by Jacqueline Harvey
dopt.jpgAs a pro-life activist, I’ve heard my fair share of the mantra, “How many unwanted children are you going to adopt?” As a woman who desires to adopt and knows countless families created or supplemented by adoption, this is easy to retort: “As many as I can.
But at my most recent trip to the pound, I had a thought that has made me think of this a different way.
Walking through the cages of the animals doomed to death in 72 hours if no one claimed them, my heart shattered. I wished I could save them all, but was fettered by the reality that I am simply not equipped to care for dozens upon dozens of dogs.
Then, I became angry. There was nothing wrong with those dogs that condemned them, but their owners. Irresponsible owners who failed to spay/neuter, failed to feed their animals, failed to properly restrain them, just flat failed them. Even the aggressive dogs were only such because of abuse or neglect.
The bottom line was that I can’t force people to spay/neuter. I can’t force them to properly vaccinate or feed their dependent animals- but moreover, I can’t do this for them. As much as I would LOVE to save and adopt the innocent animals who face the consequences of their irresponsibility, I can not….


daisy.jpgLikewise, I can’t force people to practice sexual morality. I can’t force women to save sex only for individuals who will not abandon them when the line turns blue. I can’t force men to stick around and raise the children they create. I can’t force either gender to save sex for a time and circumstance where the natural consequences (children) are wanted. And as much as I would give anything to save and adopt the innocent children who face the consequences of this irresponsibility, I can not.
While 10 million couples do wait to adopt, over 3,000 children are killed each day by people who refuse to accept the obligation to simply birth them.To promote responsibility for the dependent, must one take other’s responsibility in order to not be a hypocrite? No. Even if I weren’t the mother of two rescued dogs, even if I hadn’t hand fed over a dozen birds, three kittens and one squirrel, I still have the right to express concern for animal welfare. I can still be indignant about the neglect and euthanasia of animals because humans fail to care for them. I can still oppose animal cruelty.
Even if I never adopt a child, I can still oppose the killing of them before their birth. I can still oppose people creating children only to dismember them and have them thrown in the trash. I do this not so much because I’m pro-personal responsibility, but because I’m pro-child. By that same token, I support animal welfare because I’m pro-animals. It’s about the innocent and dependent and our obligation to care for them.
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In conclusion, I oppose the idea that pro-choicers aren’t responsible for their own children and further oppose the idea that somehow pro-lifers are responsible for everyone’s children: “So I’m expected to adopt all of the children you abandon, yet I can’t expect you not to abandon your children?” And no — killing your children is not an acceptable alternative to abandonment.
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It breaks my heart when you remind me about kids in foster care due to abuse, neglect and abandonment that I simply can’t adopt: but the correct response is to stop abuse, neglect and abandonment rather than kill the potentially abused, neglected and abandoned. It also breaks my heart that animals are abused — but the responsibility lies with the abuser, not those that would rescue the animal if he/she could. Since I oppose irresponsible pet ownership, I’m not obligated to adopt every pet abandoned by an irresponsible owner. I only wish I could. Likewise, since I oppose killing unborn children, that doesn’t make me responsible for every child that is born and abused or abandoned. The only way to stop abuse is to punish abusers, not the victims.
Pro-choicers: When you use this argument, it sounds like you’re pro-child abuse. You’re essentially saying, “It’s dismemberment or abuse” when you should heartily oppose both. Do you somehow believe that supporting abortion exempts you from adoption yourself because if you had your way, these abused children wouldn’t even be alive? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section.

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