If a Baby’s Heart is Beating, but There is No One There to Hear it, is the Baby Still Alive?
By Mary Kay Hastings
If you are reading this, chances are pretty good that your heart is beating. You don’t need a doctor to listen with a stethoscope to know that this is true.
If, however, you are the unborn baby of a poor, Hispanic woman, you might need a little help proving that you are, indeed, the proud owner of a beating heart.
Unfortunately, this particular woman could not afford to go to a “real” doctor’s office and was reduced to visiting a “Woman’s Clinic”. Specifically, the American Women’s Center located at 2744 N Western Ave. in Chicago. The doctor there informed her that while she was in fact pregnant, he could not find a heartbeat. This doctor did not use a fetal monitor. He did not perform an ultrasound. He used an ordinary stethoscope on a woman that was 18 days pregnant and determined that her baby was dead because he could not find it’s heartbeat.
She was told that she would need to have this “taken care of”. The clinic she was in would not be open the following day, but if she would go to 110 S. River Rd. in Des Plaines the doctor said, they would be happy to help her there. Apparently, these two clinics are owned and operated by the same entity. Both of these clinics primarily provide abortions.
She arrived that rainy Saturday, crying over the loss of her baby, devastated by the news that she wouldn’t be a mother. That is where our paths crossed. That is where the tears stopped, and hope began.
I’ll call her “Esperanza”( Esperanza means hope in Spanish).
Esperanza was 20 years old. She had already had one abortion. She told us that she often dreamed of walking in dark corridors, hearing her baby calling out for her, only to find a pool of blood and broken body parts (Her words, not mine).
She said that when she had that abortion, she didn’t care about anything and certainly ddin’t care about the child she was carrying. She never expected to be haunted by the nightmares that followed. She said that the worst part was the guilt. When I told her that she was not a bad, evil person, but a good person who had done a bad thing, she cried again. She could not believe my words. She believed she was not worthy of forgiveness and was convinced that this new baby had died as a punishment for her abortion. I told her, no, God does not work that way. God was spreading His arms wide even as we were speaking and calling, “Esperanza, come home“.
I asked her if she would let me accompany her down the street to the “Woman’s Center”. There, I told her, we could get a second, more credible opinion on her child’s status. I explained that no reputable doctor would send a woman to an abortion clinic simply because he could not find a heartbeat. If her child were truly deceased, then she would have either passed it naturally or been sent to an emergency room. Either way, without an ultrasound, we could not be sure if the baby was dead or not. Esperanza agreed to go with me to the clinic.
The Women’s Center on Golf Rd. is a not-for profit organization designed to help woman in a crisis pregnancy. They offer financial assistance, medical help, and counseling, among other services. On this day, they gave Esperanza a pregnancy test, (which was positive), a proof of pregnancy letter, and helped her apply for a medical card. They then sent us to Resurrection Hospital to get an ultrasound.
I had arrived at the clinic at 6:00 am that morning. I was there to counsel woman entering the abortion clinic. A group of us go there every Saturday because we believe that most woman are not making a “choice”, but rather, they are reacting to a set of circumstances.
We believe that if they are going to make a true choice, then they should have all of the information they need to make an informed choice. We gave them that information. Esperanza arrived at the clinic at 9:00 am. It was now 12:00 pm. We were at the Resurrection Hospital Emergency room and Esperanza had just been taken into an examination room. I waited in the waiting room with her brother.
The time ticked by. Slowly. I prayed. I hoped I had not given Esperanza false hope. I prayed that she would be able to accept the fact that her baby was dead. I prayed that her baby was alive. I waited. I ate some Lorna Doones and had some coffee. I prayed and waited some more. At three o’clock, her girlfriend came out to tell me that they were just then taking her down the hall for her ultrasound. She told me it would be another forty-five minutes. I got out my rosary. I waited. Had I done the right thing? Had I helped save a babies life? Or had I sent a woman into a depression, convinced that her baby had died because of her past sins. God help me, I didn’t know. I only knew that I had done the only thing my conscience would allow. I had fought for that baby’s life.
At four o’clock, Esperanza and her girlfriend came into the waiting room, waving a piece of paper. They handed the paper to me and I saw that it was an ultrasound image of a perfectly healthy, 21 day old baby…and it’s heart, I was told, was beating! 
I tell this story, because it provokes some very important questions. Questions like, “Is abortion truly a “service” for women as it claims, or is it something more sinister?
As Catholics, we know that it is wrong from a moral standpoint, but surely, even the secular world would have to admit that this “doctor” behaved unethically. Is the five-hundred dollar profit he makes off of an abortion really worth sending a perfectly healthy woman to abort a perfectly healthy baby that she desperately wants?
Is this an anomaly, or is this business as usual? And most frightening of all; Did this happen because the woman was a minority?
Consider this: Since 1973, abortion has reduced the black population by 25%. While 13% of women are black, they account for 35% of the abortions performed in this country.
The abortion ratio for black women (503 per 1,00 live births) was 3.0 times the ratio to white women. (167 per 1,000 live births) while the ratio for women of other races (329 per 1,000 live births) was 2.0 times the ratio to white women. (CDC Surveillance Summaries, Nov. 28, 2003)
I leave you with this quote, taken from the San Diego Union. It is made by Dr. Edward Allred, owner of 33 abortion clinics here in the United States. At 500 dollars per abortion, and 50 or more abortions a day at 33 different clinics…well, you do the math.
“Population control is too important to be stopped by some right wing pro-life types. Take the new influx of Hispanic immigrants. Their lack of respect for democracy and social order is frightening. I hope I can do something to stem that tide;I’d set up a clinic in Mexico for free if I could…when a sullen black woman of 17 or 18 can decide to have a baby and become a burden to all of us, it’s time to stop.”
I couldn’t agree more Mr. Allred. It is indeed, time to stop.



Thank God you were there for her MK. I’m glad the baby was alive! I hate it when people bash side-walk counslers. Some women seeking abortions really need to talk to someone. Had MK not been there, this girl may have aborted.
That’s a touching story, MK :)
Again I ask, Al Sharpton do you need directions to Edward Allred’s clinic?
A stethoscope? Are you serious? That makes me so sad that he took advantage of her that way. It is sometimes hard to get a heartbeat with just a doppler. I can’t imagine a doctor making a diagnosis like that without using all of the technology available to him.
I’m glad you were there, MK. And I’m glad she chose to keep her little one.
A stethoscope? Are you serious? That makes me so sad that he took advantage of her that way. It is sometimes hard to get a heartbeat with just a doppler. I can’t imagine a doctor making a diagnosis like that without using all of the technology available to him.
I’m glad you were there, MK. And I’m glad she chose to keep her little one.
A stethoscope? Are you serious? That makes me so sad that he took advantage of her that way. It is sometimes hard to get a heartbeat with just a doppler. I can’t imagine a doctor making a diagnosis like that without using all of the technology available to him.
I’m glad you were there, MK. And I’m glad she chose to keep her little one.
A stethoscope? Are you serious? That makes me so sad that he took advantage of her that way. It is sometimes hard to get a heartbeat with just a doppler. I can’t imagine a doctor making a diagnosis like that without using all of the technology available to him.
I’m glad you were there, MK. And I’m glad she chose to keep her little one.
I just heard this irony on Relevant Radio…
A girl of fourteen (as we know) can have an abortion without her parents permission.
But consider this. If something should go wrong physically and that girl needs medical attention?
Her parents will be responsible for her medical bill.
hmmmm….
mk
This is the most touching story, MK, and I know that woman has to appreciate what you did so much.
These kind of women are everywhere, needing support and love and getting the wrong answers…answers that just do not help them in the long run. We just have to be there to support and help the ones we can.
That is ironic, by the way, what you said about the parents being responsible for the after care of an abortion they were not even aware of, and were legally kept from knowing about! How twisted this system is.
MK-
Wouldn’t she need parent permission for any medical attention anyway? For example, if something were to go wrong and she did need medical assistance wouldn’t she need parents to get that assistance? I am really torn up with how I feel about underage individual being allowed to get abortions without parent consent. I can really see both sides.
Also MK- I will do the math…. 50 abortions a day, at 33 clinics. That would be 1650 a day, 11,550 a week, 346,000 a month, 4,158,000 a year and 41,580,000 in ten years… Where are we going to put all these people? When our foster care system is already overflowing? I’m not saying that abortion is the solution to population control by any means. I understand that people should be more responsible etc. But I also realize that some people are going to be irresponsible. I think we need to work on educating about safe sex. I know I never learned it in school, not that I can remember. It’s a good thing I wasn’t having sex in high school or perhaps I could be one of those scared little girls. I was first educated, really on the subject in college.
MK- I forgot to mention that its great you were able to be there for this women. I bet she was glad to have you.
Bethany- I would think it was a pretty messed up system if this system tried to tell me what I could or could not do to my body.
Jana,
You have to wonder, after everything that we have shown on this site about the abortion industry, whether or not safe sex is really something places like PP want to be learned. After all, abortion accounts for most of their business (my article on Thursday will show this)and if nobody’s “safe sex” methods failed, they would lose a lot of money.
Remember how vacuum cleaners and refrigerators used to last for 25 or 30 years, and now they last for 10? That’s so you have to buy new ones more often. We live in a disposable society, and we make things using cheaper materials and poorer construction nowadays to ensure a demand for new products.
I read somewhere that hand lotion actually causes dry skin so you have to buy and use more of it.
Isn’t it possible that the abortion industry is using the same tactics. Promote sex, which leads to unwanted pregnancies, charge for abortions, promote this as an easy fix so that you can turn around and have more sex.
It’s a multibillion dollar industry. Why would you think they would operate above board. Follow the $$$$$….always.
And speaking of a disposable society, isn’t it possible that babies are the most disposable products of all? Equatable to paper plates?
Think about it.
And NO, I CAN’T cite any sources. I was just thinking…
mk
Jana,
Also as far as nobody telling you what you can do with your body?
If this country wasn’t in such a disastrous moral decay, nobody would have to tell you that you couldn’t have an abortion. You just wouldn’t want one. No one would.
It’s the fact that we no longer have consciences that lead to these kinds of choices.
It’s the same lack of conscience that lead to the choice to kill 33 innocent people yesterday in Virginia.
Once you believe it’s okay for mothers to kill their own children, there’s really nowhere lower to go…
While Virginia was disturbing, it is nowhere near as disturbing to me as the thought of 45 million mothers killing their own children with the help of their doctors. Now that is sick.
mk
MK, need I point out that abortions have been going on for millenia? It isn’t as though Roe v Wade suddenly invented the idea. Saying that ‘the moral decay’ of America made abortion the new fad is simply incorrect. It isn’t a lack of conscious that makes abortion a choice: it’s the fact that sometimes, pregnancy is an incredibly undesireable afteraffect of sex. It always has been; it always will be.
Less,
Pregnancy has not always been an incredibly undesirable aftereffect of sex. It has always been considered a blessing.
Murder, theft, lying and illicit sex have been going on for millenia also, but they were wrong then, and they are wrong now. Just as abortion was wrong then and just as abortion is wrong now.
As I have said before, and I’ll say again, that just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
You are correct, it isn’t a lack of consious. It is rather a lack of conscience. Big difference.
And if you don’t want incredibly undesirable aftereffects, then I suggest you don’t do the very thing that will bring them on.
Why can’t you see, that your bad choice to have sex without being willing to commit to the consequences of sex is the moment that you make your “Choice”.
Doing a bad thing, and using that bad thing as an excuse to do a worse thing is insane.
I have sex, even tho I am too selfish and too immature to handle what happens when you have sex, so instead of stopping this behavior I punish the person that I myself created in order to get away with and continue to have more sex…
You honestly think that that sounds logical.
I’m going to steal that man’s coat and when he complains I’m gonna kick him and if he complains that I kicked him I’m gonna tell him it’s his fault for complaining…the big baby…all I did after all was steal his coat. I wanted it, it felt good, so I did it.
Just plain nuts. And the fact that you can’t see it makes me wonder about your ability to make any good judgment calls.
Seriously girl, that thinking is messed up.
(I DID NOT say that YOU are messed up. I said that thinking was!)
MK
MK, ask the half of all American women who have unwanted pregnancies if they consider those pregnancies a blessing. In Biblical times when a women could get stoned to death if she was pregnant outside of wedlock, was pregnancy a blessing then? Ask the thirteen year old girl who gets pregnant because of a rape if her pregnancy is a blessing. Just because you think that pregnancy is a blessing doesn
MK-
you’re thing about PP is very shocking.. I have been going to them for over two years, because I was a college student and I am now a recent grad, I can not afford to go to a clinic for my physical. I remember my first appointment, where I was going purely for my physical alone, they did my physical and asked me if I wanted to start using birth control. I said no. She asked me if I was sure and if I was sexually active. I said I not sexually active. Then she asked me if I was going to sexually active anytime soon. When I said no she said, Well make sure to come back when that happens. When my boyfriend and I decided to become sexually active I went back and they gave me prescription. To be honest I don’t think the PP I go to perform abortions, however I am going to call them tomorrow and ask. I will let you know what they say. My point is, why would PP give me birth control, at a lower cost because i am poor, if they were trying to get me pregnant so I’ll get an abortion?
Teaching about abstinence does not work…. http://www.boston.com/news/nation/washington/articles/2007/04/13/study_abstinence_classes_dont_stop_sex/
Jana,
Because BC fails. And every time you have what you think is safe sex, you up the odds that your BC will fail and you will have an unwanted pregnancy, then voila, an abortion.
They have to make you think that sex as often and with as many people as you like is perfectly fine.
To hell with the diseases. To hell with the pregnancies. To hell with the destruction of your dignity.
Have more sex. Feel safe. And when our birth control fails don’t worry because $$$$$ we’ll solve your problem with an abortion!,/i>
mk
I have heard that Planned P-hood prescribes low doses of BC pills on purpose. I do not have any facts to back this up. Anyone know for sure?
Less,
If you hate your uterus so much, and if you hate the fact that it makes you feel like a lesser person because it proves that you are a woman, and you think of pregnancy as a disease akin to smallpox, then why don’t you have the damn thing removed.
Then you can have all the monogamous sex with your committed husband that you want and NEVER have to worry about pregnancy again…
Better yet, have your self neutered. Then you won’t be a man or a woman. You can mark “other” in the box that asks what sex you are.
You’ll never ever ever have to be burdened with this horrible, terrible disgusting thing called being a woman!
mk
MK, it isn
I agree MK. How many more answers do they want? Pregnancy is not an illness. It is a blessing. I’m sure you could find an OBGYN to do a tubal or a hysterectomy.
Having an abortion does not equal being a woman either. It shows total lack of assuming responsibility for yourself.
How is knowing that you can’t care for your pregnant self, let alone a child, lack of responsbility? You might think pregnancy is a blessing, that’s great, I’m sure all your kids will be wanted. I do not want to be pregnant, thus I use contraception: no pregnancy that resulted despite such obvious measures to prevent it could possibly be a blessing. A pregnancy from a rape is highly unlikely to be a blessing.
I am saying that it is your responsibility to care for your body. There are so many women that lack respect for themselves and have numerous sex partners. Most of them don’t even think of pregnancy until UH OH…it happens.Then we’re off to the abortion clinic.We’re usually back again down the road.These days it’s rare to come across a woman that believes in ab., who’s only had 1. Women treating their bodies as sperm receptacles.This is the way I see it.
I have great respect for my body, and care for myself responsibly. I know my body could not support a pregnancy, and likely my mental health would collapse in the process. I respect that, take every measure to not get pregnant, and have educated myself in order to make a decision should the worst happen.
I would like to change the subject back to a subject that was mentioned earlier. ( I sound like a lawyer don’t I )
I have a question about minors having an abortion without parental consent. What situation would the girl have to be in to not get parental consent? The only situation I can come up with is abuse. That the girl is in danger of being physically or mentally harmed by her parents if she tells them she is pregnant.
huh?
okay – so if this is the case then you take a girl who is obviously in some sort of abusive home and help her cover up her “crime”. Then send her back to the abusive home.
If we are so concerned about her home life, why do we send her back?
What am I missing here. What other reason could possibly be given as to why parental consent would not have to be given?
Since the pro-choice crowd is always so concerned with rape and incest, why aren’t they concerned with this? The potential to abuse this law can be overwhelming. Talk about letting a pediphile cover up his crime. Considering the majority of girls sexually abused know their abuser it would be very easy for this to happen.
BTW – I have a daughter so this is very important to me.
Valerie,I’d like to know the same.If abuse of a minor is concealed,then aren’t we returning that minor to the abusive atmosphere? Aren’t we protecting the predators?
Actually, Valerie, not all states allow abortions to be preformed on minors without parental permission. In most cases, you can get a court injunction: usually, this requires proof of abuse and will involve the CPS.
Less –
So where does she go after the abortion? Is there any counseling done before or after the abortion? And if there is proof of abuse, why would the CPS be more concerned that she abort then getting her out of the house?
It just doesn’t make sense to me.
Valerie, MK posted a link exposing Planned Parenthood and phone calls from minors seeking abortions. {These calls were recorded] I’m not sure where it went,but the PP person answering the phone instructs the minor to do all but tell the truth about her situation. Where is Dateline NBC when you need them.
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