Here’s a sadly fascinating, open diary sort of read on some truths about abortion, written by now-dueling pro-abortion women.
On July 17, journalist Helaine Olen wrote a story in the New York Times about the impact her nanny’s blog had on their working relationship. (Eventually the nanny’s blog got her fired.) Olen wrote:
The blog had brought odd similarities to the fore…. [W]e had enough in common – if I took her statements at face value – to make me uneasy. In my 20’s I, too, felt passionately about 19th-century English literature but had long since let it go, barely able to concentrate on The New York Times, let alone Henry James. I, too, had an abortion back then. And trouble with depression? Check. Self-righteousness and inflated self-regard? Affirmative.
Well, the nanny responded to the NY Times piece on her blog, writing:
… The place in the essay where she actually has the audacity to compare us has been a sore spot since I knew this essay was going to be published. In particular, I take issue with how she flippantly mentions my abortion. I did blog about my abortion, please read my entry here. I think if you compare the vulnerable and humble way I talk about that painful experience, you might find that Ms. Olen and I are very different. I for one would never reduce another woman’s abortion to a fragment defaming her in a self-serving essay. I did blog about the abortion, thereby in a sense publishing it; she had the legal right to mention it (I certainly checked). However, I pleaded with the NYTIMES in two separate emails that her use of my experience was insensitive and contradictory to the way in which I talked about it. They didnt care.
The pertinent section in the nanny’s original post on abortion is:
[T]o change the political discussion about abortion in this country, we need women who have had abortions to talk about it. One in three American women between the ages of 15-44 have had or will have an abortion. About 1/3 of the childbearing women of this country. What do they have to say? What would it mean for the people who have this experience to actually inform the public discourse about it? For all the fervor surrounding this issue, there is a marked silence of note from the women who have had this procedure, made this choice.
And I am one of them. Next Tuesday will be the four year anniversary of my abortion. And I too was incredibly reticent to discuss both getting pregnant and having abortion. I think during the first year, I maybe told 6 of my closest friends. In fact, there are still people who are incredibly important to me who I have not shared this information with. And why? Yes, I was ashamed of getting pregnant. Though, I had used birth control, had been as responsible as someone can be. But I felt stupid. Also, I was deeply saddened by the whole experience. I am one of those odd woman who has always known she wants to have a child. And to not want that pregnancy, to know that I was not ready to be the mother I want to be someday, was so sad. And then there is the very precarious emotional position of learning how to mourn your own choices. I did mourn. I did feel the loss of that baby even as I was choosing to end the pregnancy. How do you explain that to other people when you have trouble understanding it yourself?
These writings are so sad. Yet both these women apparently remain pro-abortion. To convert to pro-life would be to admit to themselves what they subconsciously admit in their diaries.
Hat tip: Cal.