Quote of the Day 5-18-10
You can’t just be like, ‘Yeah, no big deal, we’re just not going to do anything.’ When you feel really strongly for someone, you want to do those things, but at the same time we do have the ability to control ourselves.
The media often portrays sex drive as a prowling predator lurking unbeknownst to lovers, ready to strike couples in the heat of the moment. A lustful glance is exchanged, and the next moment, the couple is lying side-by-side in bed, their hair disheveled and their panting heavy. Seriously?
People diet, they study extra hard for an exam, they wake up at 5 a.m. to jog – we can apply that to sexual areas as well…. It’s not easy, but we can control those urges.
… I’m gaining the chance to really get to know and love a person for their character, as opposed to what their body can do for me.
~23-year-old graduate student Katrina Murata, as quoted in “The Waiting Game,” New University, May 17
Jill Stanek is a nurse turned speaker, columnist and blogger, a national figure in the effort to protect both preborn and postborn innocent human life.
After the supremely stupid opening sentence, the quotations cited were more reassuring.
Why is it so hard to do two seconds’ worth of thinking on this subject? I don’t care if 90% of peers jump off the “abstinence bridge”, it makes no sense to follow them.
It seems to me those who believe in mating for life have a much higher regard for sex than those indulge in it whenever it crosses their mind.
When they eventually do marry, I, for one, do not envy the “ghosts in the bedroom” that will haunt them.
This sounds like one very mature 23-year-old. Good for her!
Oh, this is so absolutely true! I don’t think I would love my husband as much as I do and would have as harmonious a marriage as we do if we didn’t spend the whole dating and engagement getting to know each other spiritually and showing respect for each other’s bodies. THAT is a proof of love – respect and willpower, and patience. Not – prove me you love me by sleeping with me. What “proof” is that?
“This whole notion that by having sex before marriage you could make a better choice of a spouse — I think is absolutely erroneous. It seems to me that the sexual passion can obscure things rather than clarify things. You get used to the sexual relationship and it makes you ignore whether this person is selfish, or lazy, or egotistical — things that, another two years from now, might really bother you. Right now, because of the sexual relationship, you overlook these things.” (JANET SMITH, Contraception: Why Not?)