I wanna have your babies
The current edition of World magazine spotlights England’s pop sensation, 26-year-old Natasha Bedingfield, singer of my friend Jackie’s anthem, Unwritten:
Currently on tour in the U.S. to promote her new album, Pocketful of Sunshine, Bedingfield is indisputably the United Kingdom’s biggest pop star. A veteran of worship music [Hillsong London], she could have easily landed a Christian record contract from those awed by her huge, bluesy voice. But she did not accept a ride to success in the Christian music industry….
Bedingfield’s preference for the mainstream hardly means that she’s trolling for worldly acceptance or is uncomfortable talking about her faith. She has made remaining independent as a woman and a believer the center of her public image…. Her big hits, Unwritten and These Words, extol sincerity and hopeful expectation….
Bedingfield’s albums brim with typical messages of uplift, hope, and love, often expressed in unorthodox ways. She caused a minor stir in the British entertainment press with her single “I Wanna Have Your Babies,” in which she jokingly sings about hiding her love of children from her boyfriends for fear they’ll run out on her. It’s a fun pop anthem with a pro-family message and tongue-in-cheek rhymes (“I wanna have your babies / Get serious like crazy / See ’em springing up like daisies”).
A hilarious video features Bedingfield acting out the lyrics, but the song did not play well with the critics. After a mocking, frame-by-frame dissection, London’s The Guardian sniffed, “I have to go have a baby now. Natasha Bedingfield told me to.” The online music zine Drowned in Sound called the video “the most bizarre, surreal, absolutely terrifying thing we have ever seen on mainstream music television.”
Bedingfield’s response: If you care too much what people say about you, then your head will swell when they praise you.
Great last line. Drowned in Sound added the music video was “unforgivable.” With so many rave reviews, I had to watch it, and of course I loved it. Funny! Liberal critics hated it because maternal instincts betray modern feminism. And Natasha’s right, what most women really want – marriage and a family – scares immature, egocentric men… and again, those feminists.
If you knew what was going on in my brain
Trust me it’d scare you
That I picked out the church, or the schools or the names
Enjoy…
I Wanna Have Your Babies Video
[Photo of Beding
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
“…in which she jokingly sings about hiding her love of children from her boyfriends for fear they’ll run out on her.”
Um that seems kind of stupid. I know she was joking but you shouldn’t joke around about that. If you want to have babies but whoever you’re sleeping with doesn’t then you really need to work it out before you even think about hoping into bed again. And be honest. If you don’t want children then don’t have one under the assumption you’ll change your mind, you should go into having a child because you want to have a child to love, nurture and cherish unconditionally.
A friend of a friend was planning on having a baby with his girlfriend. They obviously had a breakdown of communications because while he thought it just wasn’t happening she was having multiple abortions. Needless to say it didn’t end well for anyone.
And please, if someone doesn’t want to have kids don’t try to change their minds. There’s the possiblity they will end up being good parents, but there’s also the possiblity they knew what they were talking about and really didn’t want kids. Let them decide for themselves (I’m not talking about if someone’s already pregnant I’m talking about before anything happens).
She is joking that she doesn’t want to scare them off because her love for children is so great and she really can hardly wait to be a mom!
I am not sure she is actually sleeping around and hopping from bed to bed….
Jess, your liberal brainwashing is so sad. You automatically assume women sleep with boyfriends. You automatically assume a couple deciding to have children is unmarried.
You missed the point of the video.
Who the heck is Natasha Bedingfield? I am so out of touch with what the “kids” are listening to these days….
Well, that’s not true, if it’s being produced or marketed by Disney in any way, my daughter probably has it.
A friend of a friend was planning on having a baby with his girlfriend. They obviously had a breakdown of communications because while he thought it just wasn’t happening she was having multiple abortions. Needless to say it didn’t end well for anyone.
Posted by: Jess at March 7, 2008 10:20 AM
Did you friend of a friend’s girlfriend EVER hear of using a birthcontrol method to prevent a pregnancy? How disgusting. How sad. How sick.
Needless to say it didn’t end well for anyone.
Yes, especially for the babies whose lives were needless pawns in her sick world.
Jill,
I just wanted to point that you referred to her as “Bedington” at the end of your post. Interesting piece…
Eh, I really don’t have a problem with the video or her desire to be a mom. That is her decision, which is wonderful. The critics were overly abusive.
What I don’t agree with is Jill’s supposed “fact” that says most women really want a marriage and family the most. I don’t know very many women whose primary goals are marriage and family. And don’t say it’s because of liberal brainwashing. Maybe, just maybe, women REALLY want to be educated and REALLY want to have a successful career outside of their reproductive capacity. I know I enjoy my brain and my love of science too much to put it on hold to seek out marriage.
Every stay at home mom I know has a degree. They all knew they would one day have children and stay home to raise them and STILL pursued an education. I always thought I would teach while I raised children but I am a late bloomer. I love it too much to head back to teaching until they are older. I love my brain too. :)
Carla,
I agree. Every woman I know with the exception of one (hasn’t met the right guy) is married and almost all have children.
When I was in school, Every friend I knew wanted to eventually get married and have a family. come to think of it, nobody I knew didn’t.
I don’t fault those who don’t. Just don’t know any.
I never said that I’m not open to marriage and children, just that they are not at the top of my list. Jill said that those are the things that women want MOST, which is what I disagree with. I’m sure that almost all of my peers will probably marry and have kids, but they don’t view these things as the utmost goals. I would really rather use my degree and my knowledge to make the world better, as it is my highest goal. Marriage can be mixed in there, but babies definitely come last after all my other goals have been achieved. I’m first and foremost a human being with goals, and second a woman with biological capabilities. I’ll fulfill what’s most important to me first.
Making the world better is my highest goal as well. I use my knowledge and my degree everyday. cool.
“Jess, your liberal brainwashing is so sad. You automatically assume women sleep with boyfriends. You automatically assume a couple deciding to have children is unmarried.”
No I don’t. Maybe I worded it wrong, I guess I should have said These are the things people should be open and honest about before they decide to get married. I believe marriage is something permanent and whether or not to have children is a deal breaker. I couldn’t marry a man or even sleep with one who didn’t want children.
But I also think we both know that you don’t need to be married to get pregnant, and if you’re going to be having sex you should at least agree on what you plan to do if she gets pregnant. Get married and live together? Give the baby up for adoption? I think everyone here will agree with me on this.
“Making the world better is my highest goal as well. I use my knowledge and my degree everyday. cool.”
Wow Carla what a great goal. I know you’ll accomplishes it : )
P.S. Doesn’t anyone else get the feeling that Jill doesn’t like me?
I think she’s afraid of you, Jess, because you’re intellegent and well-spoken. : )
Oh thank you Anonymous : )
Yes, Jill is very afraid of you. You can tell how she runs this site, always deleting or editing dissenting views.
I hope she reply’s to my 11:54 post. John do you have any opinions on it?
Why the obsession with celebrities and their sex lives?
Seriously… its a little disturbing.
You get all upset about any celebrity gossip that doesn’t fit your agenda – labelling it “Hollyweird” and whining about the liberal influence of the mainstream media, but then you find a few pieces that fit your agenda, and post about how admirable it is.
Why do you care? Do you know any of these people? Do you think any of them care about you or your beliefs or what you think of theirs as long as they keep raking in the dollars?
(hint: nope)
Sometimes it’s nice to take a break and see what is going on in Hollyweird. Commenting on my abortion or miscarriages is not easy, I appreciate something not so heavy.
No I know its fun to read about and all, but it just seems silly to me to take it seriously, one way or the other… seeing as 99% of the time, these people are either being fake, being misquoted, or mispresented. And I’m not being one sided here, I find it equally annoying when celebrities on the liberal end of things, who have no college education and butt loads of money, try to tell me what I should think about an issue or who I should vote for, as though they have a CLUE what reality is like for most of us.
Matthew, 10:45a, thanks, fixed.
Jess, thank you for your further explanations. Your 11:19a post contained so much in it to discuss, I think exhibiting demonstration of liberal brainwashing even more, sad to say.
Only women are wired to carry on the human species. And it is only physically possible to do this during a certain time period. Women and men peak sexually at young ages, for a biological reason, to procreate. As a society, we have gotten sooooooooo far away from what our bodies are telling us. So many problems from betraying nature.
Jess, thank you for your further explanations. Your 11:19a post contained so much in it to discuss, I think exhibiting demonstration of liberal brainwashing even more, sad to say.
Posted by: Jill Stanek at March 7, 2008 2:34 PM
Yes, Jess, fundamentalist crackpot brainwashing would make your comments MUCH more acceptable. So, you know, get on it.
Jill, I didn’t say anything at 11:19, are you thinking of Lyssie? My post was at 11:54 and about was just about how people should agree on whether or not to have children, and how many children they would want to have, before they get married.
Bobby,
I don’t know if you’ve seen it or not, but I did respond in the archived thread.
Jill – how about the notion that plenty of women haven’t been brain washed in to thinking they either should or shouldn’t have children… but instead they… *GASP*…. THINK FOR THEMSELVES??!?!
What a concept?!
My mom is as liberal as they come and an ardent feminist. But she got married at 20 and had me at 22 and is perfectly happy with her decision.
I’m 25, with no plans of getting married OR having children until I finish grad school, at least another 2 or 3 years, and I’m perfectly happy with my decision, and so is my mom, even though she did the exact opposite.
So who brainwashed who? Oh wait! No one did! Because, though it may surprise you, life isn’t that simple.
I think this video received flak because the MSM who are the mouthpiece of the liberal agenda (feministas???) do not like the idea that some women (many women) still like to be moms and have raising a family as their main career. Many women have jobs, but that’s all they are to them – just jobs to help with finances etc.
There’s nothing wrong with a woman having a career but it’s pretty darn difficult to manage a family with that too.
When I re-entered the work force, I encountered alot of flak from career-oriented women who in no uncertain terms stated that I had lived a priviledged life of bonbons and soap operas while a stay-at-home mother.
My time at home as a homeschooling mother was considered pretty much worthless by employers (largely other women). I was hired by a good Catholic woman who was impressed at how I was able to take skills I used in my homeschool and transfer them into skills of value in the work environment.
Jess, you’re right. I should have addressed that to Lyssie.
Amanda, 3:13p, your plans are great but the latter is really out of your control.
Part of this discussion involves having sex. My premise is our society is encouraging young people to wait too long to sette down and marry.
It is difficult to practice abstinence during the 10-12 years your bodies are screaming to have sex for biological reasons.
So you don’t wait. Along the way you get STDs, you get pregnant, you abort, you take female steroids, you wait until you are past your child-bearing prime. And then you don’t wonder why you’re infertile. You just undergo more dangerous injections of steroids and procedures.
And along the way you get your heart needlessly broken, sometimes more than once or twice because you needlessly give away the most intimate part of yourself and are exploited. And then you don’t wonder why your head is messed up. You take pills and/or dump the damage on the guy you do end up with.
Why do liberals assume education and raising a family are mutually exclusive?
And why are women returning to the pre-modern feminist model of staying home to raise families?
Liberal feminism placed such a burden on women.
I think this video received flak because the MSM who are the mouthpiece of the liberal agenda (feministas???) do not like the idea that some women (many women) still like to be moms and have raising a family as their main career. Many women have jobs, but that’s all they are to them – just jobs to help with finances etc.
Amen, Patricia.
I too was given a lot of raised eyebrows from my fellow teachers. How could I give up my teaching career to be “just a stay at home mom?”
I would have to say, there is NOTHING in my life that will ever compare to having and raising children. Nothing I ever do will equal the importance of being a SAHM. Except maybe being an awesome Grandma!! :)
Jess, 2:55p, said: “My post was at 11:54 and about was just about how people should agree on whether or not to have children, and how many children they would want to have, before they get married.”
Jess, I agree and disagree. Yes, children should be discussed, and generally speaking we should weed out marriage candidates not wanting children.
There are those unable to have children, and that is different. The question to cover premaritally should be, “What if we can’t?”
I believe couples should eagerly desire as many children as the Lord gives them, if they are able to conceive. I think a primary quality we should look for in a mate is how good a parent we think s/he will be.
“I believe couples should eagerly desire as many children as the Lord gives them, if they are able to conceive.”
I disagree, of course. I do agree that a primary quality we should look for in a mate (if we are considering children) is how good a parent they will be. That’s huge.
I believe couples should eagerly desire as many children as the Lord gives them, if they are able to conceive. I think a primary quality we should look for in a mate is how good a parent we think s/he will be.
Posted by: Jill Stanek at March 7, 2008 3:43 PM
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What if your intended has a history of leaving children at home to suffer while they go out and party? Should anyone marry a person like that? Why would your God even give children to people that lacking in compassion and responsibility?
FF, I confessed a mistake. I made myself vulnerable, despite knowing the likes of you would stomp on that vulerabiity. On this blog we cast pearls before both swine and sweet.
To Be Happy In Marriage, Baby Carriage Not Required
In a study that shows how separately marriage and children are viewed, Americans expressed great passion for their sons and daughters but clearly did not see them as the glue of their adult relationships.
On a list of nine contributors to success in marriage, children were trumped by faithfulness, a happy sexual relationship, household chore-sharing, economic factors such as adequate income and good housing, common religious beliefs, and shared tastes and interests, the nonprofit Pew Research Center found.
“Marriage today, like the rest of our lives, is about personal satisfaction,” said Andrew J. Cherlin, a sociology and public policy professor at Johns Hopkins University, noting that there are mixed consequences for the changing views of marriage.
“It allows us to grow and change throughout our lives, and most Americans value that,” Cherlin said. “On the other hand, our relationships are much more fragile, because we think we should leave them if they become unsatisfying.”
The 88-page report, bringing together demographic trends and survey results from interviews of 2,020 adults this year, underscores a widening gap between parenthood and marriage — at a time when living together out of wedlock has grown increasingly common and nearly one in four births is to an unmarried woman.
As Sarah Vassiliou, 42, of the District described it: “When I think of marriage, I don’t think of children at all. I have them. But with marriage, I think of a husband and a wife, and I don’t think it’s the children that make it work.”
Her views are reflected in several statistics. Asked about the purpose of marriage, for example, Americans said by a nearly 3-to-1 ratio that it is the “mutual happiness and fulfillment” of adults rather than the “bearing and raising of children.”
When given the list of nine features to consider as part of a successful marriage, 41 percent of Americans said children were “very important,” compared with 65 percent in 1990, a 24 percentage-point drop the report calls “perhaps the single most striking finding from the survey.” The other major difference was in chore-sharing, which went up in importance by 15 percentage points to 62 percent.
This might be explained by a greater emphasis on soul mate relationships in marriage and an increasing recognition of the stress involved in raising children, said Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, co-director of the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University. There is also a more widespread belief that having children is a choice, she said.
“Marriage and kids were kind of hyphenated before,” she said, “and now the hyphens have been removed.”
“Part of this discussion involves having sex. My premise is our society is encouraging young people to wait too long to sette down and marry.
It is difficult to practice abstinence during the 10-12 years your bodies are screaming to have sex for biological reasons.
So you don’t wait. Along the way you get STDs, you get pregnant, you abort, you take female steroids, you wait until you are past your child-bearing prime. And then you don’t wonder why you’re infertile. You just undergo more dangerous injections of steroids and procedures.
And along the way you get your heart needlessly broken, sometimes more than once or twice because you needlessly give away the most intimate part of yourself and are exploited. And then you don’t wonder why your head is messed up. You take pills and/or dump the damage on the guy you do end up with.”
I completely agree with this especially the first two paragraphs – not only is the biological drive strong but sexually men and women peak in their teens and twenties respectively.
My eldest girl wants to be a doctor but I’ve also told her that if she meets a nice man during her education, get married and have children!
I’ve never regretted the 4 kids I have. If I had stopped at 2 children, I would never have learned to play the violin! My third daughter is a virtuoso pianist and violinist!!
That’s why Hal, we should be open to the children God sends us. We just don’t know what beauty that new life may contain.
Laura said: “No child has ever “suffered” in my care.”
Yeah, they don’t live long enough.
I think you’ll all find this interesting. Comcast has declared that waiting for marriage is “healthy”, and that famous people who say that they’re doing so are “healthy role models”. Screen capture from Comcast.net:
How dare Comcast make judgements about personal behavior?!
Sorry, I finally did it!
I just ran a virus scan on my computer and it wiped out the name on the post! It was MMEEE!
Ah, FF, you wench, you twister of words. I am so close to banning you, you ignorant PIA.
What’s a PIA?
I’ve worked in bars. I’m pretty familiar with colorful language, but I can’t for the life of me figure out what that might stand for.
“That’s why Hal, we should be open to the children God sends us. We just don’t know what beauty that new life may contain.”
Well, you also don’t know what beautiful things in life you are not experiencing if you have children. Everything has a price. For me, the balance came out right at two wonderful children. For you, it was four. Being open to all of the children god sent me would have been too many children. (especially if we followed the advice of some and refrained from birth control.)
@Hiero: PIA = “Pain In the A$$.”
FF/wench/PIA/twister of words contributes absolutely NOTHING to this board.
What if your intended has a history of leaving children at home to suffer while they go out and party? Should anyone marry a person like that? Why would your God even give children to people that lacking in compassion and responsibility?
Because God respects our free will, that’s why he gives us children. Because children are the only thing that sometimes redeem us. Some people do straighten up and fly right.
Why am I even responding to you?
OOOOoohhhh, ok. Thanks Ari!
Ari-chan, right, a nursing term… :)
(Seriously, we use this term in charting to describe certain patients and/or families.)
I deleted FF’s most ire-raising post, fyi, if you’re wondering what set me off.
@Jill: For real? Wow, that’s great. I’ll have to let my cousin know that (she’s planning on nursing school), she’ll get a kick out of that.
Though, to be honest, I had to look it up…who would have thought there are online dictionaries of acronyms?
EEEEKKKS! Now we have women objectifying men as sperm donors. If women want to go baby daddy shopping, hey whatever! There are men out there that want someone to give them kids. Sounds like win win to me.
Jill, I want you to tell me EXACTLY how I’m brain washed by “liberal” thought. But first, I’ll give you a little background from my childhood.
When I was a little girl, I was given barbies, baby dolls, and science sets. I never played with the first two. I spent my early childhood working with a microscope, a telescope, and started reading at a 5th-grade level in kindergarten. I ignored my dollhouse, my easy bake oven, and never wanted to wear dresses because it was easier to run and play in pants. And this was all as a choice as a child.
To this day, my love of learning, science, discovery, and research far outstrips my desire to “play house”. My hormones are not telling me to hurry up and have a kid, even though I’m 20. I am so unbelievably happy where I am, studying and learning and getting my career set, that I can’t even believe you’d call me “brainwashed” for not wanting to mess with a good thing and throw a marriage and kids into the mix. It’s not time, and I don’t foresee it being time in the near future. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Well Lyssie,
It appears I’m the exact opposite of you. I had lots of dolls including a Barbie and my girls have had lot’s of Barbies but only the ones with gowns and nice clothes – not the slutty ones.
I wore lots of dresses and my hair in pigtails!!
But I also liked to hike, fish and when I grew up I became a geologist. In the early 80’s that was really considered quite a male dominated occupation.
As interesting as my career was, it never was able to compare with being a mom! I have loved every minute of being a mom (well mostly every minute if you don’t count the pukey ones!!).
I don’t disparage women who want an education – however, many women would say that I’ve wasted my education but there aren’t too many moms who can help their kids with their high school math or science!
My adventures in geology could fill a book and my kids love hearing the stories over and over again!!
I now work as a librarian. But mainly, I’m my kids mom!!
“I believe couples should eagerly desire as many children as the Lord gives them, if they are able to conceive. I think a primary quality we should look for in a mate is how good a parent we think s/he will be.”
Well, I think there will always be some couples that would rather not have children. Maybe they want to dedicate their lives to helping others? Traveling and doing missionary work, running a homeless shelter. And some people are infertile. If they want children it will be a wonderful oppertunity to adopt a child or foster child.
Wait… think of it this way. There is the occasional family that will have 17 children. So it should even out if like three couples decided not to have kids? I don’t know weird thought not too sensical.
Jill I have a serious question, (well all my questions are honest I’m not just wasting time), how do you feel about surrogate mothers? I always thought it would be a beautiful thing to share with an infertile family member or close friend.
Jess wrote: “There is the occasional family that will have 17 children.”
Actually, it seems in my part of the world (Canada) that people are either have none or one child or else alot of children as in 8, 9 or 10 children.
I think the reasoning behind this is that it really doesn’t make sense to have just 3 or 4. It doesn’t really cost all that much more to have another 3 or 4!
I personally do not think it’s normal for a married couple to not want children. Marriage is about the gift of self to one another and a love so strong that it manifests itself in a new life created through the love of the couple.
I think a couple considering not having children should seriously examine their motives for such a decision. Of course couple married in the Catholic Church must be open to having children since this is one of the main purposes of marriage.
Well I just thought this was a cute song! Thanks Jill!
Some of you seem to take it waaaay too seriously.
I also like the Bryan Addams song “To Really Love a Woman” The line that gets me every time is:
And when you see your unborn children in her eyes, you know you really love a woman.
Well Lyssie,
It appears I’m the exact opposite of you. I had lots of dolls including a Barbie and my girls have had lot’s of Barbies but only the ones with gowns and nice clothes – not the slutty ones.
I wore lots of dresses and my hair in pigtails!!
But I also liked to hike, fish and when I grew up I became a geologist. In the early 80’s that was really considered quite a male dominated occupation.
As interesting as my career was, it never was able to compare with being a mom! I have loved every minute of being a mom (well mostly every minute if you don’t count the pukey ones!!).
I don’t disparage women who want an education – however, many women would say that I’ve wasted my education but there aren’t too many moms who can help their kids with their high school math or science!
My adventures in geology could fill a book and my kids love hearing the stories over and over again!!
I now work as a librarian. But mainly, I’m my kids mom!!
Posted by: Patricia at March 7, 2008 7:49 PM
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Education is never wasted. Being an educated mother is a huge plus for your children. It also leaves you in a better position if something should happen to your husband.
Aren’t you lucky that you had the choice to walk away from a career? Education stays with you. You can’t walk away from that. Never having the opportunity for either is a shame.
Aren’t you the Canadian?
Well I just thought this was a cute song! Thanks Jill!
Some of you seem to take it waaaay too seriously.
I also like the Bryan Addams song “To Really Love a Woman” The line that gets me every time is:
And when you see your unborn children in her eyes, you know you really love a woman.
Posted by: Debbie at March 7, 2008 11:19 PM
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EEEEUUUU! You are ripe pickings for every guy that ever invented or borrowed a pick up line. Ever see the move that song was written for? Don Juan de Marco?
To this day, my love of learning, science, discovery, and research far outstrips my desire to “play house”.
Lol I remember “playing house.” Although I never really got crapped or thrown up on during that game. I think I should ask for my money back.
(This is just my own sarcastic way of saying being a mother is nothing like “playing house.”)
Patricia,
“I personally do not think it’s normal for a married couple to not want children. Marriage is about the gift of self to one another and a love so strong that it manifests itself in a new life created through the love of the couple.”
Wanting to have children is no more right than not wanting to have children is wrong.
Jess, 7:55p, said “Jill I have a serious question, (well all my questions are honest I’m not just wasting time), how do you feel about surrogate mothers? I always thought it would be a beautiful thing to share with an infertile family member or close friend.”
Jess, I think surrogacy is unnatural and problematic. I know it is often well-intentioned. That doesn’t make it right. It is ripe to exploit women and children, and indeed it has and is.
To this day, my love of learning, science, discovery, and research far outstrips my desire to “play house”. My hormones are not telling me to hurry up and have a kid, even though I’m 20. I am so unbelievably happy where I am, studying and learning and getting my career set, that I can’t even believe you’d call me “brainwashed” for not wanting to mess with a good thing and throw a marriage and kids into the mix. It’s not time, and I don’t foresee it being time in the near future. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Very well said, Lyssie. Indeed.
“Patricia: lots of Barbies but only the ones with gowns and nice clothes – not the slutty ones.”
“Jess, I think surrogacy is unnatural and problematic. I know it is often well-intentioned. That doesn’t make it right. It is ripe to exploit women and children, and indeed it has and is.”
I don’t know Jill, I’m thinking along the lines of a story I heard where a mother carried her daughter and son in laws baby.
Lyssie,
When I was a little girl, I was given barbies, baby dolls, and science sets. I never played with the first two. I spent my early childhood working with a microscope, a telescope, and started reading at a 5th-grade level in kindergarten. I ignored my dollhouse, my easy bake oven, and never wanted to wear dresses because it was easier to run and play in pants. And this was all as a choice as a child.
To this day, my love of learning, science, discovery, and research far outstrips my desire to “play house”. My hormones are not telling me to hurry up and have a kid, even though I’m 20. I am so unbelievably happy where I am, studying and learning and getting my career set, that I can’t even believe you’d call me “brainwashed” for not wanting to mess with a good thing and throw a marriage and kids into the mix. It’s not time, and I don’t foresee it being time in the near future. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Posted by: Lyssie at March 7, 2008 7:06 PM
I know what you mean. I was the same way. I didn’t like the girly stuff. I also was never around little children or babies and didn’t get to know them till much later in life. Real babies, toddlers and kids are nothing like playing with dolls or playing house or dress up etc. I have had great fun doing science experiments and explaining physics and so on with my children. We like to do puzzles and play war games etc. Being a mom and interacting with real kids is so rewarding and exciting. In a way sometimes I get to relive the excitement I felt when I learned how to figure things out or when I explain how historical events unfold and you see the wheels turning in their little heads. It is fun. You also get to see the human experience in a new way as they develop in their abilities to interact with others and their world. Human development is fascinating as well.
“Patricia: lots of Barbies but only the ones with gowns and nice clothes – not the slutty ones.”
Posted by: Doug at March 8, 2008 10:34 AM
I remember the Saturday Night live spoof
“Gangst B”tch Barbie” comes with a restraining order against her boyfriend!
“Gangst B”tch Barbie” comes with a restraining order against her boyfriend!
Posted by: hippie at March 8, 2008 1:26 PM
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I love this:
http://www.chillibomb.com/barbie/index.htm
“Liberal feminism placed such a burden on women.”
Agreed 1,000,000%.
S.
Ah, FF, you wench, you twister of words. I am so close to banning you, you ignorant PIA.
Posted by: Jill Stanek at March 7, 2008 5:39 PM****************** Oh YA! Go Jill! applause!
Jill, I’ve never seen you angry before.
In England many consider it an environmental crime to have any children.
In England many consider it an environmental crime to have any children.
Posted by: zeke13:19 at March 10, 2008 1:35 AM
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Many in Bentonville, Arkansas believe that Sam Walton was a profit.
Get it? Profit! @@
Da Zekester: In England many consider it an environmental crime to have any children.
Heh – in the US some think that Most girls are emotionally unstable to begin with
Abortionists in England rape and molest their patients too.
“Liberal feminism placed such a burden on women.”
Perhaps, since there is no free lunch, no free ride, etc. Of course, it took off several greater burdens as well.