Mom’s stomach bug actually a full-term baby
by Carder
We didn’t know at first it was a baby coming, but once we did it happened fast….
Two pushes and he was out.
… I had been feeling fine until the past few days and I had been getting my “womanly thing” every month until last month.
~ Jennifer Scollin explaining how she discovered she was pregnant at the moment she delivered her 9-pound, 3-ounce son Cole Michael Thomas Dillman, via Yahoo! Shine, April 1
[Photo via Connecticut Post]
Apr.02, 2014 6:00 am |
Pregnancy |
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
There is a show on called I didnt know I was pregnant. Im glad that little doll is okay. Idk how you could not know with all of the unpleasant symptoms and im tall and thin so it looked like I had a beach ball under my dresses. But people swear its true.
No matter how many stories like this I hear, I still find myself in amazement that this is even possible.
“My ‘womanly thing'”??
Sorry, but even the use of this term makes me wonder about this woman.
I don’t know. These kinds of stories blow my mind.
Especially in that she had that baby out in two pushes. I’d be trying to figure out of there was some kind of serious medical problem going on. Unless you’re in serious denial, like hard, hard core denial I guess your brain could write off all your symptoms.
“Womanly thing” sounds a lot cuter than “period.” And more feminine. Both are euphemisms for menstruation.
I’m with Heather and JDC — it is hard enough to believe that a woman can hide her pregnancy for nine months, much less be unaware of it herself! Doesn’t the baby squirm and kick in a characteristic way? And this mommy appears to have carried one child already….
“But I can’t be pregnant. I just had a period.”
I’ve heard some women not knowing that intercourse may result in pregnancy but not to know of being pregnant especially in the 2nd or 3rd trimester? I’m with LibertyBelle on this one…
“Womanly thing” to me sounds ignorant and immature, not “cute” or “feminine.” I don’t typically hear women my age and younger referring to menstruation that way. “Monthly visitor” occasionally – “womanly thing” no. (Maybe that’s just what her mom called it?) But putting that together with, “I didn’t know I was about to deliver a child” and to me, that’s just… uh… different.
And yeah, LB - I mean, even if I were getting a period every month, I would still know to at least pay attention to other potential symptoms. And in 9 months, no pregnancy test was taken? No other symptoms recognized? NONE? Hardcore denial.
Its not a “womanly thing” anymore Kel. Some man have a variation of it especially once they hit the big 4 0. I’ve had a few “episodes” since I hit 40 five years ago :)
I have no idea how this happens. Just none.
“Its not a “womanly thing” anymore Kel. Some man have a variation of it especially once they hit the big 4 0. I’ve had a few “episodes” since I hit 40 five years ago”
What?!
What?! You may be correct JDC :)
“What?! You may be correct JDC “
But it was a question, not a statement. How could it be correct or incorrect?
Think about the thoughts that lead you to write this question JDC. So yes, you may be correct…
Thomas I just really don’t want to know….
And uh yeah I just don’t see how you could ignore the symptoms unless you were either totally oblivious or in such strong denial that you refused to see the symptoms. I’ve taken pregnancy tests before even when I didn’t think I ought to be pregnant, just to be sure. It’s one of those things that if you’re sexually active and a woman, you need to be aware of. It happens and it’s best if you know earlier. First trimester, okay yeah I can see how you’d think that’s a stomach bug.
But by the third trimester, imo, you oughta notice *something.* If nothing else, the symptoms you’d be noticing ought to prompt a visit to a doctor becaus clearly something is up, probably hormonal. Even women who are blessed with “easy” pregnancies have symptoms, and even women have fast, low-pain labors have serious pains.
This is just so weird.
And yeah who doesn’t question a stomach bug that lasts for nine months!?
“Think about the thoughts that lead you to write this question JDC. So yes, you may be correct…”
The only thoughts that lead me to my question were that I didn’t know what you are talking about.
A 5 pound baby..maaaaybe. My daughter was 4 pounds at birth, and a lot of times I really COULDN’T feel her kicking, but a NINE POUND BABY ??? She HAD to know “something” was in there (“something” meaning a baby, a tumor-SOMETHING)
Sometimes people who were abused or traumatized as children will “check out” and feel disassociated from their bodies and lose touch with physical symptoms of what’s going on with them. I do this sometimes when I get hurt or sick, I’ll disassociate from the pain. Even when I broke my ankle I ignored it until my ex-wife forced me to go to the doctor and I found out it was fractured.
So I wonder if something similar is going on with these women who seem to not notice they are pregnant until they go into labor. I wonder if they are disassociating from their bodies and ignoring symptoms. Especially with the rather childish euphemism for her menstruation, I wonder if she has some real issues with abuse in her childhood.
Which orifice do you bleed from Thomas R.?
Where do you suffer cramps, if you do suffer them?
Where is your ‘heavy’ feeling located?
Do you feel nauseous, unable to eat at times?
This is a seriously disgusting derailment.
Sorry you feel that way Jack.
It wasn’t meant to be disgusting, it is something natural after all.
I just found it a very odd thing for a man to say.
Oh I don’t find women’s menstrual cycles disgusting at all. I’m not the husband or boyfriend who would refuse to go buy tampons or Midol or whatever, lol, I think that’s childish. I have four older sisters and I was married, after all. Nothing disgusting about women’s periods, it’s perfectly natural.
I find discussing hypothetical man periods really disgusting, that’s what I was referring to. Particularly ruminating on what orifices would be involved. It grosses me out.
There are all kinds of reasons a woman may not realize she is pregnant. Cases like this underscore the need for every woman to take proper care of herself all the time.
Jack that’s really interesting. I didn’t realize that people did that but it actually totally makes sense. She probably does have some serious issues related to her past and I can see how a person’s brain could pull the disassociation thing.
I guess I’m just more “hyper attuned” where I ignore stuff because alarm bells go off at every little spot, nick, headache, or pain. Which I guess is the opposite of disassociation.
I just find myself less than enamoured when men cry ‘me too, me too!’ in that department LDPL.
I’ve never had a problem buying sanitary products for the women in my life either.
I wasn’t even aware men *did* cry ‘me too me too’ on this.
The things you learn…..
Blech
It’s like this LibertyBelle.
When some men hit ‘a certain age’ and impacts such as ‘grumpy old man’ syndrome emerge, they seek any excuse to justify being less than ideal to be around. Maybe it is worse for those who can’t attain any of the blonde/sportscar/motorcycle mid-life crisis remedies :-)
I’ve heard of men having six week hormonal cycles (love to see the science on that) – maybe it harks back to the old ‘bio-rythms’ craze.
My personal pet peeve is when men compare menstrual cramps to getting kicked or otherwise harmed in the testicles. Sure, that pain is probably worse than most menstrual cramps (though some women get cramps really, really bad), but you don’t get kicked in the testicles for a solid few days every month (hopefully!).
I have heard that testosterone dips in middle age can be considered an “andropause” something similar to menopause for men. But it’s nowhere the severity or as life-changing as menopause is.
“Jack that’s really interesting. I didn’t realize that people did that but it actually totally makes sense. She probably does have some serious issues related to her past and I can see how a person’s brain could pull the disassociation thing. ”
It’s fairly common in sexual abuse victims, spacing out is a coping mechanism during the abuse and it gets generalized to other stressful situations or pain in adulthood. I always wonder if that’s a factor in these women who don’t know they are pregnant until they are literally giving birth, particularly because they don’t seem to have the painful labor that most women do. I wonder if they just are blocking out the pain like is common to abuse survivors.
I would rather disassociate than be hyper-sensitive LibertyBelle, lol, that doesn’t sound fun at all.
That would actually make total sense.
And yeah. It actuallly really sucks. My parents called me hypochondriac when I was 10 and I asked how long I had to live. It’s really stressful because you always feel like “that person” when you call the doctor but then you are also convinced that you’re going to drop dead before you get there.
haha we all have issues, huh?
Reality & Jack lol yeah I’ve heard that too but it’s totally not the same thing. I’m so glad I didn’t get a guy who acts like that or thinks that way because it’s a pet peeve of mine too. Because I’ll tell ya it’s not fun for us either.
On the flip side, women shouldn’t use it as an excuse to go all crazy adn do what they want.
Lol LibertyBelle I’m kinda chuckling but at the same time I feel bad. That must be really stressful. Anxiety disorders and such can be really touch to deal with. I get anxious about other stuff but when it comes to health stuff I tend to just completely shut down and ignore that, but I think part of that is men in general, for some reason men tend to ignore health issues until they are on death’s door lol. That’s why married men live longer, because their wives make them go to the doctor (seriously, they’ve done studies on it).
But yeah LibertyBelle I hate throwing around the word sexism, because people tend to overuse it, but I think the trying to “one up” women for reproductive pain and problems is pretty sexist for those guys who do. It’s like they can’t stand women getting sympathy in that area and they have to try and sound like they have it worse. It’s silly, there are plenty of areas where men do genuinely have it worse than women, go complain about that instead of trying to claim this one, when it’s pretty undeniable that women got the short straw here!
Ha. It’s okay I’ve learned to laugh at it (while I go to counseling lol). I mean anxiety issues are real and not fun to deal with at all. But like I said, we’ve all got issues. I know! Those studies are so funny and it’s totally true. The funniest thing in our marriage is that my husband forces me to go to the doctor (I hate going with a passion)(like seriously they give me anxiety attacks) and yet when he complains about something, he’ll refuse to go himself. It’s so weird.
Ugh! Yes it’s sexist. WE all just need to realize that, while equal, each gender does has specific challenges unique to them and it’s okay and it’s not harder or easier to be anyone else (re: we all have issues). They just look different for everyone else.
And dont’ feel bad. There’s a ton of crap in my life that I don’t go into here. But it’s all good.
At least it’s more difficult to violently abort your child when you don’t know he’s there. Perhaps “fetuses” are evolving to be more secretive in order to survive. Hide until you’re a person, Baby!
Ive heard it called a visit from aunt Flo.
I generally say period. Or cycle..its our bodies and we are women.
I tend to agree with the denial issue too. Hard to believe you wouldnt know.
“you don’t get kicked in the testicles for a solid few days every month (hopefully!).”
Totally unrelated random story, but if Thomas is going to talk about how he menstruates then I get to share this too: one day I was walking around downtown minding my own business when a man approached me. He looked totally normal and didn’t seem creepy or sheepish or anything, so my “AVOID AND KEEP WALKING” bells didn’t go off immediately and he managed to get my attention. He said he had a business proposition and I was like “no” and he hurriedly commented that it didn’t involve sex, “modeling,” or anything like that. I paused briefly and he said that he would buy me anything in any store we went into if I would: a) wear very high stiletto heels, b) treat him like dirt in front of the sales staff, and c) kick him in the testicles (while wearing the stilettos) afterwards. I was like, “Could I just kick you in the balls on the sidewalk? Not someplace alone?” He said yes but I would have to kick him after every store we went into, and I would have to act really spoiled and emotionally abusive in the stores, berating him as he was buying me stuff etc. I glanced fleetingly at the Apple store, located mere steps away – we were in Soho so we were surrounded by Chanel, etc, lots of pricey stuff, he must have anticipated spending some serious money on this fantasy – but after about .25 seconds I was like “no, sorry, this is weird.” lol.
I think about that guy sometimes even though that was like a decade ago. I hope he’s happy, wherever he is and whatever that means for him.
Some of you took me much too seriously for a comment meant to illustrate a midlife crises for some men. Let it go and just treat it as humor then.
Although I have to say that Alexandra has a valid point there with her personal experience. This midlife crises is a very serious issue and some men actually go nutso. Luckily for me I only became interested in extreme sports, go figure :)
Seriously though- I did not mean to minimize menopause in any way. I apologize if it came across that way…
Lol Alexandra I have heard of men who have that “issue”, where they want someone to treat them badly while they give her money and gifts. I think it’s the weirdest thing and I wonder where it comes from.
I also wonder how he would make it to more than a couple stores. Seems like he’d be on the ground after the third or so kick lol.
Note the date the article was published. An April Fools joke?
“Note the date the article was published. An April Fools joke?”
Maybe. But stories like this have been well documented before.