I thought before the baby was born, I’m going to have to kill myself….
When the baby died – the baby was never brought home from the hospital and the baby died – I knew that it was my second chance.
~Oprah Winfrey, speaking about her unplanned pregnancy at age 14, as quoted by the NY Daily News, January 18
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That may be one of the saddest things I’ve ever read.
This explains a lot about Oprah.
I read this was a miscarriage? Someone correct me if I’m wrong.
Second chance? Nice Oprah, not like anyone’s watching, not like all your book choices, give-aways, and gurus haven’t been working toward building your influence even more, not like you know how a statement like that is going to sound to young women. Second chance? Nice thing to say when you know how many babies don’t make it, how many babies are developing and healthy and their parents literally throw them away. It’s not like the high rate of abortion in the black community is in the news and everyone knows it. Naw, call your baby’s untimely death a second chance because that won’t influence any pregnant women at all.
Okay before we start the blame train here…I believe that pregnancy was out of sexual abuse. She was 14. I think she has every right to feel the way she feels about that baby. She says that she never felt a connection. Maybe so. She was raped repeatedly and got pregnant.
I think we should pray for her. I don’t think she has healed fully from this.
No, she didn’t say that pregnancy was the result of sexual abuse. However, she said earlier sexual abuse and no supervision/boundaries likely led her to become pregnant at 14.
Many years ago I wrote a book that did so poorly that it is now out of print. I did, however, have a chance to get on Oprah’s show. Contrary to her public image, she was not very friendly at all. I’ve never liked her and never watch her show.
No matter how a woman “feels” about a baby does not change that child’s inherent value, worth or humanity. I am sad for Oprah.
Phillymiss,
What did you write about? You were on the Oprah show? Do tell!!
Maybe she can explain her second chance viewpoint to her child when she reaches judgement.
It’s not that a miscarriage isn’t traumatic, it is. It’s not that sexual abuse isn’t traumatic, it is. It’s not about blame at all. It’s about how Oprah has been working hard for so many years to influence people, especially women. “Change your life TV” and “aha moments”? She is fully aware that when she refers to a child’s untimely death as a second chance for the mother, she is doing a disservice to women and children. I understand that she is still healing, but I also know that she is a population control enthusiast and a couple years ago attended a conference where about a dozen or so other rich people such as Ted Turner got together to discuss how to get rid of more people.
At age 14 Oprah was shamed by her father and told she would only be loved “conditionally”. She felt no connection to her own baby in her womb-that part of her probably died with those ugly deadly words from her father. Yet she respected him and distanced herself from her mother. It was not a new life but a break of some sort- a deception. She needs to accept the love of Jesus that she denied her child, herself, and her mother by confronting this self deception.
Don’t forget, she took over Discovery Health, which featured shows that highlighted the joys of beautiful new lives coming into the world. Now she has a network where she can preen all day long about how great she is.
I am particularly appalled by episodes of her “behind the scenes” show. In one episode, she went on about how much she liked surprising other people in ridiculous ways, particularly noting how much she enjoyed their shock and upheaval (like transporting them to the stage without their knowledge). Then in another episode, she was angry and upset with her staff for arranging occasional surprises from guests, snarling that surprises make her feel anxious. So basically, it’s okay for her to cause anxiety in other people, but not for anyone to do it to her. That’s a very pro-abortion mentality right there: dispose of the little people, the ones who can’t run away, but don’t you dare touch me!
Wow Clarice, just because she does not like to be surprised she now likes to dispose little people? Quite a stretch don’t you think?
Now I’m not sure how she feels about abortion. But I do think that if she is against it, she would have a show about it already. I don’t watch her show a lot so I don’t know for sure. But then again she supported BO during the election…
I too don’t like to be surprised but I do love to throw surprise parties and I love to see my love ones reactions when I do it….
Those are definitely sad words, but I think we have to realize where that little 14-year old girl was coming from. And deep down inside, Oprah is still that wounded and hurting 14-year old scared little girl. That’s why she is so drawn to the “empowering” teachings of the New Age movement. Those teachings seem to her to offer something she thinks she really needs. She, and countless others, need our prayers and our love. I was a New Ager for many years, so I know what it’s like.
My heart goes out to her and to all who have fallen into the trap of false hope that New Age teachings– and teachers– offer. May the Lord be with her and with them and open their hearts and minds to the Truth. May her unborn child, and all the other unborn children lost in miscarriages and otherwise, be held in His loving arms and in His Mercy forever and ever. Amen.
Oprah had said in an earlier interview that her baby boy was born prematurely, he was not a miscarriage. She also wouldn’t have said that about him never coming home from the hospital if he had been a ‘miscarriage’.
Amen, Disciple!
I’m sorry for Oprah.
Unfortunately, God is constantly reaching out to her and she seems to be constantly pushing Him away. I pray for her conversion.
I pray for Mz. Winfrey who is a lost soul with her own gospel ideology and still carries lots of baggage. She has done probably more to indoctrinate young women that marriage is not sacred nor desirable, that ”shacking up” is an acceptable “alternative lifestyle” and she has probably promoted the “Homosexual Agenda” more than any other so-called “celebrity I can think of.