Quote of the Day 9-21-09
Yes, I was an abortion addict and I do not wish for a scapegoat. Everything can be explained, justified, our last century tells us. Everything maybe, except for the burden of life interrupted that shall die with me.
~ Irene Vilar, as quoted by ABC News, September 21. Vilar’s upcoming book, Impossible Motherhood: Testimony of an abortion addict chronicles her dark choices: 16 abortions in 15 years, much of it as a married woman. It will be released by Random House on October 6.
Sep.21, 2009 7:17 am |
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Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
Sixteen abortions? Good heavens, how does she wake up in the morning?
“Vilar is the mother of two beautiful children” the product description says. No, Vilar is the mother of 18 beautiful children, two are living.
I hope she has found true forgiveness. I don’t think I could stand to read this book, as the “heroic grandmother, suicidal mother, two heroin-addicted brothers” and “American exploitation and reproductive repression in Puerto Rico” sounds ominously like our society’s ever-present victimhood mentality. For post-abortive moms, I am not minimizing the circumstances in a woman’s life when confronted with a pregnancy, just wondering if the author takes responsibility for what she has done. To be very frank, I would never read the memoirs of a serial killer of 16—stories about the victims’ lives, yes, but not the perpatrator and his/her attempts at justifying the acts.
Back in the 80’s, National Right to Life published astounding case studies by a psychologist who sees surviving siblings of abortion. A 3 year old girl who wouldn’t sleep at night, only at daycare–turned out she’d overheard her mother had aborted her sibling and was terrified she’d do something wrong and be offed, too. An older girl (10, if I remember right) who was soiling herself whose parents FINALLY admitted to the Dr. they’d had “over a dozen” abortions and the girl had just been able to understand her mother somehow had ‘a dirty bottom’, too. The whole idea of mother as care-giver changing to mother as a threat was a very real and frequently seen situation. I’ve got the hard copy of articles, but don’t find them online, sorry. It certainly makes one think about these two survivors.
I am surprised any of the MSM networks would admit the existence of this book.
After are women supposed to free to do whatever they want without remorse or regret?
So basically she’s a serial killer?
I mean, isn’t that really the bottom line? She killed for a thrill. Very disturbing.
So she’s concerned her own testimony might be used to deny women the right to both kill their children while suffering and are okay with the consequences to do what they want with their own bodies, like kill themselves.
As I understand it, she’s been mentally impacted all these years, but still doesn’t know which way is right.
And despite the emotional complexity, the simple morality of abortion is clearly wrong.
Without illogically denying the humanity of those in the womb, please tell me how that’s different a psycho mother killing her children, then committing suicide.
If there was nothing wrong with abortion, then why was the choice “dark”?
Someone doesn’t know how to count – the cover has 3 batches of scores – but they don’t add up to 16.
Question, is there any logic reason that a miscarriage is called a “spontaneous abortion”?
Is it an attempt to make “elective abortion” seem more like a “natural” procedure”?
Just asking.
When my wife lost our first pregnancy they used the second term, not “miscarriage” as it was called when I was younger. And why did they have to tell us it was twins.
In contrast to this “addict” I sometime wonder what they would have been like if they lived. They’d be freshmen in college now. I don’t dwell on it much. We have two wonderful children, 12 and 14 years old.
Still, I believe it is normal and human to wonder what could have been.
That this woman could do what she did 16 times is as clear a sign as any that she is missing something that makes us human as surely as Ted Bundy was missing something.
Fishydude, I’m sorry for your loss. I believe that the term “spontaneous abortion” has always been used in medical circles. I think that “elective abortion” was the add on term.
I’m not positive about this. I’ve heard doctors use both miscarriage and spontaneous abortion, and have seen both written on medical forms. I think either is technically appropriate.
I think that most families would rather hear miscarriage than spontaneous abortion.
Is there any way to even VERIFY that she had 16 abortions? I just don’t see how that’s even possible, and yet still be able to carry TWO pregnancies to term like she did? It seems to me that after even HALF that many, that her reproductive organs would be so scarred and destroyed that it would make carrying a baby to term virtually impossible…but I’m not a doctor.
More human garbage, how grand. And this woman who is a product of a screwed-up family is screwed-up herself now has 2 beautiful daughters that she can screw up and continue this cycle of crap. Lovely.
oh yeah, and before everyone gets crazy condemning this broad, think about the entire set of circumstances for a moment:
She ran away (pretty much) at the age of 15 and started “a relationship” (read that as “being molested”) by a 50 year old professor of hers that viewed children as nothing more than an impediment to sex.
You think that maybe her molester/husband forced the first few abortions perhaps?
Ugh. What a disgusting story, all around.
One of the things I don’t get about the pro-deathers is the idea that they seem to think that airing complicated emotional outfalls before and especially after abortion somehow override the, as Chris pointed out, the simple morality that abortion is wrong.
Big deal if your story has a lot of peripheral details. Guess what? So does everybody elses. It doesn’t justify killing children.
Amazon product description: “…channeling a narrative that is at once dramatic and subtle.” It seems to me that many will read this book convincing themselves that you can somehow ‘go beyond’ the issue of the abortions to learn something ‘higher’ or ‘better’ or even ‘more important’. That is a monumental lie. If you don’t understand the basics about life – and one of them is the intrinsic right to life of everybody – of course long discussions will follow with no easy answers – because you’re confused about the fundamentals!
But that faux intellectualism that you can just ‘put aside’ the morality to discuss everything – except what matters, is one thing that really drives me nuts about the pro-death movement. No, I’m not interested in your ‘victim’ story if you don’t get it that abortion is wrong.
Posted by: fishydude at September 21, 2009 2:13 PM
When I miscarried my doctor also said it was a spontaneous abortion. It was the first time I had ever heard that term and it really bothered me.
no carder, how does she SLEEP at night?
I think this woman should lose custody of her two children since she is obviously mentally ill and she should be committed to a mental institution to receive the help she so desperately needs.
That a publisher would even consider this piece of crap is amazing. Then again it ranks right up there with Mein Kampf.
Angel and others, as an individual living with a mental illness and having been through psychiatric hospitalizations, there are a few misconceptions I’d like to clear up.
In 1975, the United States Supreme Court ruled that involuntary hospitalization and/or treatment violates an individual’s civil rights. The individual must be exhibiting behavior that is a danger to himself or others in order to be held, the hold must be for evaluation only (typically no longer than 72 hrs) and a court order must be received for more than very short term treatment or hospitalization.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Involuntary_commitment (add http://
With that said, while this woman likely has underlying mental health issues, I strongly disagree with involuntarily commiting her, however a referral for an evaluation and counseling at either a community mental health clinic or private psychologist practice would be appropriate.
Angel, I was also disturbed by your comment that this woman should have her children taken away because “she is obviously mentally ill” Was this intended as a general statement towards mental illness or just towards this woman’s case, I don’t know. But remember, there are differing severities of the various mental disorders and children are only removed in the most extreme cases and as a last resort.
But Rachael, she doesn’t seem to think there is anything wrong with her.
Doesn’t that kind of imply involuntary action from outside sources to get her help?