Too young for marriage but not too young for an abortion
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybBc4oZJZqc[/youtube]People will say you can’t compare marriage to abortion.
“Marriage is a serious commitment!”
Well, committing to take some else’s life is a serious commitment, too. Abortion isn’t just a life-changing event, it’s a life-cancelling event.
Death is a lot more permanent than marriage.
~ Pro-life apologist Alfonzo Rachel responding to a Huffington Post article that suggested a law should be passed prohibiting individuals from getting married before the age of 25, via PJTV’s Zo Nation, June 16
Jun.20, 2012 6:00 am |
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Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
I’m personally not a fan of young folks getting married, but a law?
*sigh*
Leave it to HuffPo.
The HuffPo is my favorite satire publication… wait they’re serious?
I got married at 20 because we wanted to get married. We were ready. We continued on with our college education and worked. I wouldn’t change a thing.
I had my first baby at age 25.
What they’re suggesting is that it’s ok to have sex when you’re, like, 12, but that you shouldn’t even consider marrying before age 25? 13 years later? This philosophy does nothing to help women or their children who WILL be born out of wedlock (or aborted).
I’m a fan of young people getting married. I know quite a few couples who married at 18 and 30 + years later are still married. I have a friend I graduated high school with who got married at 20 and 12 years later is still married. Another friend got married at 30 and was divorced at 31. I myself met my husband at 20 and married him at 24. I’m now 32 and we’re still in-love and building a life together with our children.
The problem isn’t the age. THe problem is that people don’t respect marriage. Marriage means nothing anymore. As soon as a problem arises in a marriage a lot of people want their “out”. No one sticks it out and works through problems anymore. We make vows (at any age) and don’t have enough character to honor those vows even when the going gets tough.
Sorry, i know this has nothing to do with what Alfonzo said!
The problem isn’t the age. THe problem is that people don’t respect marriage. Marriage means nothing anymore. As soon as a problem arises in a marriage a lot of people want their “out”. No one sticks it out and works through problems anymore. We make vows (at any age) and don’t have enough character to honor those vows even when the going gets tough.
Yes. This. Thank you, Sydney. My in-laws have been married since they were 20, also, and will celebrate 40 years this year. What’s the difference between them and my own mother, who married at age 20 and divorced at age 28? One couple was committed to their marriage, and the other was comprised of an adulterous man and a faithful woman.
It’s not about age. It’s about maturity and the decisions you make. My father was 31 when my parents divorced, and he was cheating just two years before that. So, you have a man-boy at age 29. Yeah, a law TOTALLY would’ve changed his man-boyness. *eyeroll*
I think they’re seeing the marriage law and the abortion decision as all of a piece. ”You’re too young for all this marriage and family stuff” is their thing. So no marriage until you’re 25. And if you should happen to get pregnant, have an abortion. Of course SEX, you’re ready for that whenever your juices start flowing.
Sydney and Kel,
A hearty amen to all that you said! People like this woman the Huffington Post make me sad. They don’t understand what marriage truly is. Marriage requires maturity, but that’s at a totally different age for different people.
My husband was 19 and I was 21 when we vowed our lives together less than a year ago. Even now, we get looks and questions about why we are “wasting our twenties” and why we decided to settle down now, and we’re so young! Haven’t we partied enough? Have we really “found ourselves” (what the heck does that even mean? I found my identity at the cross, thank you!)? We’re still madly in love and plan to never divorce. My parents are still as madly in love as they were the day they married 26 years ago at the ages of 21 and 23. And, as both Kel and Sydney pointed out, there are countless stories like that.
The issue is people’s understanding’s of what marriage is. They view marriage as a means to make them happy – they remain individuals who are legally bound together. But what marriage should be is a blending of two individuals who then grow together, their lives intertwined.
Just as we’ve separated sex from babies, we’ve separated sex from marriage, rendering the glue that should keep married people together (that breathtaking physical, spiritual, emotional intimacy) essentially useless.
(Sorry about the marriage rant – one of my all-time favorite topics! And the proposed law is ridiculous).
(Also, Kel, my husband finished his degree during our first year, and I’ll finish my degree during our second year of marriage, so we did essentially the same thing. It is/was difficult, but I wouldn’t change it for the world!)
But to discuss the comparison of abortion and marriage…. Isn’t it telling that abortionists are okay with regulating marriage, and rarely, if ever, advocate marriage, let alone saving yourself for your spouse, and yet they try to get abortion clinics in schools, don’t want parents to know about their underage daughters’ abortions? They tell kids it’s not between them and their parents, that it’s only their decision. They give out free birth control like it’s candy and tell them to be safe but have fun. They don’t warn them of the pain and disease multiple partners can bring.
Planned Parenthood promotes throwing caution to the wind and enjoying yourself in both views on marriage and abortion – sure! Have sex with whoever you want, whenever you! If you mess up, there’s always abortion. Find yourself before marriage because marriage won’t last anyway, so who cares! It’s all about you, you, you. Get your pleasure without consequences! Only stay with your spouse until they stop making you happy!
Planned Parenthood/the pro-aborts have created an atmosphere where supposedly actions can occur with no consequences. With sex, it doesn’t matter, just be yourself and explore you sexuality – abortion will clean up the messes! With marriage, it doens’t matter, as soon as your partner stops making you happy, divorce will clean up the mess.
What a sad, sad world we live in. Life’s not easy. But whatever happened to building character? Whatever happened to taking responsibility for your actions?
Didn’t get married til we were 25. We have a blessed marriage and all is well, but for various reasons, we shoulda been married much sooner.
Gee, you don’t suppose ole Nagy also means that GAY couples won’t be able to marry either until after 25? And you don’t suppose Nagy’s admission that she really only got married because it seemed like the thing to do might have had something to do with its demise? (It’s not like she really wanted to spend her whole life with someone). Or her large ego that must study its own navel for a few more years and party some more?
Yep, I didn’t know who I was until after a few more drinks and heartaches… sure….Oh you kids, you think you’re in love, but you need to party more and find yourself!! That’s the highest goal of humanity, ain’t it? Wow, what a waste of an article. Can I have those 5 minutes back please?
I love Alfonzo Rachel! He has a great way of making everything simple and logical, and pointing out the illogic of pro-aborts’ cases. His video on sex-selective abortions is amazing. He makes the point that if it’s okay to abort a girl because she’s a girl, then what if we could tell in utero that the boy/girl was going to grow up to be gay? Would the liberals FINALLY stand up for the preborn then? Is THAT discrimination, but sex selection isn’t? What a good point! And it totally rips through the libs’ social agenda tripe.
Alfonzo is spot on…
However, I do think *age* is the problem. I married young (21), and I wish I had waited. I often tell my kids to wait until they’re 30. ;) I pray that they do wait!
Side note, how do I add an avatar?
My two cents on Alfonzo’s “sexual liberation” comments:
Being married has brought my husband and myself the ULTIMATE sexual liberation! I can’t imagine being so liberated with anyone else in this world, much less someone who wasn’t willing to commit his life to mine!
Mrs. JVR,
That’s an astute comment! Liberals claim that promiscuity is liberation… when it is actually a form of slavery, brokenness. How sad that they don’t realize that sex in marriage is the true liberation! To be able to share intimacy with a man or woman who has committed themselves to you for life… You know you’re in it together, no matter what. What a beautiful thing!
When I teach kids in schools about relationships and saving themselves for marriage, that’s what I try to tell them. It may seem like a paradox, but when you save yourself for one person and remain faithful to that one person within the covenant of marriage, you experience more joy, more freedom, more intimacy than if you were the most promiscuous person on earth.