Chilli of group TLC describes post-abortion stress on VH1 reality show
On the May 9 episode of the VH1 reality show, What Chilli Wants, TLC hip hop girl group member Rozonda “Chilli” Thomas opened up about her abortion.
In the video Chilli described aborting at age 20, about 1991, for sadly common reasons, because she “didn’t have the support” and “was so scared.”…
On the May 9 episode of the VH1 reality show, What Chilli Wants, TLC hip hop girl group member Rozonda “Chilli” Thomas opened up about her abortion.
In the video Chilli described aborting at age 20, about 1991, for sadly common reasons, because she “didn’t have the support” and “was so scared.”…
This was also at the beginning of her musical career, she said, and she didn’t know how she could do both it and motherhood.
So Chilli opted to “not have it” (couldn’t say “abortion”), which turned out to be “one of the biggest mistakes,” because she “didn’t want to do that.”
Then Chilli began to describe what abortion proponents say doesn’t exist, post traumatic stress syndrome* as a result of her abortion. “It messed me up,” she said, “I don’t know, it broke my spirit.”
Chilli felt she lost her “strong self,” and that she “gave in, broke to what someone else wanted.” Obviously, she felt pressured to abort.
She said she began to break down, to cry “because I wasn’t a mommy” – almost every day for almost 9 years.
Chilli decided the only way to “fix it” was to have a baby with the same man, her 1st record producer, Dallas Austin.
Chilli doesn’t talk about this in the video, but she indeed had a baby with Austin, son Tron, now ~13 years old, pictured right with her.
I very much appreciate Chilli’s honesty.
Ironically – or perhaps subsequently – according to zvents.com, TLC’s “musical formula was augmented by the girls’ brightly-colored videos and curious costuming: each girl wore unwrapped condoms on their clothing (Left-Eye also wore one in a pair of glasses over her left eye), apparently advocating contraception.” See top photo for Left Eye’s eye condom. (Tragically, Left Eye was killed in a car accident 8 years ago.)
And TLC’s best selling single, “Waterfalls,” released in 1995, had partially to do with one woe of practicing indiscriminate sex. (Read lyrics here.) I’ve always loved this song…
*Post-abortive groups are getting away from calling it “post abortion stress syndrome” and using the more accepted and generic term, “post traumatic stress syndrome.” I only used it in my post title to more succinctly explain what it was about.
[HT: Susie Allen of Pro-Life in TN; bottom photo via zimbio.com]
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
Sad. Sad that anyone has to find out “the hard way” what abortion does to a woman physically AND emotionally (probably mentally, too?)
Sad story — but where was the “baby daddy,” Dallas Austin, during the first pregnancy? Why wasn’t he there to help????
Wow! How brave of Chili to come out and admit, not only that she has had an abortion, but also the terrible long lasting effects that one decision has made on her life. The Bible promises that truth will be revealed, and it’s through the mouths of brave women like Chili, that bring that promise to life. The truth is abortion not only kills that innocent baby growing in it’s mommy’s belly, but it also kills some part of every woman who has one.
Ah Chilli,
The truth. Thank you for telling the truth. So hear ya!
Thank you, Chilli, for having the courage to speak out. With celebrity comes responsibility, and I hope that your interview inspires your fans to choose life for their children and not “settle” when choosing a romantic partner. I’m sure you’ll get a lot of crap from abortion advocates for expressing pain that “doesn’t exist” in their world. Remember that we are on your side!!
People named “Chili” probably shouldn’t be having kids anyway.
that wasn’t her REAL NAME, Marissa. That was part of the name TLC: Obviously she was the “C” in the group name. It says her name is Rozanda.
But Marissa. I thought you were all about almighty CHOICE. OMG how DARE you JUDGE another person’s CHOICE.
Let’s just hope Chili’s words will have an effect on the young women (and guys) who are her fans and they won’t make the same tragic mistake she did. Kudos to her for “coming clean” about her abortion.
“In the video Chilli described aborting at age 20, about 1991, for sadly common reasons, because she “didn’t have the support” and “was so scared.”…”
So much for choice. What a sad story. I’m happy that she was able to go on and have another child. Some post-abortive women aren’t so lucky. Perhaps other women will learn from her story and will be less likely to make the mistake she made. One can hope.
Marissa,
Hello there, little troll :)
Be it noted that the only derogatory comment against Chilli came from a pro-abort, compared to several sympathetic and supportive pro-life comments.
I’m pro-choice and I can sympathize with Chilli. Of course abortion can be a difficult decision. Every woman’s experience is different.
And one last thing…why do you (most of the people on this page) only consider a sob story like this to be an authentic abortion experience? What do you make of women who come forward and tell you they felt relief after having aborted their pregnancies?