Woman says she owes her life to her mother’s abortion
by Carder
I should note here that I am unequivocally, adamantly pro-choice. But I’ve never reacted with outrage at people who are anti-abortion. Unlike those who, say, oppose gay marriage, I don’t think anti-abortion advocates are acting from a place of closed-minded hate. I think that, in addition to ignorance on women’s rights, they are looking at abortion as a simple moral choice: for life or against it.
But my mother’s choice, and the choice of those like her, complicates this simple paradigm. But as complicated as it is, it has, in many ways, deepened my relationship and understanding of her.
Just how many people, like me, owe our lives to abortion?
~ Anonymous coming to terms with the news of her mother’s abortion prior to her birth, Huffington Post, February 20
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
It’s not complicated. Before the abortion there is a living human child in the womb. After abortion that human child is dead. There is no justification for that. None.
I don’t know what to tell Anonymous.
Suppose that a villain had murdered her father’s first wife. So Dad married another woman, who became Anonymous’s mother. To be sure, Anonymous would not have been born if it weren’t for those tragic circumstances.
Should Anonymous express gratitude for the choices of the villain who murdered the first wife?
Should Anonymous especially appreciate the woman who died so that she could exist?
Anonymous owes a debt of gratitude to her older sibling, the one who died for her. She should mourn for the brother or sister whom she could not meet.
Was so annoyed by reading this the other day that I wrote Huffpost and told them to give us real stories about abortion…Gosnell, survivors of abortion, women that have died, infertility after the procedure, show us images or something. Enough of this garbage.
Anonymous would do well to read Feminists for Life literature.
Good analogy Del. I don’t even know how the abortion brought her into existence. I have a friend who had a daughter while in college. She was unmarried but she gave birth and managed to complete her degree though it took her a year or two longer. She went on to marry and have 6 more kids!! Those children still exist even though their mother refused to kill their older sibling.
Who is to say that the author’s mother and father wouldn’t have still met, fallen in-love and conceived the author even if the older sibling hadn’t been aborted? Their conceptions were separated by 7 years. It feels like the author is reaching…reaching to justify the horrific actions of a mother she loves very much.
If someone said this about the miscarriage of their mother’s wanted child, would the world think it was so very profound?
“Gee, Mom, I’m so glad that baby died so you could have me later.”
Uhh…
So if the baby was wanted by the mother and died, you wouldn’t say this. However, if the baby wasn’t wanted by the mother and was killed on purpose, then it’s acceptable to say, “Hey, so glad that baby died”??
“Just how many people, like me, owe our lives to abortion?”
I have to say -that’s about the DUMBEST thing I’ve ever read !
So..you wouldn’t have been born, if your sibling hadn’t been killed ???
How can you possibly know that ?
You might have been the one that owes her DEATH to abortion –
if your mother so “chose”, Anonymous.
There’s also the possibility that, BECAUSE of your mother’s abortion, she would be unable to get pregnant again –
which means you never would have been CONCEIVED – much less born.
No, Anonymous…the only thing that came of your mother’s abortion was the death of your older sibling.
“I don’t even know how the abortion brought her into existence.”
Well, the thing is that every person who exists is the result of a particular sperm fertilizing a particular ovum. Given the way in which ova are generally released at a rate of once a month and the short lifetime of sperm, it is reasonable to think that anything that most things done related to reproduction affect who comes into existence. For instance, women don’t ovulate while pregnant, so a different set of ova and when they become available is changed by how many pregnancies a woman has. But anyways, the point is that her mother’s abortion only caused her existence in so the same way that every other reproduction effecting decision that either of her parents ever made did.
Exactly JDC, given millions of sperm, any action at any time would have meant that you would have never existed. That’s how zany this logic is, that you have to get this deep in the weeds to justify an injustice. Also why almost every movie with time travel is implausible.