I love being a mom. I’m less judgmental than before I had a kid.
The biggest thing I’ve learned is that parenting is a totally different experience for every person.
~ Actress Natalie Portman, as quoted by People, October 29
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Dear Natalie,
Please chew on this tidbit you said some more:
I’m less judgmental than before I had a kid.
I’m glad you love being a mom, but you have me confused. Are you less judgmental because you don’t want to be perceived as being in the wrong by your peers for having a child, or is it because your child brings immeasurable value into your life?
Inquiring readers want to know.
“The biggest thing I’ve learned is that parenting is a totally different experience for every person.”
Well, technically you can’t know that unless you’ve met literally every person.
Why is being judgmental made out to be something bad? I make judgements every day. If some creepy guy wants to play with my son and tries to lure him over to his car am I being “judgmental” to tell him to back off? Am I being “judgmental” when I decide against feeding my son tons of sugary junk food? Being judgmental doesn’t have to mean being a rude, insensitive jerk. Judgmental can mean having an air of discernment something I think a lot of our people in our society are lacking. Oops! Guess I’m being judgmental by saying that!
Natalie is an advancement in the pro-life movement. She said it best: “I love being a mom.”
Good for her and our cause..
Natalie is an advancement in the pro-life movement. She said it best: “I love being a mom.”
Good for her and our cause..
No she isn’t Thomas. She is very pro abortion, like 99 percent of Hollywood. I find this ironic, as she equates eating meat to murder, but thinks its okay to destroy your own unborn child.
http://www.lifenews.com/2012/09/07/natalie-portman-backs-abortion-at-women-for-obama-event/
Can I take what I said back PLEASE…. Thanks phillymiss for that link. Pro-abortion and an O fan she is. Disgusting…
But still, hopefully “I love being a mom” will modify her views…
I’m with Thomas about hoping that Portman loving being a mom will help modify her views. I read the link phillymiss posted and I was just appalled.
Phillymiss’s article talked about the flack Portman received for saying motherhood was the most important role of her life. Motherhood IS the most important role a woman can have–whether it’s biological or spiritual or adopting. There is no other role that’s half so important because mothers have the power to do so much good in the world by doing their best to bring up good citizens for the good of society and the world. Shaping lives and nurturing is a basic human need. No other job impacts society as much on a very basic level. This is not to say other jobs don’t serve an important role in the workplace or that other roles don’t have importance, however, motherhood–in all its forms–has the power to build up or break down a person in a way no other job does.
If a mother is abusive, this creates a trauma within a human being. If a boss is abusive, you can leave the job–but a child doesn’t always have the option of leaving an abusive mother. There’s trauma that has to be dealt with. However, if a mother is loving, caring, and nurturing she has the power to foster within her children a sense of self-worth and belief–also if she’s the type to encourage good citizenship, making the world a better place by having the children be good citizens. What other job really has that much power on a very basic level? (I challenge you to name TEN other jobs as impacting as motherhood–or fatherhood for that matter–if you disagree with me).
Mother in Texas: your second paragraph is very powerful. It is also one hundred percent reflective of the realities of motherhood/fatherhood.
And some do not think that women are treated as second class citizens in the US….
“And some do not think that women are treated as second class citizens in the US…. ”
Since you’re obviously directing this at me, how in the world does her second paragraph show that women are treated as “second class citizens” in the US?
In terms of motherhood most definitely Jack. Our society in general does not value motherhood and this is reflected in government policy. Libs everywhere push women professionally telling them that being stay-at-home-mom is lowest on the totem pole. Than, when these women become professionals, they get paid 80 cents to a man’s dollar, get hired based on their appearance and advance based on double-standards. Check it out Sir..
Thomas, I don’t think she will. Many pro-abort women think that THEIR special is “planned and wanted” and therefore “chosen.” And if you can’t take the kid on trips to Europe or afford a college fund — fughetaboutit!
I meant “THEIR child is special because she or he is planned and wanted . . .’ you get the picture.
She has always struck me as being an entitled one percenter anyway. I can’t judge her acting abilities, because I NEVER watch any shows or see any movies starring people that shilled for Barky and/or are proabortion, which means I read alot!
Unfortunately what you write is so true phillymiss. Just on another post yesterday, one pro-abort argued in a response to my comment, that his son was “wanted” and therefore “chosen.” What a shallow way to think of children. I responded that children are a gift.
As far as Natalie - many here have written that having a child changes perspective. There may still be hope for Natalie too…
“In terms of motherhood most definitely Jack. Our society in general does not value motherhood and this is reflected in government policy”
Yeah, doesn’t value fatherhood either, especially since fatherhood seems to be equated with a paycheck rather than actually being involved with your kids.
“Libs everywhere push women professionally telling them that being stay-at-home-mom is lowest on the totem pole.”
I do agree, I think it’s rather disgusting. Stay at home parents don’t get any credit at all, and certain liberals seem to feel like women are betraying feminism or something if they don’t want to work. (fyi It’s not like stay at home dads gets kudos or treated any better, you usually get told you’re lazy or people think it’s “cute” that you “babysit” your kids).
“Than, when these women become professionals, they get paid 80 cents to a man’s dollar, get hired based on their appearance and advance based on double-standards. Check it out Sir.. ”
Actually, women don’t get paid less than men for the same work, if you are talking about their actual paychecks. Men and women who work the same jobs and the same hours tend to make about the same. The wage gap exists because of things like women working less hours than men (usually due to having children they need to care for), choosing lower paying jobs that offer less time and more flexibility (again, usually due to needing that job so they can care for children). It’s been shown over and over again that men will take jobs with less convenient hours and more dangerous conditions, with the corresponding pay increase. The wage gap would lessen quite a bit if men were equally responsible for childcare, they aren’t because they are trained to support their kids financially instead of being a primary caretaker. Women’s roles expanded to allow women to become professionals, but there didn’t seem to be a corresponding men’s roles expansion, which put way too much work on the women and deprives men of being more involved with their kids. So I do agree with you that motherhood isn’t being respected, I just don’t think it means women are being treated like second class citizens. Fatherhood isn’t respected any more.
There is a huge problem with objectification and sexual harassment in the workplace, you’re certainly right about that. That is certainly one of the areas that I agree women are treated much worse than men are (though men are sexually harassed, it’s just not as common).
“Yeah, doesn’t value fatherhood either, especially since fatherhood seems to be equated with a paycheck rather than actually being involved with your kids. “
I think you are referring to the democrats’ view of fatherhood Jack. Republicans value parenting and family in general whereas dems value abortions. Hope this puts it in perspective for you… (LOL)
Jack, pay-wise you are incorrect. A female CEO will make around 80k to a male CEO’s 100k in the same field. This is well supported in studies…
No, you’re parsing the numbers incorrectly (as most people do with the wage gap).
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-505125_162-28246928/the-gender-pay-gap-is-a-complete-myth/
Unmarried women who don’t have children earn slightly MORE than men. There isn’t some conspiracy to keep women from getting paid correctly. The problem is, like I’ve said, is that women are now expected to work AND do all the lion’s share of the childcare and housework, and you simply cannot do that and work as much or the same type of jobs that men do. It’s impossible. Men’s roles didn’t expand the same way, we’re still expected to work a lot and in more dangerous conditions, and are NOT expected to do half the childcare and housework. Single fathers like me actually do end up earning less because you have to find jobs that allow you flexibility in hours so you can care for your kids, it’s just that there are a whole lot more single mothers than fathers, and even married women with committed husbands do most of the childcare and housework. That’s a lot of where the gap is coming from.
And there’s also the fact that men and women, from all research, consistently value different things out of careers (again, influenced by what’s expected out of men and women). Men consistently value money and leadership, while women consistently value flexibility, fulfillment, and safety.
“I think you are referring to the democrats’ view of fatherhood Jack. Republicans value parenting and family in general whereas dems value abortions. Hope this puts it in perspective for you… (LOL) ”
I’ve actually found Republicans to be the worst about denigrating stay at home fathers, they seem to really dislike men who don’t work outside the home. They also tend to have a much more gender role driven view of what fatherhood is supposed to be. I do give some Republicans credit for having a bit more respect for stay at home moms than the Dems do, though.
I do agree, I think it’s rather disgusting. Stay at home parents don’t get any credit at all, and certain liberals seem to feel like women are betraying feminism or something if they don’t want to work. (fyi It’s not like stay at home dads gets kudos or treated any better, you usually get told you’re lazy or people think it’s “cute” that you “babysit” your kids).
When I went back to work after my daughter was born I cried. I had a boring, dead-end job like most men and women do. I wanted to stay home with her a little while longer.
That said, I thought the women’s movement was about CHOICES. If a woman wants to be a full-time mom, why shouldn’t that option be respected?
Motherhood IS the most important role a woman can have–whether it’s biological or spiritual or adopting
I don’t know about that. There are some women out there that have no maternal instincts at all. And what if you give birth to a serial killer?
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