My virginity was something I’d decided was very precious, to give away.
It was an honor I was bestowing on a young man and he had to be worthy of it.
~ Friends actress Lisa Kudrow, who remained a virgin until her marriage (at the age of 31) to husband Michael Stern in 1995, as quoted by FoxNews, April 4
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good for you girl!!!!
Lisa was always my favorite “friend” by far!
Well, good for her! It’s ironic because “sex” was the central theme of the show. That turned me off from watching it on a regular basis.
Wow!!!! You go girl!!!!!!
mama3:
You mean Phoebe, surely? :)))
Wow, I didn’t know that. My respect for her just skyrocketed (not that it was abysmal before or anything).
I agree – I wish people knew this before – and how wonderful that she is speaking about this at all. In the Hollywood arena – this is big. and beautiful, of course.
She lived the right thing – God’s gift of sexuality is so big, so beautiful, so important that she saved that gift to give away under the right circumstances. Truly a lovely thing.
;) YAY.
It is really a sign of our times that this is considered a quote of the day
I’m 80 and have watched our society crumble because of a dearth of self respect and respect for others. I think that if everyone followed Lisa’s example this planned parenthood vs pro-life debate would never have happened. People would do what most of us used to do-meet,fall in love, get married and THEN have sex. It didn’t occur to us to murder our children before or after their lives were viable. Thanks to a high profile figure for sending out a healthy message.
HURRAY for Lisa.~ We rarely see this in Hollywood. Hope she is still married.
Our Pastor is preaching on this. (through Proverbs). Almighty God makes the intimate sexual act so much better when we celebrate and follow His ways. (design for marriage ONLY.)
Good for her doing that!
Wait, I thought no one waited? Oh, thats right, it was just another lie from PP and the feminists.
I’m glad she’s happy with the choices she has made.
Just as I’m glad other people are happy they have made different choices. That’s the great thing about human freedom, people can decide what works for them and act accordingly.
too bad she chose to make money by being a poor role model.
Unfortunately Hal, many people are NOT happy with the choices they have made. I have yet to meet anyone who regrets waiting until marriage, but I have met many people who regret having sex before marriage. Many young people could benefit from role models like Ms Kudrow rather than her character Phoebe when making decisions.
Yes – and if the choices include the intentional harming or the ending of another human’s life – then those choices are morally destructive in all sorts of levels. It’s not the same choice as having vanilla or chocolate ice cream.
Also – thank goodness of God’s Mercy – since some of us regret choices we made in our youth – and that with repentance, right intent and God’s good graces we can choose to live a better kind of life.
Lisa certainly avoided lots of pitfalls by choosing wisely with deciding that the gifts of her sexuality and virginity were to be given to a worthy man, her husband.
Life can be a great teacher – and our greatest sins can teach us plenty. But being on and staying on the right road is a lot easier with the path of righteousness, which is the path that that Lisa took.
Joy, I agree with you.
I don’t know who said it, but I like it -
“If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.”
Meaning – Be of sound moral character and you’ll be able to avoid many of life’s pitfalls.
Hey, you know what works for me? Taking your car. Oh, pshaw, so you paid for it, big deal. Well I want it now and it’s leaving with me. It’s my choice, after all, and if it’s my choice I get to do what I want and act accordingly. Anyone who calls the police for theft or murder is a big hypocrite. Right, Hal?
I don’t compare stealing a car with consenting adults deciding to have some sexual activity. Sorry if that wasn’t clear Ninek.
I don’t doubt that there are some people who regret being sexually active before marriage, but I am certain there are many who don’t. Someone should do a poll. Many of us had very positive relationships that included a sexual component before we settled down and got married. Like I said before, I’m not saying it’s right for everyone. Everyone has to make their own decisions. The risk of such freedom, is that perhaps you’ll make some mistakes along the way.
Wow! That’s amazing terrific. I bet she didn’t worry about STD’s, HIV, or anything like that either.
Unfortunately Hal, many people are NOT happy with the choices they have made. I have yet to meet anyone who regrets waiting until marriage, but I have met many people who regret having sex before marriage.
You do see a good bit of sentiment that “people are waiting too long to have kids,” but I didn’t get married until I was 41; no regrets.
Doug: That’s because you’re a guy and you have another few decades in which to feasibly father a child. If you were a forty-one-year-old woman who was trying hard to conceive without success, you might have a different attitude.
On the subject of the post, seeing as Lisa Kudrow isn’t under any obligation to tell anyone anything about her sexual history, I think it’s great that she’s decided to be a public example of the fact that it’s possible to be a virgin until you get married and not be some sort of stereotypical loser or sex-phobe. Having sex is serious business. Who wants to recall the first time they had sex and then be inevitably reminded of the fact that the person they lost their virginity to turned out to be a huge jerk or a different person than they thought or just generally not the person you’d share that experience with if you could do it over again?
I agree with what Valerie said: “Too bad she chose to make money being a poor role model”. Bingo.
Evidently, when you make over a million bucks per episode you’re allowed to compromise your morals.
That series should have been named “Blithering Bimbo’s and Boyfriends”.
Whatever we think of ‘Friends’ – and the morals promoted in it – this is still very encouraging. I hope many young girls will consider that virginity IS a gift and that the young man they give it to IS worthy. It’s all about self-respect.
That was her decision. If someone else made a different decision, that was theirs.
Those who obsess with the consenting sexual decisions of adults need to enroll in therapy.
Hi Larry.
“Those who obsess with the consenting sexual decisions…”
Why is consent the sole criteria for the good?
“Those who obsess with the consenting sexual decisions of adults need to enroll in therapy.”
Many who later regret their sex-before-marriage decisions made those consenting decisions before they were adults.
Was Michael Stern also a virgin?
Also, when should married people have sex? When they both want to? When one of them wants to?
How far should each partner go to please the other?
Denise: If he doesn’t want to tell us, it’s none of our business.
I’m with angi in that this is encouraging whatever we think of Friends. (I pride myself in never having seen a whole episode of it. I thought the clips and snippets I did see were annoying and not particularly funny.) There’s not much point in accusing Lisa Kudrow of being a hypocrite. She did what she did then and she’s doing what she’s doing now and we should encourage the positive.
Though she’s known especially as a comedic actress, her family and social history reveals a family of fairly serious people (father and brother for example are physicians specializing in understanding and treatment of headaches and general neurology respectively) and her great-grandmother was a victim of the Holocaust. These factors may have influenced her, growing up, to take a more thoughtful, considered approach to life than many of her generation. Anyway, kudos to Kudrow!
Looks like a case of do as I say not as I do. I say that because many who defend people’s “right” to do things they themselves wouldn’t do, also promote really bad behavior that others naively believe won’t hurt them. it is like a drug dealer who never touches the stuff.
“Those who obsess with the consenting sexual decisions of adults need to enroll in therapy.”
Who is “obsessing’ over this? Jill merely mentioned it. Most of us, including myself, have better things to worry about than who is sleeping (or not sleeping) with whom.
BTW, never watched that dumb show, or “Sex In the City,” or any of that stuff. It just didn’t interest me. At all.
My daughter and her boyfriend are waiting and I think that’s great — no worries about STI’s, unplanned pregnancies, etc.