I’ve often said the British press is far more honest and open about abortion than the American press. Here’s another example. A reader wrote this question to doctors at The Times Online, May 2:

I had an abortion recently, and though my boyfriend and I agreed it was the right thing to do, I feel guilty and I’ve gone off sex. Will these feelings pass?

An excerpt from the response, which is worth reading in its entirety:
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Lack of interest in sex after an abortion is so common that it can almost be said to be expected. Before long your libido is likely to have returned, but both you and your partner have to bear in mind that even now having an abortion is a huge event in anyone’s life. It is possible, but by no means inevitable, that the changes this will have wrought in the way you feel about a future together may have irretrievably undermined your relationship. If this happens, neither of you should assume blame or feel guilty….

Years of experience with patients have reinforced the teaching I received in my early medical life that even the most ardent affair may not survive an abortion, although both partners often remain good friends. Frequently, there has been too much emotion around, even if there have been no spoken recriminations. The shadow of the decision to have the termination, and any doubts one or other may have had about this deep down in their psyche, means that sooner or later they will be tempted to start again with, as if it were, a clean slate.

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