Pro-life vid of day: Transsexual felt like “monster;” euthanized
by LauraLoo
As reported by the Telegraph:
Nathan, born Nancy, Verhelst, 44, was given legal euthanasia, most likely by lethal injection, on the grounds of “unbearable psychological suffering” on Monday afternoon.
Wim Distelmans, a cancer specialist who carried out the euthanasia, is the same doctor who late last year gave lethal injections to congenitally deaf twins who were frightened they were also going blind.
“I was the girl that nobody wanted,” Mr Verhelst told Het Laatste Nieuws newspaper in the hours before her death.
“While my brothers were celebrated, I got a storage room above the garage as a bedroom. ‘If only you had been a boy’, my mother complained. I was tolerated, nothing more.”
TVOOST captured Mr. Verhelst’s final moments and broadcast them in Belgium:
Nathan/Nancy’s euthanization has led to his friend’s desire to also be euthanized. How incredibly sad.
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Suicide can behave like a contagion, one suicide can influence others to commit suicide. Any idea expressed can influence others but suicide is particular influential it seems, a loss of hope is a loss of one’s very soul. It’s very sad indeed.
The pain of her mother’s rejection led her to surgery and ultimately death. My heart aches.
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Such a tragic story. :( How has the world come to this?
Wow. What she needed was truth and love. Instead, what she got was a sex change operation and a needle. And those that did this to her would say that they were being accepting and supportive and non-judgmental. Another dead in the name of being “progressive.”
Dr. G. Nadal (shout out to the good doc!!) recently wrote an excellent article on the subject of body dysmorphia. I couldn’t top it, but don’t have the link handy.
This woman’s doctors failed her, the “surgeon” who committed the mutilation upon her body at her request exploited a mentally ill person for money, and the “doctor” who killed her committed murder for pay. Abominable.
My mother was angry at me for being a boy, fui can relate to her feelings. You grow up feeling if I were just different, if I were born better, then maybe my mother would love me. But I really wish her parents hadn’t won, her living a happy life would have been the antidote to their sickness. This has upset me more than I can say.
While it may be sad, it’s the individual who has the right to determine when he or she wants to exit life, and not God. If someone believes that God is in charge of people’s lives, then so be it. However, for others to disallow another who doesn’t believe that, they are infringing.
So, Merit, if a high school senior is depressed, you don’t think thoughts of suicide are a problem? Do you want to young people to “have the right” to kill themselves? Really? Back in my day, suicidal intentions were a sign that something was wrong. Depression is still treatable, but people like Merit, do they think treatment is “oppression”?
OK, 9ek, let me qualify my statement with, so long as the person is of sound mind and body. The point is someone denying another the right to go when that person wants to go is infringing. If someone doesn’t believe in God, then why should that person have to abide by the believer in God’s dogma?
Merit, do you suppose that a desire to die might arouse suspicion that the person is not of sound mind? They are looking through the window of their eyes and experience and they see nothing worth living for. Is that true? Is it verifiable? Can we ask whether their emotions are perhaps clouded?
It’s not merely belief in God that would compel someone to desire life in spite of difficult and painful circumstances - many who believe in God still struggle with their existence in our day-to-day.
Hmmmmm…. Had someone enduring psychological suffering ended their lives without aid from a doctor, it would likely be deemed an “avoidable”, “tragic”, “unnessecary” death that should have been solved with therapy, love and possibly medications. So WHY, when a doctor helps them out, is it unavoidable and in the person’s best interest? Stories like this are not sending messages of hope out to those contemplating suicide, instead, it’s feeding the sick idea that death is the only option.
“While it may be sad, it’s the individual who has the right to determine when he or she wants to exit life, and not God. If someone believes that God is in charge of people’s lives, then so be it. However, for others to disallow another who doesn’t believe that, they are infringing.”
Do you honestly believe that the only reason that someone would be opposed to suicide is because they are religious? No one even mentioned God in the comments before your’s.
Do you believe that depression is an illness or not? Would you agree that suicidal ideation is usually a sign that something is not right with your brain, health-wise?
I actually do agree, practically, that an individual is the one who chooses whether they want to live or die. Any one of us could go attempt suicide right now, nothing can really stop you if you want to be dead that badly. But understanding that sad fact is a far cry from condoning it as a society and just giving up on unloved people who never learned that life was worth living even if your parents don’t like you.
Seriously, is that the social message that we want to be sending? “You’re totally right, depressed person! Your life IS worthless and no one wants you to stay alive. Your mother was right about you, you should have been the other gender, no one loves you as this one! Let’s help you along and we’ll take care of your pesky life, your existence won’t bother anyone else.”
I can see where people are coming from with supporting assisted suicide for terminally ill people, I don’t really have a firm opinion on it but I can see the issues there. What I don’t get is those who seem to think we should set our society up so those who feel hopeless can easily leave the world rather than try different things to see if they help. Whatever happened to *health*care for those with mental illnesses?
Here Merit, read this one about Nathan’s “mother’s” (I can barely type that word) reaction (or lack thereof) to his death: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/belgium/10349159/Mother-of-sex-change-Belgian-I-dont-care-about-his-euthanasia-death.html You think someone raised by this “person” could have a good sense of their own self-worth. Do you have any idea at all what damage it does to be raised by someone who thinks of you like that? You really think that it’s a good idea to be like “meh” and let this person die because his mother destroyed any sense of self-acceptance he could have had? Good lord.
They are even talking about childhood euthanasia laws, as well as “mercy” killing the elderly with dementia in Belgium. Does that really sound like individual self-determination or more like social engineering?
Something about this whole thing just doesn’t quite ring true. I have learned to be highly skeptical of these types of situations that are aiming for the heartstrings. Let’s not forget they’re a favorite tactic of our opponents and we’ve seen numerous examples on this blog. All too the whole situation is considerably more complicated and we are not being told the whole story.
Someone has a sex change because they felt they were not loved? I’m not buying it. If this happened, then whoever “diagnosed” this person as transgender and ”counseled” this person to have a sex change was a total incompetent. If this surgeon operated on this woman without extensive counseling and psychological testing, then he/she should be in prison.
This could well have always been and was at the time of her death, a severely troubled young woman who never got the help she desperately needed. Maybe giving her the sex change she thought she wanted and then killing a troubled young woman seemed easier than caring for this woman’s serious lifelong psychological issues. Sort of like the abortion mentality that exists today. Let’s look for what seems a quick and easy “solution”, all too often leaving so many lives devastated.
Also, I would be very interested in hearing her parents’ side of the story.
I’ve just read the article by the “mother” and I use the term loosely.
Also, I can certainly see why Nancy had psychological problems. However, I do not for an instant believe this drove her to change her sex and any good therapist would have seen this was a severely troubled young woman in need of help, not surgery.
This whole thing is sick, senseless and tragic.
Senseless and tragic. RIP, Nancy. So sorry people didn’t love you more.
Makes me really sick about her mom. I can only strive to be a more loving and caring mom after reading this.
Amazingly unfulfilled and fatalistic, the way our progressive society tells us to some problems. Talk about magical thinking.
I agree that this “mother” is the real monster. I once read about a Rottweiler named “Sheba” whose cruel master took her newborn puppies from her and buried them alive. Sheba broke her chain and dug her babies up! Unfortunately only a few survived, but this story goes to prove that animals sometimes behave better than humans!
Tragic indeed….first things first…idk if changing your gender is an answer to anything..i knew a man named Jimmy who had a sex change and now goes by Crissy. I havent seen her in 20 years. Crissy told me that post op she didnt have sex because there was no sensation..NONE! She also had severe emphysema.
Also as a lifer of suffering with depression I again state that suicide is complex…I have had ideations as well as attempts. Its hard for people to understand that its not something you can just snap out of. If I didnt believe the act might send me to hell I assure you I would have been dead a long time ago!
This is tragic
Some good videos are on you tube…Life Beyond The Grave hosted by the 700 club. I proceeded to watch a few of the videos about people who had died and gone to the afterlife. Some say they saw heaven and others saw hell. One was a depressed woman who shot herself in the chest…claims she visited hell. Another was an athiest who had been stung by 3 jellyfish …he also claimed he visited hell..both were saved and gave their lives to Christ.
And last id say that I have no idea what its like to want to be a male or why a male would want to be a female. Ive always liked being a female…but I look at Chaz Bono and I never see any happiness. I can read a persons face….Chaz packing on the pounds again…or whatever. I know Cher defends him…of course she would but although Chaz looks like a man…honey youre still a woman! Im sorry but Chaz just always looks miserable to me.
Just like Ive spoken of Jimmy/Crissy…shes still a male although 20 years ago she was older than me…sadly id venture to say that due to her lung disease and the severity of it years ago…she has probably passed away by now. Once your sex organs are removed or mutilated there is no going back.
@ Jack going to bed but red an article today that said Youre not depressed…youre selfish! I couldnt believe that jack a** would write such an article. Just wanted your input on THAT one. Oh well..hello all and g nite all.;)
Jack…amen to everything you said.
Also, did anyone catch this in the article?
“A survey released on Wednesday has added to debate after finding that three quarters of Belgians support the euthanasia of children with incurable diseases, even without their consent.”
This is where the culture of death leads. Sickening.
Is this that article you were talking about, Heather?
http://www.tomahaiku.com/youre-not-depressed-youre-selfish/
Those people can just… I don’t know, I wouldn’t wish severe depression on anyone, but I would love it if they could temporarily feel what it’s like. Maybe that would stop these idiots that encourage people not to seek mental health assistance, if they knew what it was like.
Yes CT I caught that, that’s what disturbs me a lot. It’s not like it’s a crazy fringe, it’s like, all of Belgium is apparently okay with killing kids because their parents say so. My mom would be proud of them!
People really disgust me sometimes.
That person who wrote that article is all screwed up, Heather, if I had to make a wild guess I would say that maybe he had a parent or loved one who had/has depression, and is taking his frustrations out (because it is difficult to deal with someone suffering from mental illness of any type, including depression) and blaming them for their disease. But he’s completely wrong. He says that negative thoughts cause chemical imbalances when it’s actually a combination, and pre-existing clinical depression can make it hard to break out of that negative feedback loop. He doesn’t get, or care, that telling people they are just selfish and if they try hard enough they can just magically be positive is actually playing into the person self-loathing. Disgusting. I remember having suicidal thoughts as early as age nine or ten. I wrote a suicide note to my parents when I was like twelve, though I didn’t follow through on it (I didn’t actually attempt until I was 19). It’s not selfishness, and you can’t just will yourself out of it. Cognitive behavioral therapy can help, but sometimes medications are necessary to correct these imbalances because it really truly is a disease, just like diabetes or any other problem where an organ isn’t functioning correctly. Ignorant, self-righteous people who don’t understand this just make it worse.
Pretending to be solving problems by killing people is lazy, dumb, and cruel. Seriously scary thinking.
Gonna die? Kill! Feel sad? Kill! Whatever you do, don’t suffer in front of me! It’s such a bummer.
What a sad, sad story. What a mean mother.
Sending good thoughts your way, Jack and Heather!
Good grief (sarcasm alert) that is what we really need for depressed people. More death and destruction at the hands of so-called “physicians” (an oncologist who is supposed to be saving lives of people dying from cancer celebrating death by offing people). Does that sound familiar? Like OBs turned abortionist who destroy unborn or just born babies instead of delivering them alive or saving their lives if they are in fetal distress. THIS IS SO SICK ON SO MANY LEVELS!!! I am so sorry for this woman and the abuse she suffered at the hands of her mother that lead to her pain, her mutilating her body and ultimately her death. She needed help.
I can’t stop thinking about this poor person. I wonder if things would have been different if Nathan had had his own children? I am like the last person that would think that having children “fixes” things, but when it comes to parents who abused you and unfairly blamed you for things that you had no control over, your kids can sometimes help you see things clearly. Like, I never wanted a son. When my wife was pregnant with our first child I hoped that we were having a girl, I was terrified that I would be a horrible parent to a son but I thought I could handle a girl. But when he was born (after a few weeks of utter terror on my part), I started to see the person he was, regardless of his gender, was who he was supposed to be and I accepted him fully, like my mother should have. There isn’t anything wrong with little boys or girls even if their parents are disappointed in their gender. And my daughter had terrible colic like I did as an infant, which my mother always told me made her hate me all the more, but I can now see how ridiculous my mom is. How could I hate my poor little baby just because her tummy hurt and she couldn’t stop crying? My mom’s just insane.
And being a good parent feels like righting the wrongs you were done to you. When your two-year-old smiles and jumps into your arms because you’re her daddy/mommy and her favorite person in the world you start to realize that YOU deserved that dad and mom too, when you were little. When your son’s first thought when he gets hurt or does something naughty is to come to you, because he knows you are safe and will help him make it right, you start to realize how really awful it was that your mom would have beaten you or called you names, or your dad would have taken advantage of your love to do awful things. You couldn’t blame your kids EVER if someone hurt them or treated them badly for just being themselves and being children, so why do you blame yourself? I wish Nathan could have seen that. I wish he had a daughter, or a niece, or someone ANYONE to show him that being born a female wasn’t bad or disappointing, that there are plenty of people who would be ecstatic to love him and have him around, whether he remained identified as a girl or he proceeded with transitioning, he still deserved love and acceptance. It just breaks my heart that he never felt healing and that he never thought anything good about himself. And now he’s dead, because his country thought that the way to deal with him was to let him officially off himself. It’s just so utterly tragic, I can’t stand it.
Look past the external…It is what is inside of us that matters. I had a close friend who had mental/emotional issues. He found out his wife and a close friend had been cheating on him over the course of a year; a lot of the time at his house. He responded by behaving wrecklessly. Severe drug abuse and he got in a wreck riding his motorcycle wheelies around curves at 60mph etc. I took a couple weeks off work and flew out to be with him. I found out several months later that he was getting even worse and I invited him from out of town to get him away from his emotional/mental problems (drugs and his a wife). He actually went through a month of rehab but a year later he died by jumping off a cliff and trying to land in a hot tub and missed. What a waste.
Thank you for trying to help your friend, truth. A lot of people abandon their family members and friends to addiction (though, in many cases it’s for their own mental and physical health, if someone is hurting you, you shouldn’t have to keep allowing them to do it). I’m sorry he wasn’t able to overcome his addictions and pain.
Thank you Jack for caring.
I too am sorry to hear about your friend truth. How tragic.
Jack you are so empathetic to others pain, I am not at all happy those terrible things happened to you but it has made you the person you are so full of empathy for those who have suffered abuse. No child ever deserves to be treated the way you and Nancy/Nathan were treated. I don’t know how anyone could treat a child with such cruelty.
Your love for your children makes me think how much my husband loves our children and would do absolutely anything for them (sometimes he goes overboard and tries to over-compensate) for not having a dad. Our kids are grown up now but the first few Christmases and birthdays he tried to buy out the store and we really got into it, they had so much stuff they ignored half of it and did not appreciate it. I think 3 different train sets is definitely too much for one child for Christmas LOL. We had a long, heated talk which didn’t change his mind too much but then he began to pray and think about how he was trying to over-compensate for not having a dad and growing up so poor with a single mom and then he began to gradually back off. However he did not spoil them when it came to lying, cheating, disrespect, etc.. You probably don’t over-compensate with your children Jack. They need the balance of love and limits to appreciate things. Actually our children enjoyed it better when they had 2 or 3 things they really wanted for Christmas and birthdays rather than when he overdid it, they appreciated them more, played with them longer and took better care of their gifts.
Thank you Jack for your excellent and compassionate commentaries.
This post is so tragic. When will parents realize that if you don’t get the gender you wanted, IT’S NOT THE CHILD’S FAULT.
LL
Yes jack that was the article and indeed he did have depressed family around him. I also wouldnt wish depression on anyone. Ever stare at a wall for 5 hours? I have. I didnt have an unhappy childhood at all so whats my excuse? It just is. And yes I take meds to cope. Many people think I shouldnt. Oh well. They help me.
Ts…very sorry about that friend of yours. The only suicide victim I knew killed himself in 96 …shot himself in the head. I would hope that God would show mercy and not cast an already tormented soul to hell…however scripture says we cannot repent of self murder. I dont want to inflict any type of pain here because my girlfriend ( had 3 kids with the guy ) believes hes in heaven. And for all I know he might be and I hope he is!..,, how will we know until we get to the other side?
Jack,
I love your 12;37 post.
TRUTH!! I was rejected by both of my parents. And now I get the privilege of doing things differently!! I get to change the legacy! I will do all I can to make sure my children know that they are loved and accepted no matter what!
Go hug those sweet little people Jack. I will hug mine too.
Also we seem to have these “doctors” who are so eager to kill people…I was an oncology nurse and those doctors were dedicated to doing all they could to save livea…lets give them their own special catergory and call them murderers!
I mentioned that I have tried to kill myself and almost suceeded. That’s probably the worst legacy a parent can leave for a child. This gives them “permission” to commit suicide, and many do. The late Christopher Hitchens’ mother committed suicide when he was quite young. I wonder if this terrible event was instrumental in shaping his views on religion.
“merit” is under the impression that we impede someone’s right to exit this life. What? I am so infuriated that these pro-aborts don’t realize that the issue is the oxymoron of assisted suicide. That is the problem here.
Euthenasia is equivalent to murder.
Jack wins the internet today.
Yes and to add numerous people turn to drugs when they are depressed…my husband did as well as several friends of mine. They wish to escape reality. Sad because of the stigma surrounding it. Ive heard cruel remarks that drug addicts are lost causes and worthless. I wanted to help my husband to the bitter end..sickness and health….others just gave up on him. He died fighting his demons.
The last Dem i agree!
And it may sound strange when pro lifers talk of suicide but this is the hands of cards weve been dealt. We dont want other human beings to die because we are suffering.
We’ve been “softened” up by mercy-killing our pets, but humans are different. Maybe we can even debate pet euthanasia but this is obviously a website for humans :>).
Wanting to end your life is the very definition of NOT being of sound mind. Can we understand the emotions? Absolutely. Should humans act out their impulses based on emotion? Absolutely not. We need better pain management, and better care for depression and mental illness.
But i dont believe transgendering will make you happy. POOF…youre cured. I remember as a child sometimes crying for hours in my room when nobody was home. I had every baby doll . I was an acomplished equestrian….Never went hungry…hugged my daddy every time he came home from work. Just sayinf that changing your gender doesnt make you a different person.
And by all means do hug the ones you love today and forgive often. Id trade a 70 billion$ lottory ticket for one more day on earth to say goodbye to my husband. Its almost been 7 months and I still cant believe hes gone forever….our 3 year old picked up the phone and said he wanted to call daddy. I fell apart.
What people are really struggling with is consciousness.
Our brains develop as we grow, and we perceive our sentience. However, we are not drivers of vehicles. We did not hop into our bodies at a later stage of development than conception. Our central nervous system develops in the womb but also during our teens and adult years. I repeat: We are not drivers in body vessels. That is a cute sci-fi concept. That is easy to imagine because of our highly developed consciousness. But that is a lie. We are not separate from our bodies.
Religiously, I might make a case for the development of consciousness that is so highly evolved that it may (can? will?) survive the death of the body. However, that still does NOT make us drivers of a vehicle. The conscious schism between mind and body is one spot where the lesion of ‘I was born in the wrong body’ can take hold. The availability of plastic surgery does not suddenly render illness into health. Look at the disastrous results. Body dysmorphia cannot be cured by surgery. Depression cannot be cured by death.
Hi heather I am so sorry for your loss and pray healing will come eventually. There is no magic bullet to get over grief, it is a slow process. Drugs and alcohol don’t make the pain go away they mask it and create their own demons and a whole new set of problems. Just wondering I think I asked you a while back do you have griefshare (griefshare.org) or another grief support group in your community?
I agree also The Last Democrat, Jack wins the internet today. Great post.
Right 9ek….Chaz Bono had her breasts removed as well as her reproductive organs. I dont believe any amount of counseling can prepare someone for a sex change.. suddenly youre a man! In my mind it doesnt work that way. Id love to see Chaz happy but I dont believe the sex change has done this. I believe hes still with the same woman as he has been for years. Cher I believe is full of guilt from her own multiple abortions….took things too far when Romney was running for prez saying she couldnt imagine breathing the same air as him. She later issued an apology to her Romney supporting fans claiming she had gone overboard with her statement.
Ty prolifer Laura. My level of grief has only gotten worse…ive been told this happens. How do you say goodbye to your best friend? My everything. Our son suffers emotional outbursts. I think I need a grief support group.
Sorry pro lifer L
My son has abandonment issues….where is my daddy? Over and over again.
Give him the truth Heather and teach him to cope with death.
His father didn’t abandon him.
And please find a grief support group so both of you can walk through your grief together.
My 22 year old daughter has stage 3 ovarian cancer. She had ALL leukemia as a kid. She keeps me going because shes a trooper….she said ” mom why are you so sad? Your husband is in paradise.
Carla im trying. He doesnt understand death. Hes been taken to the cemetery and he just doesnt get it. My husband and his son ( died in June ) are buried together. Nikki is on top of Brad both in matching blue caskets. Nikki died at 31 from stomach and esophogeal cancer.
I tell him daddy got sick and died. Hes in heaven. Still I get “when is my dad coming back?” I say Jacob he cant.
Ty to prax too for the well wishes.
Omg omg breaking news Martin Ruddocks abortion clinic is CLOSED! Praise God….the man i have argued with for 2 years!!!!! Amen!
I asked my husband to give me a sign today that he is watching over me….This IS IT!!!!
I’m really glad that place is shut down, Heather, here’s hoping it stays shut down and he never opens another one.
And thanks all. And Prolifer L I do overcompensate with my kids lol, not with money and things but I am not exactly a “tough” disciplinarian. My son told me once “I don’t ever get in trouble you just talk to me” haha. I am getting better with it though (mostly because my daughter is a way tougher kid than my son is), but I still don’t agree with spanking and I won’t ever do that.
I asked my husband to give me a sign today that he is watching over me
He’s not gone forever, Heather! He’s just on a different page of the book right now then we are. We will get to his chapter soon enough and until then we just need to keep loving and supporting each other until then. And keep living the prolife way! Good news about the shutdown!
I hope you find a group soon and that you and your son make some great new friends there. I bet your little guy is cute!
Heather I am praying for you and your family. I have heard that there is a griefshare for kids in some communities, it is a faith-based support group with time to share. So glad to hear the abortuary is closed down Heather. Yay!!!!!
Jack at least you are trying to not overcompensate and getting better. Kids are so smart they know when they should be disciplined and they can handle it. (LOL what your son said, he sounds really smart). We did not do a lot of spanking at our house and not everyone should spank especially if they suffered abuse as children. I think it would be hard to draw the line.
I know there are other ways to get children’s attention and I think that is to be applauded. I don’t agree with the “all spanking is child abuse” Oprah philosophy. We limited it to defiant behavior. I just encourage you to set simple rules for your household, explain consequences, (something commensurate with the infraction), follow through and now the hardest part BE CONSISTENT. Think of discipline as not something you do “to your child” but something you do “for your child”. I had to pray for wisdom and creative ways to get the attention of my strong-willed child. I hope you don’t have one of those Jack, they are a handful. When I was at my wits end I usually carted him off to his dad before I killed him. For those who have a strong-willed child I liked the book Aaron’s Way by Kendra Smiley and her strong-willed child Aaron (who is now an adult). She has stories in there about him that would make your hair curl, then he tells his side of the story which is a stitch LOL.
Heather may your husband’s soul rest in the arms of Jesus, AMEN. Loss is terribly hard. *HUGS* I will add you all in my prayers. I recently entered grief counseling because I had a really good friend of mine die this year. I recommend finding something like that to help you with everything. God gives us these tools because He above anyone knows how hard it is. Jesus endured the Cross so that He could share in our sorrows and take on our guilt to open up Heaven. I know that’s not always the most comforting thing (especially on the worst days) but my faith (and my family and friends) have been what’s kept me from darkness. Like I said, I will pray for you. I hope your son finds comfort. To quote the Bible, “May the Lord bless you and keep you. May He make His face shine upon you and grant you peace.”
Jack–I agree–great post on 10/15/2013 at 12:37. And even if you do have wonderful parents (like I do) you still find out through being a parent that often times you’re capable of way more love than you thought you were. It’s not always easy, but life isn’t always easy.
People think we should be allowed to do whatever we want without consequences. (“My truth isn’t your truth” mentality–without accounting for OBJECTIVE truth) but this relativism is taking us further and further down a slippery dark slop. Sometimes finding true happiness is going through the dark tunnels and having faith there’s a light at the end of it. It’s not easy–it truly isn’t, but if we don’t hold onto hope, then all we have is despair, and what good does that do us?
Hi Heather
My thoughts and best wishes are with you. So much that you are going through.
Hi Jack,
As always thoughtful and insightful posts.
To Everyone,
What amazes me is how we look to the Europeans as such bastions of insight, enlightenment, tolerance, forward thinking, and brilliance. Oh, the Europeans do this, they think that. They… they don’t like us, oh boo hoo. Yeah, the same bunch that gave us Hitler, Stalin, Mussolini, and Franco. The same bunch that gave us two world wars. The same collection who would be speaking German if it wasn’t for people like my father and countless thousands of other American soldiers. These are the people we look to as some sort of inspiration on how to run health care, society, and government? That look down their noses at us?
Does this tragedy surprise me? No. Its exactly what I expect from this collection and I’m thankful my ancestors left when they did.
Ty for the kind words all. It means so much. I always mean to thank you and I become absent minded sometimes. Grief and depression can become a very dark place to be.
I just wonder why all of these bad things keep happening. My daughter has cancer yet has a strong faith. Its not her first rodeo with cancer…I wish at age 44 I could just take it from her. I tell her that I would gladly take her place….her reply is ” oh no mom you dont want cancer….its awful!” My daughter always tells me if I dont make it I will be chillin with Jesus. Despite her treatments shes living life.
Everyone will experience loss in life. Its just MY turn right now I guess.
Heather,
Your daughter sounds amazing! What an incredible accomplishment for you as a mother to have raised such a woman of faith. Good for you! And I get you wanting to take it from her and wanting her not to suffer. As loving mothers, we tend to be protective. Our babies suffer (no matter how old or young they are) we suffer. It’s true of my mom and all her babies are adults living on their own (most with families of their own,too) yet anytime we have problems, she seems to suffer right along with us. It’s the whole want the absolute best and happiness for our kids. Unfortunately, in a fallen world, we can’t protect from everything. I think the fact your daughter has so much faith is an opportunity to rejoice, that in the face of such a hardship she’s clinging to what will give her strength and courage. As mom, it’s probably hard to keep that faith up about it, but it seems as always, we learn from our children. Sounds like she’s teaching you a lot.
Loss is so hard. It just is. I am keeping you and your family in prayer. God bless and HUGS!