Quote of the Day 4-23-10
Michaels, 36, tells Women’s Health she is unwilling to become pregnant because of the way it would change her body.
“I’m going to adopt. I can’t handle doing that to my body,” she told the magazine.
~ As quoted from an April 22 Huffington Post article entitled, “I won’t ruin my body with pregnancy,” about Biggest Loser trainer Jillian Michaels.
Michaels also revealed she dates both men and women, stating, “I’ve been in love with both.”
Apr.23, 2010 7:55 am |
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Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
While I understand the fear of bodily change due to pregnancy, the thing she has not yet seen is that it is worth it.
I’ve always been hyper-sensitive about my appearance. That’s largely due to growing up in a society that says if you aren’t skinny and pretty, you’re nothing – you have absolutely nothing going for you. I really understand the fear.
I used to be a tight size 6/comfortable size 8. When I was married I weighed 135-140 pounds (at 5’9″). Three kids later, I am 170 and a bit stretch-marked and saggy. Do I like my appearance? No. I hate it. However, the big picture is that I got that way giving life to three children and there is nothing in the world to compare with that moment when you first see that squalling, messy, tiny little baby. In that moment, all the love handles and stretch marks (not to mention the pain of labor) is WORTH IT.
She’s never had this moment so all she can see is “my body will be ruined”. If she ever gets to that point then she will know. I just hope she doesn’t abort trying to avoid it. She needs the “it was all SO WORTH IT” moment to really understand.
Not only that… but pregnancy doesn’t HAVE to ruin your body. Someone with her resources could easily a. exercise during pregnancy, b. eat well (and hire a nutritionist if necessary) during and after pregnancy, and c. if all else fails, get a tummy tuck. She can afford a good doctor and the best of foods. Look at people like Angelina Jolie. She’s had several children and she still looks great.
Pregnancy doesn’t automatically sentence you to a life of stretch marks and obesity. Stretch marks have to do with genetics – if they run in your family, you’ll probably get them, and if not, you probably won’t. Gaining too much weight has to do with your personal choices.
I’m overweight but having my children was worth it. I wouldn’t give them back just to be skinny again. And I could have been more careful this last time around… perhaps then I wouldn’t have gained so much weight (I didn’t gain it until the third child).
Army_wife,
I agree with you that personal choices before, during, and after pregnancy can make all the difference in how it affects a woman’s body long term. If I only realized that years ago! Pregnancy teaches women to look beyond themselves which is a valuable thing and I, like you, wouldn’t go back to my childless days just to have my skinny self back. Exercising with one’s children can be lots of fun and set a great example for them as well! Time to do some crunches. :)
Oh Jillian,
How much selfishness can your shredded body hold??
Cause having babies is all about how YOU look, right? I regret buying your 30 Day Shred. :O
Army Wife,
I am amazed at what a woman’s body can do! Pregnancy and child birth is amazing!! I am proud of my stretch marks! I have four children to show for them! :)
If Ms. Michaels is “protecting” her body from pregnancy by using artificial contraception or having induced abortions, does she not realize the increased risk she has for breast cancer and what that can do to her body?
Any woman who makes a career out of their physical perfection has a lot more to lose than women who don’t. I understand why she wouldn’t be willing to go through pregnancy. Obsessive vanity has come into play. Some people worship their bodies and it can become a false god. And like all false gods, it will one day reveal it’s true nature: emptiness.
We live in a society that seems obsessed with outward appearance and we worship those who are outwardly beautiful. Even the women who hate their bodies can be just as vain and obsessive as those who pride themselves on their bodies. It’s a fine line.
They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.
Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones.
army_wife, why do you hate your body just because it isn’t a size 6 anymore? Your body is only a temporary vessel for your spirit, and if your spirit is beautiful, that’s all that truly matters! :)
Think about women in your own circle of close friends and family who happen to be overweight. Do you think they are unattractive and unlovable because of that? Do you hate their bodies? Of course you don’t. :) These are women you love and respect and care for deeply. It doesn’t matter what they look like physically; you love them just the way they are! Right? It’s who they are inside that makes them so lovely to us!
So, what makes you any different from all the imperfect women you know and love? It pains me to hear you say you “hate” your body. That’s so severe. :/
There’s a most wonderful thing about inner beauty and that is that it transforms a person’s outward appearance once you get to know them personally. And in the opposite way, a lack of inner beauty can severely marr even the most physically-appealing face. As the old saying goes, “Beauty is skin deep but ugliness goes straight to the bone.”
Anyone who has lost a loved one has felt that terrible pain of knowing they will never again see the face of the one they cherished as long as we remain on this earth. We love the faces of those precious to us; we hold their image dear in our hearts. And if we lose someone we love, we long to see their face just one more time. Consider this: In the same way Jesus Christ is the image of the invisible God, our faces, our “eyes,” are the windows to our souls. You may not have the body of a supermodel, but your eyes, your smile, your face is precious to those who love you!
How can you continue to hate the vessel that is so treasured by those who love you? :)
Isaiah 53:2 says of Jesus, “He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.” Yet how we adore him! God, our creator, could have been the most physically attractive man ever to have existed (he was, after all, perfect and without sin). But when it came to his physical body, he chose to be ordinary. I ask you this: Who is more lovely than Christ? :)
army_wife, you don’t have to be physically perfect to be beautiful – to love yourself. You are precious to God and precious to your children and family *just the way you are,* stretch marks and all. :)
God bless you, friend.
The article that I read said that she used to be overweight, hence the ‘paranoia’. I’ve struggled with my weight my whole life, but I certainly wouldn’t give up motherhood because of the ‘fear’ of weight gain. I only gained 25 pounds when I was pregnant anyway. She’s a fitness instructor, for cryin’ out loud! She could lose any weight she gains. She just has a really distorted body image.They call that ‘Body Dismorphic Disorder’.
Not that there’s anything wrong with adoption, certainly, but to give LIFE to another human being –
She’s missing out on a MIRACLE.
Jillian doesn’t realize that once she hits about 40, her body will change due to age and gravity anyway. After that time, it may be too late to have a baby.
No matter your size or age, always love the one you’re always with — yourself! We are beautiful!
It MAY be, Praxedes..but not necessarily. I was almost 42 when I had our little girl.
Her comment made me think of a Dr. House episode on a health guru that had an stapled stomach.
She choose to die stapled because of the problems with the bariatric surgery rather than admit to the world she “cheated” and that she really was a fat person.
How sad that a woman, who appears to be in stellar physical shape, would want to miss out on life’s most beautiful gifts – conceiving, bearing, and birthing a child and/or children. It reminds me of what the Catechism of the Catholic Church calls “the Cult of the Body”. It’s alive and well in this culture. Adoption is a beautiful gift also, but if she’s able to do both, why not?!
I had a baby and prior to pregnancy was 5’5″ 125lbs. Guess how long it took me to get back to what I weighed? All of 6 months. Really, it was no big deal.
I think this idea that pregnancy “ruins” your body is a load of garbage. Pregnancy does NOT ruin anyone’s body, bad eating habits do. Our bodies also get saggier with age, let’s not forget.
Pregnancy shouldn’t really be blamed anymore. I know plenty of people who have had kids and had no trouble looking great again. Sure you don’t lose weight overnight, but within about a year you should be back to where you were prior (if you didn’t gain an excessive amount of weight, are exercising, and are eating well).
Yeah, I’ve had two pregnancies and have maintained a weight of 120 lbs (was back to normal weight within a year of each pregnancy) and this was without doing any exercise. :P I probably should have exercised but I lost the extra weight anyway without it. No stretch marks either.
I was always afraid of pregnancy until I experienced it because of women saying, “once you have kids, you won’t be able to stay thin anymore” – but I guess everyone’s different. If you eat a healthy diet, it shouldn’t be a problem.
That being said, I have read that it’s harder to lose the baby weight after a c-section . . .
I knew I liked Bob better for a reason. ;)
Well, Angelina Jolie is so terribly out of shape and ugly after how many? Oh yeah, TWINS. And Demi Moore. oooo yuk on her forty plus year-old self too. Both so ravaged by pregnancy they shrank from public view and went broke. No wait . . .
puh-leeze.
Me thinks she protesteth too much. Pathetic excuses.
How horrifying that she is going to provide a child that’s already here with a home. Evil. Disgusting. Children don’t deserve homes!
Seriously. I’m not here to judge this woman. How is bashing and judging her going to help anyone? At least she’s going to adopt a child who is in need of a home.
Maybe Jillian can work out to Denise Austin!! :)
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Hi PCG!!
Who is horrified?
Shakes fist at God!