Open letter to J. J. Redick, man to man
by Kevin Burke, LSW (reposted with permission from Men Regret Lost Fatherhood)
My plea to Mr. Redick as a fellow sinner and brother in the Lord:
If the legal documents are accurate and since the event is now public, admit you participated in the death of this unborn child with a degree of coercion given the circumstances. Forget the public denials – embrace the painful but liberating grace of humility!
The mother experienced symptoms of post abortion trauma after the procedure. Publicly apologize to Lopez, pray she find healing of her loss and embrace the forgiveness and mercy of the Lord.
I encourage you to attend a healing program because whether you know it or not, your participation in this abortion has also hurt you deeply, emotionally and spiritually as a man. Don’t be afraid and have hope. You can recover from this injury to your manhood and fatherhood and develop a spiritual relationship with this child lost to abortion. Even if you are not the father, you can spiritually adopt this child and embrace the one that you abandoned to death.
As Jesus said, “Behold, I make all things New!” (Revelation 21:1)
With healing you can become the best man and father you can be – with God’s help. Use this as an opportunity to reject the abortion culture of death, and call other men to healing.
The media’s agenda is often to sensationalize and humiliate celebrities with the emphasis on scandal and gossip. Take the high road Mr. Redick, and bring healing and resurrection out of this very painful situation.
Your brother in Christ,
Kevin
Kevin Burke is a licensed social worker, Co-Founder of Rachel’s Vineyard Ministries and a Pastoral Associate of Priests For Life. He is a graduate of The Bryn Mawr Graduate School of Social Work. Kevin’s presentations address the effects of abortion on men, couples and families and effective post abortion ministry for Clergy and Counselors.
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
Forgive me for not quite believing that Mr. Redick us a fellow believer in Christ. If he is, he is a very immature one. If God is the Creator of life (which He is) then it would stand to reason that killing what`s not his creation would make him realize that he did, indeed murder another human being. He may very well b a Christ Follower. King David diid have an affair w /Bathsheba, got her pregnant, then killed her husband. And he was called a man after God`s own heart. But it sounds to me he`s too arrogant to admit his mistakes before God & man!
What a presumptuous fellow Kevin Burke is.
“I encourage you to attend a healing program because whether you know it or not, your participation in this abortion has also hurt you deeply, emotionally and spiritually as a man” – I saw you smoke a cigarette once so, whether you know it or not, you’ve got lung cancer.
“develop a spiritual relationship with this child lost to abortion…..you can spiritually adopt this child and embrace the one that you abandoned to death.” – foisting one’s own beliefs on another much?
Somehow I don’t think that Redick will be paying a whole lot of attention to one Mr. Burke.
That contract thing they signed is for all intents and purposes, a contract for prostitution.
I mean he is agreeing to pay her $25k to have consensual sex and not be further obligated.That is prostitution.You would think the court would sort of notice that, right?
Contracts for illegal things are not enforceable. Prostitution is not legal, nor is coercing the woman to abort.
The contract specifies two illegal activities, and the idiots signed it, effectively confessing to both crimes.
So, like is the judge gonna, like, you know, notice that?
Or are we such a selective enforcement culture that a court can’t even see a crime right under its nose?
Unbefreakingleiveable
You’re right hippie. It’s basically an illegal contract.
Rudick is pretty much a waste of space. Unforunately sport features so strongly for some folk they won’t give a toss what he’s been up to and he’ll still have an overpaid and over-rated career.
Words of truth from Kevin Burke. Redick would be well advised to heed them.
What a beautiful, heartfelt letter!
Thank you Kevin Burke and AMEN!!
If it weren’t for Rachel’s Vineyard I don’t know where I would be.
PS
Women that do not receive healing for their abortions become bitter and angry and bring in jars of urine and feces and used feminine products to legislative sessions. THEY NEED HEALING.
Just as men involved in abortion need healing.
We do not kill our own children without consequence.
For the record, I don’t think sports figures are overrated or over paid. I mean, why should everyone else in the sports industry profit from their talent, but they should not? Should the owners make more? Should the television networks make more? I mean, to whom should the $$ go? I mean, without players, there is nothing to see. Sports fans could turn their attention to their local high school or college teams. Notice that college players are the ones getting the worst deal. Their talent brings in billions and all they get is a scholarship which many cannot later monetize.
“Notice that college players are the ones getting the worst deal. Their talent brings in billions and all they get is a scholarship which many cannot later monetize.”
Yeah, I really think someone needs to take care of those college athletes and work with them on using their scholarships as an academic opportunity. No matter how much talent they have, turning that athletic talent into a pro career is exceedingly unlikely, and a lot of them end up with a worthless easy degree and end up just completely screwed after college. While people make bank off of them in the bigger schools. It’s pretty exploitative.
” Rudick is pretty much a waste of space. Unforunately sport features so strongly for some folk they won’t give a toss what he’s been up to and he’ll still have an overpaid and over-rated career. ”
People aren’t “wastes of space”, even dudes who made bad decisions when they were 23, probably under the “guidance” of some unethical lawyers and bosses who didn’t want his image tarnished.
People aren’t “wastes of space”…
Amen.
Jack and hippie, if you’re interested in the care and treatment of college athletes, this moderately recent article from the Atlantic is really a great read: http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/10/the-shame-of-college-sports/308643/ It’s about whether college athletes should be paid. That is a knee-jerk “NO” for most people, myself included, but this article really, really opened my eyes to a lot of things I didn’t know. Like the fact that college athletes who get injured often face insurance problems because they can’t get worker’s comp; and college athletes’ names and likenesses earn money for video games etc long after their careers are over and they’re stuck in middling jobs, never seeing a penny of the money that those games earn; among many, many other injustices that go much deeper.
I don’t know that paying college athletes is the answer but I do know that I couldn’t name a single college team except the Fighting Irish and the Syracuse Orange (…weird) and yet this is probably the longest magazine article I’ve ever willingly and eagerly read. Initially I saw its subject matter and length and skipped it over until I was really bored one night, but once I started reading it I couldn’t stop. I consider it somewhat groundbreaking, honestly.
I mean, really, I am so bad at caring about sports that I only root for two teams: the Cincinnati Bengals (despite being born and raised in NYC – I dated a Kentucky boy for 6 years and declared a loyalty to the Bengals about 3 years in, and once I’m on your side, I’m on your side for life), and “whatever team is losing.” I literally root for whoever is losing because I just feel so bad for them. Then if they start winning I have a real emotional crisis about who to root for – the previously-winning team or the now-winning team. The good news is the Bengals almost always lose so I never have any emotional conflicts about rooting for them. But anyway my point is, THAT is how little I know/care about sports, and yet I still remember being really fascinated and informed by this article when I read it two years ago.
“Women that do not receive healing for their abortions become bitter and angry and bring in jars of urine and feces and used feminine products to legislative sessions. THEY NEED HEALING.” – or so you would like to believe. Plus, I’ll bet at least 50% of them haven’t had abortions.
yeah
You pretend to know all about Post Abortion Trauma. And argue with someone who has struggled with it and helps women heal from it.
::eyeroll::
I shall leave the fool to his folly.
It is amazing that people who are pro abortion on this anti abortion site spewing their hatred. Keep your hatefulness off this site. Not only do we have to live in a society where the slaughtering of babies is LEGAL, now you nitwits have to come here where we share your ideas and still spew hate. Your people disgust me with your hatred of humanity.
Don’t feed the troll etc.
and you pretend that every woman who has had an abortion is traumatized by it, even if they don’t know it, never feel it and never experience it. And that would be the vast majority.
Dear JDC,
I have never claimed nor pretended that every woman is traumatized by it. They are all AFFECTED by it. Women cannot pay someone to kill their own child and be unaffected.
I don’t need to pretend anything.
Vast Majority. Oh right. Of course. Of course.
There I didn’t feed the troll!! ha
“There I didn’t feed the troll!! ha”
Well done, Carla. You’ve made me and Paladin very proud. :)
Dear JDC,
Yes, “They are all AFFECTED by it.” – they are happy.
Happiness that is short-lived Reality. And then emptiness kicks in. You must not speak with these women a year or so after that horrible self-mutilating episode. My unsolicited advise: get to know these women post-abortion. I assure you that your definition of affected will have a very different meaning than the one you suggest above.
“Happiness that is short-lived Reality. And then emptiness kicks in.” – quite the contrary. My observation and information is that 98.7% feel initial relief, followed by happiness and the feeling of freedom. Life continues as intended and plans followed. Memory of a minor procedure fades as the important things in life are experienced.
This story is truly heartbreaking. I sure do hope Vanessa takes legal action against JJ for slander and defamation. He is having a fundraiser in Roanoke, NC this weekend I sure hope no one shows up!