New “Wrap it up” condom campaigns ignore exposed present
Willy-nilly sex pushers have apparently come up with a new catch phrase to promote condom use: “Wrap it up.”
For instance, the graphic from a November 28 article entitled, “Temperatures are dropping, so are students’s pants,” in Boise State’s student newspaper, The Arbiter…
And Feministing on December 8 featured this “Wrap it up” flash mob video advocating condoms for “safe sex,” although the mob was pretty unflashy, I must say…
The problem is condoms are an incredible fail. According to June 2010 figures from Guttmacher Institute they’re only 1% better than using nothing at all…
This means 17.4 out of every 100 sexually active girls or women whose partners use condoms will get pregnant every year. In a game of pregnancy Russian Roulette, condom use equals 1 bullet in a chamber of 6.
And STDs? The figures have to go downhill from there, since HPV and genital herpes are spread by skin-to-skin contact of the entire genital area, not just the wrapped penile present. So there should be asterisks such as this on the startling figures presented in the video above…
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
A 2% rate of failure for properly used condoms speaks for itself. Are they perfect? No, but neither are seatbelts. I don’t see anyone advocating against seatbelts because they are not 100% guaranteed to prevent injury or fatality in traffic accidents.
Joan, 2% isn’t a realistic figure, as Guttmacher points out. And even if it were, would you gamble with that 2% by having condomed sex with an HIV+ person?
Joan, you miss the point. The point is that safe sex is a LIE. No one says that wearing a seatbelt will keep you from crashing, only that it provides some protection if you do. These people are suggesting that condoms will keep you from getting STD’s that condoms CAN’T keep you from getting, just like Jill said.
There is no right way to do a wrong thing.
Furthermore, comparing car travel to extra-marital sex is like comparing insulin-dependent diabetics with heroin junkies. Injecting insulin isn’t recreational but rather serves a purpose. Heroin is recreational and will kill you. Telling junkies to use clean needles while killing themselves with heroin so they don’t spread HIV is tantamount to saying that there is a right way to do a wrong thing. It’s a lie. Likewise, telling kids to use condoms during extra-marital recreational sex so that there might be a lesser likelihood of them killing themselves with diseases is telling them that there is a right way to do a wrong thing. Another lie.
Extra-marital sex is clearly a wrong thing because it spreads disease, heartache, fatherless children (and those are the lucky ones who don’t get dismembered in the womb). Marital sex does not. Marital sex promotes unity, love, an intact family with children who are welcomed by two people that made them. One is right and one is wrong. No matter how you do the WRONG one, you can’t make it right. Why then is it ridiculous to suggest that people choose the right thing rather than the wrong thing, when THEY benefit from it?
Ah, yes, the old “driving a car is the same as having sex” comparison … because just as everyone HAS to drive a car, everyone HAS to have sex.
Perhaps someone can correct me, but I don’t think sex gets your kids to school.
I once met a young man who said to me, “I can’t put a condom on my heart.” What he meant was, casual sex isn’t just risky in terms of disease. It’s risky emotionally. For a couple generations now, people have been acting like sex is nothing special. Has it created utopia? Look around you. I think not.
“Joan, 2% isn’t a realistic figure, as Guttmacher points out. And even if it were, would you gamble with that 2% by having condomed sex with an HIV+ person?”
Actually, the figure you posted says that perfect condom usage has a 2% failure rate. Of course it’s not realistic to assume that everyone is going to use it perfectly, as evidenced by the higher “typical use” number. However, vigorous education campaigns targeted at higher-risk groups could help to bridge the gap between the perfect use and typical use numbers. As for your question, that’s irrelevant. People are going to take that risk whether it’s a smart gamble or not and when they do, they should have the tools and the knowledge to be as safe as possible. And that’s to say nothing of sex between people who are both clean, know they’re both clean, and simply want to prevent conception. For that, a 2% failure rate for perfectly-used condoms is quite acceptable.
“Joan, you miss the point. The point is that safe sex is a LIE. No one says that wearing a seatbelt will keep you from crashing, only that it provides some protection if you do. These people are suggesting that condoms will keep you from getting STD’s that condoms CAN’T keep you from getting, just like Jill said.”
I’ve never once seen anyone suggest that condoms are 100% effective in preventing STD’s and conception, and I’ve never once seen anyone use condoms with the belief that they are 100% protected from those things. However, they absolutely make sex drastically safer.
“Marital sex does not. Marital sex promotes unity, love, an intact family with children who are welcomed by two people that made them.”
You seem to be under the impression that condoms are only used during extra-marital sex. Plenty of married couples successfully use condoms and other forms of contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancy. If that’s the “wrong way” to have sex for you, then don’t use them, but don’t tell other people they shouldn’t either.
“Ah, yes, the old “driving a car is the same as having sex” comparison … because just as everyone HAS to drive a car, everyone HAS to have sex.”
Everyone HAS to drive a car? Really? That’s new. Last I checked, millions of people use alternative modes of transportation, including public busing, riding bicycles, or walking.
“For that, a 2% failure rate for perfectly-used condoms is quite acceptable.” Wonder what the back up plan is.
You seem to be under the impression that condoms are only used during extra-marital sex. Plenty of married couples successfully use condoms and other forms of contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancy. If that’s the “wrong way” to have sex for you, then don’t use them, but don’t tell other people they shouldn’t either.
Actually, couples who just want to prevent pregnancy and are married with no fear of disease typically use hormonal methods only, hence everyone’s complaint that birth control is the woman’s responsibility. While sexually-active single women also use hormonal methods, they also use condoms to prevent diseases too, as do the men who don’t want to father their children or get diseases from them. Marriages are designed to have no need to prevent STD’s- Preventing conception is something totally different.
If that’s the “wrong way” to have sex for you, then don’t use them, but don’t tell other people they shouldn’t either.
As for your completely disturbing last line, right and wrong have nothing to do with personal preference. If you think such then you are going to have nothing but trouble in your life because you fail to see the inexorable link between cause and effect. I could think having sex with children is a right thing to do but I will still end up in jail and harm a child irreparably because it’s WRONG. The wrong CAUSE gives a bad EFFECT. My thinking it’s right doesn’t change that it’s intrinsically wrong and will end up badly for me. Likewise, my thinking that sex with a condom outside of a monogamous marriage is right and will likely still end up pregnant or infected- My thinking a wrong thing is right does not change this. Sex outside of marriage- condom or no is wrong because it has BAD consequences, which is evidence of it’s wrongness. Sex inside a marriage has GOOD consequences, which is evidence of it’s goodness. Right and wrong have nothing to do with me or what I think/feel/want. It’s objective. Luckily I understand cause and effect and won’t be having sex in a wrong way- and subsequently I won’t have an STD with me (often for LIFE), a child that I have to raise alone with no father in the home if at all who will lack the support she deserves, self-esteem issues, heartache and so forth. Is it so horrible to you that I want other people to have these same benefits? Since we also have innocent children in the mix, is it horrible that I should want children to be raised by both people who made them rather than killed by abortion or abandoned by their faith before birth?
You are trying to defend something that is foolish. There are no benefits of sex outside of marriage- and even if you invented some, they would never come close to outweighing the costs. Imagine you are an AIDS orphan or an aborted/abandoned child and tell me if any extra-marital sex someone could have is worth your life.
By the way, the church that sponsored this video telling kids that premarital sex is just fine as long as they use a condom- these folks also distributed bleach kits to junkies to clean their needles. It reminds me of groups that give condoms to sex slaves so that they stay rape victims, just not HIV-negative rape victims. How many ways are we going to validate the dangerous exploitation/self-exploitation of human beings by suggesting that it could be a little “safer” to degrade yourself and expose yourself to disease and destruction?
And these kids on the video and talking about how they want to be safe! Kids, if you truly want to be safe, DON’T EXPOSE YOURSELF! And to the kid that said he doesn’t want kids because kids shouldn’t be having kids: STOP DOING THE THING THAT CREATES KIDS. It really is that simple.
When you look at the 17.4% failure rate of condoms for prevention of PREGNANCY in typical use, you need to realize that a woman is only fertile for 24-48 hours of each menstrual cycle. So if a condom breaks, etc., during intercourse on most of the days of her cycle, she won’t get pregnant anyway, unless it happens to be on one of the days when she is fertile. However, she can and will be exposed to disease each and every time she has intercourse with an infected partner. So condom failure during any act of intercourse will be very risky to her. So the rate of failure of condoms in preventing the spread of disease is probably much, much higher than 17.4%.
Good Golly Miss Molly promiscuity is Planned Parenthood’s bread and butter.
If it feels good do it, right PP? You will help clean up all of the little silly messes that happen. Hey, everybodys doing it. wink wink
This article makes me feel so hopeful. I HATE using condoms. HATE IT. The fact that they are so deplorable in the area of “protection” makes my heart surge with hope. 1 in 6 chance you say? I’m already in a better mood! After all, if I got pregnant on the pill then condoms ought to bring a few more bundles of joy, right?
“The fact that they are so deplorable in the area of “protection” makes my heart surge with hope. 1 in 6 chance you say? I’m already in a better mood!”
Since you personally dislike condoms, you hope they fail for people who do use them? That’s pleasant. Of course, I’m sure many of those unwanted conceptions would lead to abortion, but I guess that’s preferable than the condoms actually working for you.
Hey Joanie,
Maybe you should ask Sydney why she feels that way??
No Joan. Don’t you actually read what others say? I have posted time and time again how my husband insists on using condoms. I want another baby so badly!!!!!! So the fact that my husband insists on placing all faith in these annoying rubber sheaths yet they tend to fail and allow pregnancy to occur gives me secret glee! I am hoping to be one of the failures this year and have a little bun in the oven come 2011. Or come later this month. I pray every night with tears for God to bless me with another son or a little daughter. And thats what I meant by that.
Kart, believe me I’ve thought about it ;-) but I couldn’t be deceptive. I know a little condom won’t stop God if He plans for us to have another. Thats why I hit my knees in prayer and pray like crazy! God heard Hannah’s prayer for a baby and I know if its His will He will hear mine.
Kart-
Could it be that Sydney’s wishes don’t matter to her husband rather than the insult you have just given?
Sydney–
praying your husband has a change of heart.
I really feel for you. I am not sure what I would do if my husband insisted on contraception. I would probably consider not having sex. At one point, though, you mentioned having a stronger sex drive than your husband and I definitely know what that’s like, so it seems like that recourse would hurt me more than him… I am so blessed to have a husband who loves me and respects me and is open to life. I pray that someday you will have that too.