Dad warns what not to do when your wife is in labor
by Carder
Your wife is experiencing pain beyond belief and you’re complaining that your back hurts from leaning over her bed to hold her hand? Dumb move, dude (I speak from experience here). This is a sure-fire way to earn the death look of the century and a gnarly scolding after the birth. Keep your discomforts to yourself and offer them up for your wife and baby.
My wife nearly broke my hand and dislocated my arm once during an intense contraction. But I learned to keep my mouth shut and offered up the pain.
~ Stay-at-home dad Rich Lamm explaining rule number 1 on his list of do’s and dont’s during labor, Epic Pew, March 2
[Photo via The Bump]
Mar.04, 2015 6:00 am |
Pregnancy |
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
Don’t talk about having the next one either.
Don’t get in her face either. My husband made that mistake.
I wouldn’t let my husband near me. I wanted nothing to do with him. Or anyone. I just wanted to be left alone as I labored (I went all natural both times). Every time I’d cry out in pain he’d shout in a panic “What do you want me to do????”
“Just shut up!!!!” I’d breathe. lol. My poor husband. I’m just not very cuddly and friendly when giving birth.
My husband is great. He sits in a rocking chair in the corner. He doesn’t understand that his presence soothes me. We had a one time discussion on why he couldn’t play angry birds during labor, and we were good. ;) to be fair his logic was, but I don’t do anything! I answered that he can pray for me then!
I freaked out when my ex-wife was giving birth the first time. Not a good thing, I made things harder on her. To be fair I was a very immature barely 20-year-old and had exactly zero experience with childbirth and didn’t have any idea of what to do or what my role was. Don’t think you can do without childbirth preparation, especially if you’ve never witnessed a birth or have any other experience with it! With our second she became very ill and ended up with an emergency c-section. I’m glad she didn’t see how much I freaked out with that one, I think it would have made things a lot worse for her. Lucky enough my mother-in-law told me how to support her after that, she certainly needed it.
Any dude who whines about his wife squeezing his hand too hard while she’s bringing his baby into the world is being pretty dense and immature imo, and could do with some guidance from someone who knows what they are doing.
“nearly broke my hand” – sweet. My wife bit a lump out of my shoulder at the critical moment. She was of course quite welcome, given what she was doing for all three of us…