Miami Heat player and wife talk abortion in wedding announcement
I am not a huge fan of abortion, but we both had sports careers, plus we could not financially handle a baby,” said Mr. Haslem, noting how he struggled with supporting Kedonis, the son he had in high school, who is now 14 and who lives with his mother.
“Udonis appreciated that I was willing to have an abortion,” Ms. Rein said. “I found him caring, supportive, nurturing and all over me to be sure I was O.K. I saw another side of him during that difficult time and fell deeply in love. He had a big heart and was the whole package.”
~ Miami Heat basketball player Udonis Haslem and partner Faith Rein openly discussing their college abortion in a New York Times wedding announcement, via Think Progress, September 3
Sep.04, 2013 6:00 am |
Pop Culture, Post-abortion |
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
I’m not clear…did she have the abortion or is that the 14 year old? I’m hoping that’s the case. Well Cleveland lost LeBron James to the Heat…also in Cleveland news if you guys hadn’t heard Castro the kidnapper killed himself in jail.
Heather, he has a 14 y.o. who was born while Udonis was in high school. A different woman is his mother.
Is this what we’ve come to now, ladies? Guys have big hearts if they’re willing to nurse you back to health after you’ve both chosen to kill your son or daughter?
I always thought guys who were willing to do whatever it took to fight to support their families and be responsible and caring fathers were the ones with big hearts.
How sweet. They bonded over murdering another human being.
Okay got it now….yeah …i misunderstood because he said he wasn’t an abortion fan.
“A couple bonding over murdering another human being,” I would imagine that might work its way into a short little film at the next Democratic Convention. I can hear it now, “Because “choice” was there, we’re closer than ever.”
What’s wrong with people these days?
Isn’t that just precious???!!
I pray their hearts are soften to the truth of what abortion did…killing your own child. Wrapping your mind around it without losing it is very difficult, that is why it is so deceiving for so long. As long as we can put it in a box and wrap a pretty bow on it…all’s good! I know so many who played that game and lost, only to find real peace and joy and forgiveness. Someday I hope they come to understand what they did. We are all so much better for it when it happens.
“I’m not a huge fan of abortion”….unless of course it makes my life a little easier.
He was not able to support a child but was able to have intercourse?: son number one that is raised by baby momma 1 and baby number two he helped baby momma 2 to abort. I truly hope no black kid looks up to him.
After having read the entire announcement in NYTimes, I’m just sad. It’s seems to have been written as some kind of love story, but it’s more like a nightmare of how messed up relationships are these days. He was “afraid of marriage”. They had a sexual relationship for years, had two sons that they allowed to be born (Josiah & Elijah) and one child they killed in an abortion, they purchased a home together, the lack of being married caused Ms. Rein distress and loneliness…but he was “afraid” of marriage?
Hi Thomas R
I hope no kids of any color look up to him.
Well some people do believe that abortion made their lives better. My now former friend says I had one and I don’t care. Proud I did. She was a nursing student back in the 90s and she had one to finish school. Sometimes I wonder. Is she fooling herself?
She and the father broke up after a 2 month fling.
The NYT article says she was too busy to be pregnant because of track and helping him with his homework.
Women need to quit enabling men! Colleges have programs and assistants to help with homework. God forbid he ask the teacher for help.
Does she wipe his arse too?
they were young, and they were doing what Planned Parenthood, the NYT, and all the Culture of Death assured them was a good thing to do…. So they killed a child.
And now, they must spend every day remembering the child they killed together.
Let us hope that they receive healing. Perhaps they will become pro-life someday, and share their story of regret. The only way that we will get passed this Culture of Death is to have large numbers of mothers and fathers come forth and share their stories.
Tim Tebow — Look how happy he is!
Udonis Haslem — Look how sorry he is!
Haslem, misguided as he was, seems to be a good man. He stayed with this woman, when most men abandon the mother after her abortion. Perhaps he will be a good father some day, and even a celebrity pro-lifer. And then may young men of all colors look up to him as a true hero.
He had a big heart? One that couldn’t fit another cute little bundle in it? Riiiight…..
Heather says:
September 4, 2013 at 8:21 am
also in Cleveland news if you guys hadn’t heard Castro the kidnapper killed himself in jail.
I heard this on the radio and raced home to find you. I should have guessed that you would be the first to know.
Ariel Castro…. A monster, and now a coward. Imprisoned for less than a tenth of the time that he held those young women.
I’m glad that the State of Ohio decided to spare him, even though he held his life to be of little worth. Our Culture of Death is measured by how we treat our weakest members and by how we treat our most despised members. This one, we did not murder. That is to our credit. Our killing culture has a conscience, yet.
This just makes me sad.
So many people don’t know what true love is. They don’t know that they can and should expect their significant others to be respectful of them and selfless. Ugh.
I coppish Mary, its just that black b-ball players are looked up to w/in their community quite a bit and many black boys aspire to be “them.” That is what I was referring to. Caucasian boys can’t jump so that is a different story. LOL…
Yeah…what a stud! He cared enough about you to nurse you back to health after you had his baby sucked out of your womb. But he probably didn’t care enough to keep it in his pants after you physically recovered knowing neither of you were ready for a baby.
And I have to ask…why is adoption never considered? Why did your child have to die? What utter selfishness!!
@ Sydney M.: Perhaps more people will consider adoption when it is possible to transplant an embryo from one womb to another. As it is today, adoption is only possible after a pregnancy has been carried to term. If the woman feels that she cannot carry to term, adoption isn’t relevant.
There will ALWAYS be adoption. However, it will never be very common because the process of carrying to term and giving birth automatically forms a powerful emotional bond between mother and child.
Why in the world would anyone mention having an abortion in their WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENT?
Perhaps people will be more apt to consider adoption if we get the word out that the meaning of adoption can be expanded. For example, instead of the birthmother relinquishing custody, she AND the baby can be taken into a household where she is mentored in mothering her child. She gets considerable assistance, both financial and otherwise, in parenting. This would be a kind of “adoption” of both mom and kid.
“And now, they must spend every day remembering the child they killed together.” – why?
“Udonis Haslem — Look how sorry he is!” – why do you say that?
“He stayed with this woman, when most men abandon the mother after her abortion.” – you’ve got stats for this?
“Ariel Castro…. A monster, and now a coward.” – indeed, I agree. But then again, he has in fact delivered what many demanded.
“Udonis appreciated that I was willing to have an abortion,” Ms. Rein said. “I found him caring, supportive, nurturing and all over me to be sure I was O.K. I saw another side of him during that difficult time and fell deeply in love. He had a big heart and was the whole package.”
No, honey. It’s when he’s caring, supportive and nurturing when you want to have the baby that you know he’s the real deal. (Of course he’s going to be caring, etc., when he’s getting what HE wants).
Do my homework and I’ll give ya hugs and kisses, babe. And if you’re lucky we’ll make love.
Wash my clothes and dishes and I’ll give ya a bag rub, sweetie. And if you’re lucky we’ll make love.
Help me pay my child support and I promise I’ll buy you a big ring, angel. And if you’re lucky we’ll make love.
Abort our child and I promise we’ll start a family when we are more settled, hon. And if you’re lucky we’ll make love.
Congratulations on your engagement Ms. Rein and Mr. Haslem. May you think of your precious child every time you make love.
It is the gang-banger/DemocRAT mentality that they express how deep their love is for one another by supporting each other when they kill or otherwise molest others.
TS, Your just jealous your love doesn’t go that deep.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=XpqqjU7u5Yc
I’ve been BG’d
Yeah, I’m not exactly surprised that he was “caring” and “supportive” when he was getting what he wanted. How lovely that he appreciated her willingness to have the life torn from her womb.
It’s tragic. A life lost and two more irrevocably altered. I pray for their acceptance and healing.
“I saw another side of him during that difficult time.”
Do these people ever listen to themselves speak? Please explain what makes abortion “difficult.” Is it the part about scraping up the money, or the part about scraping out the kid?
Please explain what makes abortion “difficult.” Is it the part about scraping up the money, or the part about scraping out the kid?
Bumper sticker material for sure.
As sad as this is, I completely understand the desire of this couple to insert their pro-abortion story into such a celebratory thing like a wedding announcement. Prior to healing from my own abortion years ago, I know I always tried to justify my decision when something positive would happen in my life as a way of convincing myself that I had made the right decision even though I always knew I had not. This can be a very powerful form of denial. Since this couple has since had two children (who will now undoubtedly one day discover that their parents aborted their earlier sibling), I sincerely hope they will eventually be able to grieve and heal together.
This is sad. We need to pray for them and for others who think abortion is a great idea.
Why in the world would anyone mention having an abortion in their WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENT?
They are still busy trying to justify it.
Unfortunately Thomas, many young black kids probably look up to this guy. My heroes are teachers, nurses, crossing guards, firefighters, people that make the world a better place for all of us, not overpaid athletes.
What’s wrong with people these days?
I have no idea.
This story is interesting in light of a young woman I overheard talking on the train the other day. She had two toddlers, one in a stroller, and one was apparently pregnant. She can’t have been more than 25. She was talking to her friend and said that she wanted to go back to school and “babies would just get in the way” but she also stated tht if she had an abortion she would “have to live with it for the rest of my life.” I felt so bad for her because I could tell she was struggling and wished I could help her. No mention of the fathers of these babies.
Marriage is at an all-time low in the black community. Many black people say that “marriage is for white people.” I’m divorced, but I was with my husband during the children’s formative years. One thing to his credit — when I became pregnant, he never even thought of asking me to have an abortion. My daughter the newlywed wrote me and said that she has “the best husband in the world.” I am so happy for her! If only more young black people felt that way.
Hi phillymiss. Congratulations about your daughter and your new son-in-law, he sounds like a real keeper. I pray they will have a happy, wonderful, God-centered marriage. I have a young relative who has been walking in purity, waiting for her husband, is now “courting” a Christian young man who has also waited and it looks like they are close to getting engaged. Her sisters did the same thing and they have been blessed with wonderful, godly husbands and beautiful children. They have been through many challenges (don’t we all?) but God has brought them through because He is the foundation of their marriage.
I think the studies report that 93% of young people say having a stable healthy marriage one day is important to them but it is so sad that so many young people are afraid to make the commitment of marriage. They think that if they don’t commit, just live together, test drive each other, have babies together that they are practicing how to be married beforehand and that they are going to reduce the odds of divorce but (A) most of them never make it down the aisle in the 1st place, (B) they actually double the chance of divorce if they do marry because they have already practiced NOT being committed to each other, being skeptical of marriage, and having a temporary performance-based relationship (as long as you please me I’ll stay but …). Excellent book by Glenn Stanton “The Ring Makes All the Difference” lays out the research regarding the case for marriage..
Just backs up the old-fashioned, godly advice my parents and other adults gave me growing up many years ago. You increase the odds of a successful life and marriage if you put God first, stay in school, obtain an education or skill, save sex for marriage, get married before living together, get married before having children, work together at having a stable marriage, be good to each other and raise your children to do these same things. There are no guarantees in life, (some go through a divorce like my mother-in-law and you) we all go through struggles, and some kids go astray or rebel or have to learn the hard way but blessings do follow those who “seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all of these things will be added unto you”.
My heart goes out to the young woman you overheard on the train. I pray she will go to a PCC and get some counseling and help.
Blessing to you phillymiss and your family.