Columnist: Women are not “slaves to their libidos”
by Kelli
Rampell argues that if only poor people in America could get free birth control and more comprehensive sex education, have “easy access” to abortions in unregulated clinics, and receive more government-sponsored childcare by expanding the welfare state, then unwanted pregnancies would be a thing of the past and Americans would live happily ever after.
Oh, the joy of a liberal utopia.
Rampell doesn’t pause to consider other factors that have seriously contributed to the disparity between the rich and poor on out-of-wedlock births. Instead of looking at the issue in terms of personal choice regarding marriage and childbirth, as well as personal responsibility, and respecting all people as rational human beings capable of self-government, she concludes that a “trap” is being laid; someone must be doing something to these women or not enough for them. Neither is truly the case….
When it comes to finding solutions that will help low-income single mothers, we need to do more than just dish out contraceptives (which will be ineffective for those who are actually choosing to have babies out of wedlock), herd them into unregulated abortion clinics, give them “comprehensive” sex education that fails to factor in the spiritual and moral dimension of human beings, and then continue their dependence on government and the cycle of poverty by increasing welfare programs….
I can just hear the mockery now and the hysterical screams of “Don’t stigmatize my choice to have sex!” But no one is stigmatizing sex, let alone your choice to have it. What’s being stigmatized in our culture is marriage and the choice not to have sex….
[S]ome of us have a higher view of women — that they don’t have to be controlled by their base desires, by poverty, by fear, by dependency — all of which drive us to more constricted and unhappy lives.
We can do better. We have done better. And we can be better again.
~ D.C. McAllister (pictured), responding to Catherine Rampell’s assertion that “sex is for rich people” and that “a trap” is laid for poor people who want to have sex, The Federalist, October 21
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
“Don’t stigmatize my choice to have sex!” That made me hysterical. Not sure if I am laughing or crying.
Not much of a choice if it is not fully informed. Do you know the ‘other’s’ full name? Met their family and know lots about them? Or are you going to be involved with a family of junkies, drunks, child molesters, thieves, etc.? Never a dull moment, right? Maybe the ‘other’ is the 1 in 3 that has a STD. Or, what sounds like the lyrics to a country song, one of you was drunk and the other was lonely.
Not a choice. More like lack of knowledge, lack of understanding, lack of wisdom. Those are all Gifts of the Holy Spirit. The Fruits of those Gifts are charity, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, generosity, gentleness, faithfulness, modesty, self-control, chastity.
Sounds like even if one has a diploma of some kind, one needs a better education and I do not mean sex education. And, yes, I need to work on more of these Gifts and Fruits myself.
On this site in the last week there have been two articles where the argument was abortion needs to be legal because: 1) I could get naked and intimate with the wrong person and 2) I had no control over my body and my boyfriend pressured me in to sex.
Ms Rampell doesn’t address that in essence, these are the base reasons most people expect abortion on demand.
“Ms Rampell doesn’t address that in essence, these are the base reasons most people expect abortion on demand” – could you provide a source for that?
Ms. McAllister’s article is very long but really great and full of information. I recommend that everyone read the entire thing.
It seems to me that under the guise of “feminism” has crept in the idea that men are only needed for sex and that marital security doesn’t matter. After all, who needs men when the government and taxpayers have stepped in and taken on the role of husband and protector, relegating men to the role of “sex toy/sperm donor”?
Congratulations, “feminism.” Instead of raising expectations for men, you’ve lowered women to the level of the worst of men.
Rampell’s column is just another smokescreen for politicians to use to hide the fact that the more dependent we become on birth control and abortion, the less responsible we become, and then the more dependent upon the government we become. Even a simpleton can see this equation.
The grease that makes this Big Brother Machine going is sex education, which enflames lusts and sets people’s minds to NOT thinking about success, but about sex. Encourage and teach drunk driving and you get more accidents and more traffic fatalities; encourage and teach irresponsible sex backed up by abortion and you have more out-of-wedlock babies who are aborted.
The marketing message used to get black women to start getting abortions was, “Rich white women get them, you should, too!” Same advertisement, different day. Only the caveat at the bottom of the ad in this day and time, with the present leadership style being ascendant, in fine print, is “And if you don’t have more, easier and cheaper access to birth control and abortion, it’s racism! It’s misogyny! It’s patriarchy!”
We’ve seen what happens when the government gives in to the “more, easier and cheaper” mob; you end up with less of everything except cheap abortions done in back-alley conditions, and cheaper themes in sex education.
The Ruling Class Barbarians are inside the gates, their Banned Parenthood Trojan Horse having been been accepted as a gift of peace from the enemy. Just lay down and don’t resist; it will go very, very badly for you if you do. You don’t want to go back to being part of that racist, misogynistic, partriarchal institution called marriage, do you? You must reject those voices! You must shut that whole thing down! The Working Class Struggle continues! You must unite: you have nothing to lose but your chains! Onward! Forward, comrades, to the Worker’s Paradise!
D.C. McAllister’s eyes — Smart. Cute. Alive. Ready to engage with the full-on confidence of a woman who knows her own dignity as a human person.
Such a contrast to those portraits of the dead-eyed pro-borts.
Del, if McAllister was pro-choice, there would be people here saying she has “dead eyes.” ;)
“Del, if McAllister was pro-choice, there would be people here saying she has “dead eyes.”
Perhaps. There is no doubt that context affects our perceptions.
Perception is everything.
“Imagination governs the world.”
~Napoleon Bonaparte~
Geez, y’all gettin’ positively reasonable….
“Instead of looking at the issue in terms of personal choice regarding marriage and childbirth, as well as personal responsibility, and respecting all people as rational human beings capable of self-government” – says the anti-choicer.
Ahhh, if only macallister has addressed what the central message of the article was about rather than merely quote mining it as a platform to promote her viewpoint.
And she’s got eyes like a Skynet terminator.
Doug,
We’ve always been reasonable, it’s just a matter of perception. LOL Been a long time–real life and job and family have kept me running. Good to see this blog is still chugging away.
And JDC makes an excellent point. Context can color our perceptions and views.
Hope everyone has a great Friday. The weather here is nice…at least for us…I could use it to be about 20 degrees cooler (in the 60’s rather than 80’s).
It would be interesting to put a group of abortionist’s eyes side by side with a group of active prolifer’s eyes and quiz people on which side has the more friendly and more welcoming eyes.
Children would probably be the most impartial.
I love this article. I sort of lost faith in this blog after the “Little Thing” article about a week ago, but I love this one. This explains perfectly why anti-lifers are so outraged to hear girls like me speak out against them instead of the “fundamentalist old white men” they’re used to- because we are the very embodiments of those they pretend to be fighting for. We are the young, the female, the non-White, the non-rich. I notice that this is a common theme perpetuated to many Pro-Life women- “But what if it happened to YOOOUUUU?!? You wouldn’t want to deny yourself your RIGHTS!”
We’re meant to be the disadvantage. We’re taught that we just can’t help but have sex, and we NEED contraception and abortion because, if not, what are we going to do?
Anti-life people are enraged to hear me speak, because in their minds, I’m the girl going into the PP clinic, not the protester standing outside.
We’re victims. We’re supposed to shut up and let these “women’s rights advocates’ help us.
We need to show them that that’s NOT the case.