I’m one of those who didn’t. But according to Courtnay, I’m depraved.
Umm… I think I’ll be polite and refrain from commenting on that one.
Mods, I think Megan has really stepped over the line with her comment above https://www.jillstanek.com/2011/12/free-morning-after-christmas-sex-jingle-pill/comment-page-1/#comment-372182
I agree men deserve just as much scrutiny as women when it comes to unplanned pregnancies … but the ad in question is directed at women. “He’s hot… More women get pregnant …” etc.
This ad really doesn’t shock me at all. It’s the culture in which we live. If anything, I find it rather silly.
But I honestly believe that as Christians, instead of coming across as a purity cult as Duck put it, we should try and reclaim the sexual scene. Because when you do sex the way God intended, we actually have so much more to offer.
Instead of focusing on beating our fists against a brick wall, why don’t we focus on reframing the argument? Stop focusing on the “No no no!” and instead, say “This is a better, more fulfilling way…”
Tone matters. And as Christians, we tend to shrink away from discussing things like sex. It’s highly personal. However, as KellyO pointed out, most people who don’t know another way do that so that they find love. Why don’t we show them what true love and intimacy means?
Denise: Is it true that unplanned pregnancies go up in January?
If so, why is this?
Cold weather, more people indoors, perhaps? Or trying to get rid of the Holiday blues?
Yes, Denise- January and February are very busy times for abortion clinics and PRCs. Combine school and college breaks with Christmas and New Year parties (that often include alcohol and drugs, visits with old friends, and a general spirit of merriment) and you get more than the usual amount of people doing the thing that makes babies while not expecting to make any. It’s even worse in the southern hemisphere where Christmas and New Year fall in the middle of summer. Australia Day is Jan 26, and then three weeks later, it’s Valentines Day.
My PRCs do more pregnancy tests and ultrasounds in Jan-Feb-Mar than any other time of the year
Michelle PRC ED says:
December 15, 2011 at 8:55 am
Yes, Denise- January and February are very busy times for abortion clinics and PRCs. Combine school and college breaks with Christmas and New Year parties (that often include alcohol and drugs, visits with old friends, and a general spirit of merriment) and you get more than the usual amount of people doing the thing that makes babies while not expecting to make any. It’s even worse in the southern hemisphere where Christmas and New Year fall in the middle of summer. Australia Day is Jan 26, and then three weeks later, it’s Valentines Day.
My PRCs do more pregnancy tests and ultrasounds in Jan-Feb-Mar than any other time of the year
(Denise) Thank you, Michelle PRC ED. This makes sense. I cherish Christmas. It’s my favorite holiday. This gives a sad spin to it.
What can be done to decrease the unplanned pregnancies that occur this time of the year?
Should females be extra careful and use Norplant or something similar even if they usually do not? Much sexual activity is impulsive so protection might be needed by those who don’t usually protect themselves.
Perhaps we need a national campaign to warn against and try to avert the impulsive sexual activity that is apt to occur at this time of the year.
LibertyBelle,
You bring up some good points about Christians needing to reclaim the sexual scene and communicate there’s a better way, that being sex between a husband and wife. I just don’t think it’s communicated enough even from the pulpit. So many pastors are afraid to offend. I think there’s too much disunity even among Christians about what is holy when it comes to sex, especially regarding contraception. Would churches or chastity groups be willing to advertise a purity message to counter the BPAS? I do know there are some wonderful chastity/purity speakers (Jason & Christalina Evert come to mind) that travel around the U.S. Not sure if they’ve gone abroad, though.